Sowerby Sports Village, courtesy of Hambleton District Council, is leading the way with its wildlife areas

Early days when just created

I think most of us are all well aware by now of the importance of setting aside land for wildlife, or at least, including wildlife in our own plans for the garden, with a special nod to bees.  Hambleton District Council developed land for recreational purposes  in 2016 as part of the Sowerby Gateway masterplan. Consequently,  not only does the Sports Village play host to several football teams at once, there is a cycling and running track, with a mountain biking pathway running alongside and…

So importantly in this day and age, this forward thinking council decided on planting not just for humans, but for wildlife. Therefore along one edge of this sports and recreational area  are posts with birdhouses.                .       

and throughout the village there are trees galore, hedges, and  so so importantly wild plants and grasses carefully planted along the periphery. These are left to flourish  until the autumn, then cut back, to return  bigger and better the following year.

As I walked along the mountain bike trail, all I could hear were birds and bees, but no cottonwood trees! The  hawthorn, dog roses and other hedging shrubs were fit and  healthy and the wild flowers had bloomed in abundance.   Frost Magazine applauds this careful use of land which balances the mown grass required by the middle section for  the team sports, with the needs of the wildlife. And let’s face it, for our wellbeing too.

 

 

Mountain bike trail guarded by wild flowers, daisies and cow parsley.

The wild flowers  are numerous, including cow parsley, comfrey, dog roses, herb-robert, oxe-eye daisies. I saw campion, vetch, a multitude of grasses, clumps of clover, purple and white, and poppies, of course. Much like some babies, the wild areas were a bit bald in their first year, but now, here  they are, strong, determined.

                                     

They say patience is a virtue and never more so with gardening, even wildlife gardening. The hum of the bees along the track,  alternates with the cheers of the spectators as the school teams battle away.  Much like our wildlife  has to battle these days. For them, though, it is a battle for their very existence as more and more  land is taken for development.

So what can be done? I note that many councils are turning mown verges into wildflower areas – hooray. I have already shown how Hambleton District Council have created an oasis of enlightenment and common sense at the Sports Village, so onto us, as individuals. Let’s face it, even if we are restricted to pots on a balcony, we can, each, still  grow plants with bees, butterflies and wildlife in mind.

 Remember that bees are crucial to our existence, so preferably no pesticides, create ground level holes in fences –  if possible – so that hedgehogs can travel through.  Bees need pollen and nectar. They love cowslips, herbs, plus campion, comfrey which can be grown at the back of a bed,  nepeta, honeysuckle, herbs, lavender, digitalis, pussy willow, hawthorn,  forget-me-not and on and on. Buddleia is such a useful shrub, beloved of bees and butterflies alike, and so easy to grow. But listen, you can find out more from the internet or library.

Ah, don’t forget bees also need water. Make sure the birdbath is kept replenished.

We all know of, or have experienced  some organisations,  housing developments and indeed people, who are lagging behind in their understanding of the need to create a balance between human and wildlife needs. In a new development I visited, I was therfore delighted to find that many residents are growing bee and wildlife friendly plants in their gardens. Frost Magazine was invited to ‘come in, have a look’, and here are some  images.

Sage, rosemary and Old English roses.   Nepeta, poppies, roses.                                      Honeysuckle.

Most had birdbaths, bird feeders,and forget-me-nots in spring, along with the usual bulbs. Honeysuckle, nepeta, Old English Roses, digitalis, buddleia, lavender and herbs all flourished. The  murmur of bees, and the flight of the butterflies, not to mention birds at the feeders was a sight and sound to behold, even in the smallest garden.

                                                  

Frost Magazine sounds a huge hooray for  Hambleton District Council and the owners of the gardens we visited, and would give them a medal, (if there was such a one) for their thoughtful and balanced  designs, and would urge our readers to consider nature in their own planting schemes. There is not a moment to lose. And let’s have more verges, and set aside spaces for wild flowers, shrubs. It’s not too much to ask, I feel for the world our children are growing up into.

 

ARRAN Sense Of Scotland -A Very Special Treat – by Award Winning Author Dr Kathleen Thompson

Imagine the wind on your face, waves splashing over your bare feet on the sand, the gush of waterfalls cascading down heather-covered mountains, or the smell of meadow flowers as you walk through long wet grass. There’s something so special about raw nature isn’t there? It calms the spirit and raises our happiness levels just by being. So how fabulous that ARRAN Sense Of Scotland’s mission is to transport this into our homes?

Based on the beautiful and unspoilt Isle of Arran, Scotland, its senior management appreciate the physical and emotional healing powers of nature and are passionate about bottling it. They have created a range of luxurious products – for bath, body and hair plus fragrances for yourself and for the home.

