My Local Temple Time by Alex Bannard Bangkok Correspondent

A bicycle ride to a local temple provides the perfect respite from modern day annoyances for Alex.

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I have a friend who is a practicing Buddhist. It has helped her through some traumatic times and she shares the benefits, techniques and insights of shamatha with me and a few others in a weekly meditation class. I love it. I find the style of meditation too prescriptive sometimes, but to spend 2 hours every week consciously coming back to oneself, focusing on the breathe, the senses or emotions before allowing the mind some freedom to just be is simply liberating. I have yet to encounter one of those life changing insights and feel a long way from enlightenment but I really believe in the therapeutic benefits of meditation and mindfulness. 

 

When we first met we agreed we would head off on our bikes to explore a local temple. Of course life takes over and the months went by and then suddenly opportunity presented itself and off we headed. We came out of our Moobaan and snuck through a little entrance, carrying our bikes along a mud path scattered with litter alongside an algae and no doubt mosquito-infested swamp with wooden and corrugated iron roofed shacks perched on its banks. I knew this was going to be fun.

 

 You see living as we do in a gated community alongside other Farang and the more affluent of Thai society with housekeeper and driver assisting to our daily needs it is easy to forget the real side of Thailand. As we cycled along the path alongside the stinking Klong (canal) you cannot escape it. And I love that. It makes life here so much more real. Because for the vast majority in Thailand life is dirty, gritty and hard. Many people even in Bangkok live in small wooden huts some on stilts others alongside main roads, under over-passes, alongside the waterways. You cannot escape their lives as you pass: 3 generations hunched over noodle soup on wooden stools having their lunch with the TV blaring. 

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In other homes, women swing in their hammocks and nod or cheerfully say ‘Sawadee’ with bare-footed children scampering at their feet. Because that’s the other thing, the Thais are extremely friendly and very non judgemental. They are fascinated, especially the kids, to see 2 Farang on their bikes, teetering along the narrow path alongside the Klong. Seeing the waterway underneath swimming with plastic bottles and other rubbish it crossed my mind that we are only months away from what is being forecast as the wettest rainy season in decades. How many of these homes resting so precariously close to the water’s edge would be washed away in the floods? It is ironic, that the country is in the depths of drought and on the back of the hottest summer for years, and this monsoon season people’s livesare likely to be destroyed by the water they so badly desire.

 


As we came off the path and cycled along the back streets, the houses became more substantial, some were concrete rather than wood. There were even cars parked outside some and gardens. And it is obvious the pride people have in their homes keeping despite the poverty. We cycled through a Muslim area and passed the school which was based in the mosque. We cycled further along the Klong, carrying our bikes up the steps and over the bridges until we came to the temple complex.

 

Thai temples are ornate and spectacular and this was no exception. We walked clockwise around the complex – three times – bringing good luck. We ventured into the Ordination Hall where seven monks were leading some kind of devotion whilst worshippers ate their lunch, sitting on the floor feet tucked away from the saffron robed monks.

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One of the monks approached us to say hello and tell us about a 3 day festival celebrating the re-gilding of the Buddha. He escorted us outside to see the actually Buddha which would be restored to its golden glory and then took us to the back corner of the complex where women were preparing food, eating and also loading wood into the kiln to keep a sauna going which the monks and nuns use daily.

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It was fascinating: the monk’s openness and willingness to share insights into their daily lives and rituals; seeing the nuns in their white robes and shaved heads which previously I hadn’t seen; and being privy to the real sense of community within the temple’s complex. It was such a serene and calm place that my previous slightly frustrated mood evaporated eased. It was the kind of serenity and soul the popular tourist temples somehow fail to deliver. But then without a sea of selfie sticks and hoards of noisy tourists it is no wonder really. 

 

We cycled home mostly through the back streets hoping the threatened downpour would evade us at least until we were close by. We emerged on a different approach to our moonbaan perhaps reflective of the different approach we would be embracing during the afternoon: one of gratitude, serenity and inner calm as so often a journey off the beaten track induces.

Lily Allen Makes A Comeback And We Love It

While Lily Allen’s new music video Hard Out Here has drawn some criticism I love it. It is cheeky and it has drawn debate. It starts of with Lily having liposuction while her manager and the surgeons wonder how ‘anyone can let themselves get like these’. ‘I’ve had two babies’, she responds.
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Lily had to deny claims the video was racist and said she just hired the best dancers.

She said the video, “has nothing to do with race, at all, is meant to be a lighthearted satirical video that deals with objectification of women within modern pop culture … The message is clear.”

She also said said she didn’t request “specific ethnicities” for her dancers; simply hiring the “the best dancers” from the auditions. “I would not only be surprised but deeply saddened if I thought anyone came away from that video feeling taken advantage of, or compromised in any way,” Allen’s “insecurities” stopped her twerking alongside them in her underwear “I actually rehearsed for two weeks trying to perfect my twerk, but failed miserably,” she said. “if I was a little braver, I would have been wearing a bikini too, but I do not and I have chronic cellulite, which nobody wants to see.”

All of Allen’s dancers – Seliza Sebastian, Melissa Freire, Shala EuroAsia, Monique Lawrence, and Temple – stood by Lily and the video, posting links to it and retweeting Allen’s remarks. “Critics will be critics,” Men have been exploiting women in the stereotype Lily sends up in her video for decades. Is she not aloud to point it out because she is of another race?

She also send up Robin Thicke and his rapey ‘Blurred Lines’ video by replacing the ‘Robin Thicke has a big d**k” (more like is) scene with “Lily Allen Has a Baggy Pussy”. It’s rude but amusing.

Lily Allen has gotten a lot of stick, and numerous people are pointing out that her comeback after four years away from music coincides with her vintage store she had with her sister, Lucy in Disguise, going broke, but we need more Lily Allen’s. Not because she is perfect- she sings about women being objectified but has posed topless for GQ– but because she has an opinion, isn’t afraid to share it and proudly calls herself a feminist- something that not all celebrities are brave enough to do. She may not be everyone’s idea of a role model but it is sexist that every women in the public eye has her every move questioned, and is always supposed to be a role model. Men are never held up to the same lofty heights. We need more of her because Lily Allen is a happily married mother-of-two. She works hard and goes for what she wants. Some people call her mouthy but that is only because she is a women, if she was a man she would just have an opinion. Go Lily, we love you.

What do you think?