Now imagine you’re returning from a walk in the rain. You can smell the wet rose petals, musk and floral citrus of the cottage garden and the woody aroma of the logs piled ready for the open fire inside. Put that experience in a bottle and you have ARRAN Sense Of Scotland’s new range After The Rain. I was delighted to test the shampoo and conditioner and it really was a pleasure. The subtle woody fragrance takes you to the wilds of Scotland and both the shampoo and conditioner were gentle and nourishing. My hair was very smooth afterwards, even while still wet. In fact I keep stroking it as I write because it feels so soft and silky, and I can still smell that haunting fragrance. Just £16 each for a very generous 300 ml bottle is extremely reasonable for such a beautifully presented top quality gift and for the same price you can also buy a matching shower gel.

ARRAN Sense Of Scotland boast that their products contain highest quality ingredients and the hair and skin products have moisture-retaining pro-vitamin B5 (pantheon) to maximise shiny hair and soft skin – and you really do feel the benefit.

If you need a lovely gift for someone special – ARRAN Sense Of Scotland have a fabulous and diverse choice, including the most beautiful large candles, all available in After the Rain and attractively presented and wrapped with signature tissue and ribbon. You get a free hand cream with orders over £40, so you can always keep this for yourself (after all, you deserve some luxury too).

Check out the ARRAN Sense Of Scotland website. Being outside in nature is so good for the soul, but if your busy life won’t let you get away, this is an enjoyable way to give yourself a reset.

By Dr K Thompson, award-winning author of From Both Ends of the Stethoscope: Getting through breast cancer – by a doctor who knows

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Alex Bannard’s Mindfulness Series: Week 10: Thoughts are just thoughts – with a fabulous medition, FREE as always.

Frot Magazine is so grateful to Alex Bannard for her Mindfulnes series and delighted that when time permits she will be joining us for a Menopause Series and probably Yoga too.

When I first started practicing mindfulness & meditation it was in a very self-led, self-taught fashion. When we moved to Bangkok I was blessed to meet a wonderful French woman, Violaine, who is a practicing Buddhist & taught meditation.

It was a fantastic experience. I relished our time together & learnt so much. One day we were talking about the concept that thoughts are just thoughts, they aren’t necessarily fact & they don’t define us.

I found this to be immensely liberating because for years I had been plagued by way too many unhelpful, unhealthy & unpleasant thoughts. Finally, I felt free – they were just thoughts, not real & they didn’t define me, hurrah! What a relief!

Mindfulness encourages us to take on the role of the observer to our thoughts instead of getting swept away in the narrative & down the rabbit hole with a train of thought before we even know it, a bit like Alice down the rabbit hole.

Becoming more aware & paying attention to what we are thinking, how we are feeling & behaving we can start to question the truth in thoughts that pop up. After all, most of us wouldn’t entertain the thought that we are a multi-coloured flying elephant dancing around in a glittery tutu, the thought is ridiculous enough for us to discount.

But many of us will happily indulge the I’m not good enough, I can’t do this, it’s not fair, I’m unlovable, I’m useless dialogue that arises in our mind without questioning it. But they are just thoughts. They aren’t fact. Mindfulness gives us the space & time to question such thoughts.

Our mind often catastrophizes a situation – a bad day becoming a bad life when it is in fact just a bad day, which is a perfectly normal & acceptable part of life. Mindfulness helps to remind ourselves that pain is a normal part of life, suffering is optional.

Both approaches are simply a choice, choosing to recognize unhelpful, unhealthy thoughts & then choosing not to accept them as fact. But it’s a practice too – being mindfully aware of these kind of thoughts & not acting on them but recognizing them as just thoughts.

Meditation helps us to gain this distance from our thoughts by observing the nature of our mind. Even people who have been practicing meditation for a while will happily acknowledge that thoughts are always arising in our mind no matter how much meditation we do. We can’t stop our mind from thinking thoughts, it’s what our mind does but we can stop those thoughts from controlling us.

The thoughts aren’t going to stop but we can choose to change our relationship to them. Freedom isn’t not having thoughts, freedom is changing our relationship to them, seeing them as just thoughts & not reality. You may still get the thoughts but you no longer believe them because you know your reality is right here right now in the present moment, not in the string of thoughts. Over time as you question the validity of unhelpful thoughts they eventually quieten down – this is one of the beautiful benefits of meditation & mindfulness: that inner critical voice starts to quieten.

Let me demonstrate all this by sharing an experience. Last summer I was in the midst of the menopause & really struggling with extreme anxiety & panic attacks. Initially I had no idea that anxiety & panic attacks were linked to the menopause (when oestrogen levels drop it can spike adrenalin which can causes anxiety & panic attacks.) The first panic attack I experienced I thought I was having a heart attack & it was terrifying.

Once I understood what was going on I was able to use my mindfulness practice to help me. One day out on a dog walk I could feel another panic attack brewing. So I literally stopped & talked myself down saying things like: this is just anxiety it’s not real, this is just menopause, this isn’t real & eventually I calmed myself…  & have never had a panic attack since. It was as simple as acknowledging that no matter how terrifying the experience felt, it wasn’t real.

This idea that our thoughts are simply that – thoughts & they don’t define us was incredibly liberating for me & so it was easy to grasp as a concept.  But not for some people, who feel that they are intrinsically their thoughts. A useful analogy I find is the mirror: our thoughts are like our reflection in the mirror – what we see in the mirror isn’t us, it’s just our reflection, so it is with our thoughts.

Sometimes it is hard to settle our mind in meditation especially if we have a lot going on, our mind can feel really scattered (apparently we have more than 6,000 thoughts a day so it’s not surprising!). This week’s meditation is the letting go free-flow meditation. Allowing our mind to go wherever it wants to helps it to settle quicker than if we try to control it. To get your free copy of this meditation simply email Alex at Alex@alexbannard.com quoting FROSTFREE.

Alex is based on the edge of the stunning Cotswolds & has been sharing her love for all things yoga & mindfulness for almost a decade, not just in the UK but also around the world. Her mission is to help everyone discover a more mindful way of living & to encourage them to embrace regular self-care practices for a happier & healthier way of being.

If you would like more information on how to practice mindfulness, meditation & yoga message her at alex@alexbannard.com.

For free resources check out her Facebook group: Mindfulness & Yoga for Self-Care, here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/MindfulnessYoga4Relationships

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WELSH WRITING WEDNESDAYS: ALEXANDRA WALSH ON APPLYING MYTHS TO FICTION

Wales is a land rich in mythology and here Alexandra Walsh explains how she researched and applied some of it to her latest novel.

In The Wind Chime, my main character Amelia Prentice is sent on a quest by her dying mother, Joan. Requesting Amelia should tidy the attic of their family home before she made any decisions about selling it, Amelia discovers a box of Victorian photographs, with a hand-drawn family tree. The annotations on the back of the images names them as the Attwater family from Cliffside in Pembrokeshire.

Amelia has never heard this name before but she is intrigued by the family and is drawn to the youngest daughter, Osyth Attwater. When she discovers Osyth’s journal among her mother’s papers, she feels compelled to visit Cliffside and find out more.

The Mythology

At night, the Attwater family of old would gather on their veranda, listening to the wind chime and watching the sun set into the roaring ocean. They told each other stories and Osyth revelled in the tales her Uncle Noah wove around them, using them as a guide to her life.

In order to make to create Osyth’s interior life, I drew on tales far and wide. These included old fairy stories, local legends and Celtic mythology. At the beginning of the book, Osyth is in her late teens and is letting go of her childhood as she enters the adult world, yet she cannot fully abandon the magical world of her childhood. Throughout, I was aware the tales needed to fit in with Osyth’s story rather than distracting from it, so the fairies invited to join the party were chosen with great care.

Tylwyth Teg was the most important tale. This is the Welsh translation for the Fair Folk or Fairy Folk and their magical home can take a number of forms, from the underground land reached through the doorways of the Celtic stone circles or in mysterious green lands that can be glimpsed off the Welsh coast. Osyth is fascinated with Tylwyth Teg and it is from here she draws on other magical creatures who are her talismans and protectors as she discovers bitter family secrets.

It is during the celebrations of a family wedding, Osyth’s aunt, Hannah, tells the story of how the world of the Fair Folk was created. It is the tale of a woman who hid her children from Jesus when he visited her home as she was ashamed of her fecundity. However, when she searched for her family later, there was no sign of her children. She was told God had taken them as a punishment for hiding the gifts he had bestowed upon her. In the legend, these children were taken underground and became the ancestors of all the creatures in the Land of Tylwyth Teg.

While dressing for this wedding, Osyth references Gwenhwyfar, the fairy of the White Moon Shadows. This fairy dances through the world leaving tiny white flowers in her wake. White flowers became a theme throughout the story, including the name of her perfume, White Rose, from the perfumiers, Floris.

The most interesting creature I discovered was the gwrach-y-rhibyn, the witch of death from Welsh mythology. This terrifying creature with her red eyes, green-tinged skin and dark leathery wings, gathered the souls of the dead and would visit houses whenever a death was imminent. It calls to mind the Irish banshee, which considering the close proximity of the two coastlines is unsurprising.

I hope this small insight into the fairies and their world will make your reading of The Wind Chime – and Welsh mythology – more interesting.

 

Helen Hart of SilverWood Books has inspired us with her thoughts on ‘Sharing the Beauty of Your Memories’ 

 

 

 

Frost Magazine is delighted that Helen Hart of SilverWoodBooks has found the time to share her extraordinarily helpful insight into memoir writing. Over to you, Helen.

Writing your memoir can be a truly cathartic experience, where an author will give meaning to specific parts of their life.

Books are a fantastic tool for research and can help ensure that mistakes in history are not repeated. You might have some amazing experiences that need to be shared, and the lessons you’ve learned could help others who are new to similar roles. Your family might also be keen to hear more about your professional life. For many authors, a book is a fantastic legacy to leave your loved ones and the younger generation. So what are the options for writing your book if you need to protect the privacy of the people you’ve worked alongside?

We often speak to budding writers who are unable to share their past due to their past careers. When you’ve had a lengthy career in a sector like public service, you’re under the obligation to protect your colleagues and peers by keeping silent, even after you’ve left office. This can make writing your memoirs seem like an impossible task. However, we believe there are ways to bring your memoirs to life in an intriguing and unexpected way.

It is advised to focus on one or two main themes from your experiences, rather than listing your entire autobiography. Even if you are telling a true-to-life story, it pays to think like a fiction writer and draw the reader in from the opening word.

Sometimes the best stories can still be told after enough time has passed to protect those involved, as shown in the dramatic televised BBC series, The Serpent. So, it is possible for you to write your book or draft a series of journal entries to work with an editor, as long as you hold off on publishing your memoirs until the appropriate time. If the parties involved are still in the public eye, you may want to wait as much as ten years before telling your story.

Another way of protecting those who feature in your career experiences is to write your memoirs as a work of fiction. Johnny Tudor had personal experience of writing the biography of Welsh singer and performer, Dorothy Squires, the former wife of Roger Moore. From working on that book, he understood how personal memories can cause pain and suffering to the people involved. From his varied experiences, Johnny reached a point where he wanted to write his memoirs, but turned to fiction to free up his creativity. The setting of the book remains a true reflection of the Welsh valleys, however, he amalgamated his own experiences with those of his childhood friends, creating dynamic characters for his book, Peg’s Boys.

Fictionalizing your memoir gives you the room to develop more than one book, in which you can alter the timings of events and create even more vibrant characters. If you write a straightforward memoir, your book will appeal to homeland readers who are interested in your former career. However, if you write a gripping story with global appeal, your audience stands to become much wider, provided you put the time and effort into promoting your book. You can also use a pseudonym for your book, if you wish to remain completely anonymous, creating an author brand to promote and sell the books without revealing your identity.

Writing a memoir will leave you with a beautiful legacy for future generations. Everyone can become an author. Everyone has their own story to tell. Let your imagination flow and grab a pen.
Helen Hart of SilverWood Books https://www.silverwoodbooks.co.uk/

Pebble Gear review by Natalie Jayne Peeke West Country Correspondent

 


At the risk of sounding old fashioned, I often find that the toys and games I used to enjoy in my childhood are overlooked by my children, I used to have hours of fun with felt farms or a spirograph and I think the most hi tech toy I had was my beloved Furby.

These days children have tablets which have hundreds of games, videos, books and other popular apps like Netflix and YouTube.

I do err on the side of caution and had my son’s tablet set up in a child friendly mode; however this does not stop from him seeing adverts or being able to make in app purchases. He spends far to much time on his tablet playing Minecraft which has no academic aspect to it what so ever.

 

So you can imagine my excitement when I was contacted about a completely child friendly tablet,  with a bumper case to protect from the inevitable drops and a cute carry case.

Of course, I had to set it up, so was this to be a stumbling block. Not at all,  all I had to do was enter my email address and my WiFi password and I  I was able to limit the amount of time my daughter was able to play on the tablet.  I could also download some games and books for her which are without adverts. Everything that i could download was completely child friendly and there was no way she could see inappropriate content.

With the books, some have the audio option, which she enjoyed during a car trip. She was happy to listen and not look at the screen.

Another bonus is the icons and wallpapers; there are several different character options available when buying your pebble gear:Frozen 2, Cars, Toy Story or Mickey & Friends – which is what we received.

I wish I had known about these sooner as I would have bought one for my son for Christmas rather than the tablet that we did get him. I can not recommend them enough.

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New Parenting Book to Get Kids Talking

A new, illustrated, hardboard book has been launched to aid and develop children’s speech.  Published by Little Frog Media, DeeDee and DanDan’s Busy Day is an interactive reading book that has been written by parents of a late talking child.

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Following extensive research into how best to support and encourage their son’s vocabulary, Aneta and Mariusz Wojcik established that reading to their son Daniel was the ultimate way to help, but they still weren’t getting the results they were anticipating.

 

After speaking with a friend who studied English literature, they quickly understood that the problem wasn’t what they were reading but the frequency and how they were reading with their son.  The couple learnt that making a story interactive and engaging for a child assists vocabulary retention and they started tounderstand the importance of word repetition in different, yet similar, sentences.

 

They began to use these methods across a range of recommended books but never came across a publication that allowed them to deliver all they had learnt.  After seeing Daniel’s use of words grow through the techniques they were applying, Aneta and Mariusz decided to write their own book, which encompassed their learnings and knowledge to help other families.

 

Mariusz said: “Our eldest son was a bright two-year-old, but we knew his speech development was behind.  We understand that all children progress at different rates, but we were concerned and knew intervention was needed.  Mywife and I both studied mathematics, so we are natural investigators and wanted to absorb as much knowledge as possible to try to help our son.

 

“As we gained proof that our various techniques were working, we applied the formula and logic to every book we read with Daniel.  There was still a gap in the market though for a book which teaches parents all the elements they need to help aid their child’s speech development – so we decided to write one.

 

“The book gives you everything in one place, so you don’t need to think after a long day.  And with 38 pages and thousands of possibilities, no two reads are the same and the book grows with your child.  It also helps a child to build confidence and start actively asking questions. It is our hope that other families can now benefit from what we learned and, with the help of the book, can overcome any worries while supporting their own child’s speech development.”

‘I loved this book and so did my children. It is so well done and gets children interested. I cannot recommend it enough,’ Catherine Balavage, editor. 

Dee Dee and Dan Dan’s Busy day is priced at £9.99 and is available from Amazon and https://deedeeanddandan.co.uk/.

 

 

Surcare – Kind To Sensitive Skin – And Normal Skin Too – by Award Winning Author Dr Kathleen Thompson

 

We’ve all heard of eczema – where your skin becomes itchy, dry, cracked and sore. It’s usually triggered by skin irritants, or, it’s an allergic reaction, such as to pet fur. Sometimes just eating a certain food can cause your skin to react too.

It’s a very unpleasant condition and can cause absolute misery, and it seems to be getting more common. According to the National Eczema Association between 10-13% of Americans have eczema. The British Skin Foundation tells us that one in five children in UK are affected by eczema at some time. Even more people complain of sensitive skin. Quite shocking really, but why is it becoming so rife?

It is almost certainly multifactorial, but not all causes are beyond our control. Although we usually think about what we apply directly to our skin – moisturisers, shower gel and such, we may forget that residues of laundry products on clothes and sheets are in close contact with our skin 24/7.

So it’s important to choose laundry products carefully, and to hunt out companies like Surcare, who have done much research to create skin-kind products. Surcare’s product development expert, Claire Lancaster explains:

‘Everybody is different and everybody’s skin is different – which is why pinpointing specific ingredients that could be irritating the skin can be a bit of a minefield.

‘We’ve spent years researching how the skin reacts to certain things – including ingredients that are commonly used in laundry products, which can affect sensitive skin when clothing and fabrics come into contact with your body.

‘Many washing detergents and softeners will contain fragrances, dyes, acids and enzymes which can easily irritate sensitive skin. In fact, fragrances can be one of the biggest triggers of flare ups.’

Consequently Surcare products are gentle for everyone, and particularly for those with sensitive skin or eczema – their complete range has the Allergy UK Seal of Approval.

You may worry that products for sensitive skin don’t clean effectively. After all, it’s good to have healthy skin, but if it means our clothes remain smelly, people may not get close enough to notice. I’ve used Surcare for a while now – both the Laundry Liquid, Capsules and Fabric Conditioner and my clothes come out clean, but without a strong artificial fragrance. Remember these added fragrances serve no good purpose and can be a serious trigger for eczema and other skin reactions.

Surcare also have a nice Washing Up Liquid – important as hands can easily become dry, sore and cracked with frequent exposure to irritants in some dish-washing products.

The Surcare range can be found in Sainsburys, Tesco, Morrisons, Waitrose and Coop – checkout the Surcare website for more information.

By Dr K Thompson, award-winning author of From Both Ends of the Stethoscope: Getting through breast cancer – by a doctor who knows

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