Beat the January Blues With Top Tips From Inhere Meditation Concept

As we enter day 17 of dry January, our New Year’s resolutions are starting to wobble and still 13 days until payday, it’s no wonder that by day 21, we are all but ready to give up. Monday 21st January is officially named Blue Monday and has been recognised as one of the most depressing days of the year.

However, there are ways to combat this and co-founders of Inhere (London’s most innovative meditation concept), Adiba Osmani and Ghazal Abrishamchi, have identified a number of foods to alleviate depression and stress as well as a simple, yet effective meditation session to see you through the January Blues.

  • Are there any simple meditation techniques people (even beginners) can use to relieve stress in 2019?
    • As we enter a new year with so many aspirations and resolutions to make this year bigger and better than the previous, even the slightest down fall can cause emotions to run high and our thoughts might just get ahead of us. Practice taking a few minutes each day to gather the attention on the breath, breathing deeply from the belly…and then a few minutes to just observe whatever thoughts or emotions there are, being completely accepting of them. Doing this every day even for a few minutes keeps us grounded, in the moment, helps to rein in the incessant pull of thoughts and emotions that may seem too much to handle sometimes.
  • Are there any particular foods we can eat to ensure we remain calm and in good mental health?
    • Stress is a complex mental health issue, and multiple factors are involved in its development and maintenance, recent evidence suggests that habitual diet plays an important and independent role in the development of this condition. The relationship between mood and our diet is bidirectional: when we eat good food, we feel good, and when we feel good, we are more likely to want to take care of our bodies by feeding it nutritious food. The opposite is also true… when we eat “junk food” we feel sluggish and down, and when feel down, we are less likely to snack on vegetables!
      • There are many studies showing there’s a strong link between a balanced diet and relaxation. For example:
  • Deficiency in certain nutrients such as vitamin D, folate, vitamins B6 and B12, calcium, magnesium and omega-3 fatty acids, are associated with increased risk of depression and feeling stressed.
  • Supplements with calcium, magnesium, and B vitamins have been shown to reduce perceived stress, and has positive effects on mood
  • Omega-3 a fatty acids, tryptophan, and some carbohydrates have been shown to improve mod, reduce stress and cortisol – which is a biomarker of stress
  • Here is a list of foods that make up a balanced diet that can promote good mental health:
  • oily fish-good source of omega-3 fatty acids
  • lean meat- good source of B 12 and B6
  • dairy-good source of calcium, B12 – cheese in particular
  • eggs-good source of tryptophan, B12
  • nuts and seeds and legumes- good source of tryptophan, B6, magnesium
  • green leafy vegetables-good source of magnesium and folate
  • wholegrains- good source of complex carbohydrates, magnesium
  • fermented foods such as yogurt, kimchi, kamboucha – promote the growth of healthy gut bacteria
  • A simple meditation concept
    • Research has shown that regularly practicing compassion meditation not only helps us relate more to others, it also boost our positive feelings of joy and connectedness. Take a couple of minutes to consider yourself and wish yourself well, perhaps saying “May I be well, May I be happy, May I make progress”. then take a couple of minutes to do the same for someone you care for. Then take someone you may know only in passing. And finally, extend this wish for the world…you can do this as part of a step by step guide to meditation:
      • Start small: Setting aside even 5 minutes a day is a great starting point. Write it down in your calendar.
      • Sit up:  you can sit on the floor or on a chair in a comfortable position – keep your back straight so that you don’t fall asleep and the breath flows easily.
      • Breathe: feel your breath as it moves in and out: just follow its rhythm and notice how it feels as it flows through the body.
      • Observe: observe the thoughts that pass through your mind, the sensations that arise in your body, and the emotions that surface (impatience is a common one!). Become the “silent witness”, letting it all come and go, without getting caught up too long any one thought, feeling or sensation.
      • Bring it back: Your mind will wander. This is normal, just notice your mind has wandered, and bring your awareness back to the present experience.
      • Don’t interfere: Don’t try to stop or ignore any thought that rises in your mind, your task is only to become aware of them.
      • Don’t judge: all of our thoughts, feelings and sensations are valid; when meditating, we watch, we don’t judge.
      • Be patient: When you notice an impulse to get up and do something else, be patient, trust that things will unfold in their own time and just stay with your breath.
      • Commit: Try it every day for a week to see how you feel after. As with any practice, it takes a few sessions for it all to make sense.
      • If all fails, relax: If you find it’s not for you, try just breathing deeply in and out of the belly for a few minutes at a time, every day. This triggers the well-documented “relaxation response” in the body, so your stress levels drop as a matter of course.

 

INTRODUCING SISTER SCRIBES: KIRSTEN HESKETH

The second Sister Scribe I have pleasure in introducing is Kirsten Hesketh. Actually, she’s done a fab job of introducing herself… except she’s failed to mention that she’s kind, generous, funny and super-bright… and two glasses of sherry and a limoncello generally put her under the table.

 

Hello!

My name is Kirsten Hesketh and I am a novelist living in beautiful Henley-on-Thames. I am absolutely delighted to be part of Sister Scribes and I’m very excited to see how the project unfolds over the next weeks and months.

In fact, between you and me, I’m also feeling a twinge of Imposter Syndrome as I am the only one amongst our number who has yet to be published. Shhh … maybe they haven’t realised! Seriously, though, I hope my dispatches from the querying trenches will be interesting and entertaining: after all, isn’t it as much about the journey as the destination?

Anyway, a little about me.

My debut novel, Another Us, is the – hopefully! – poignant and funny story of a marriage at breaking point. Emma and Daniel’s son Jack has been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome and Emma is horrified to discover that 80% of such marriages fall apart. I am neuro-typical – if there is such a thing! – but one of my children was diagnosed with mild Asperger Syndrome when he was ten. My book starts pretty close to where we were as a family at that time (with an extra child added in for good measure) but quickly moves into ‘what if?’ territory – exploring the impact of the diagnosis on the family and the marriage.

I wrote the book in fits and starts, slotting it around my day job as a marketing consultant. I made every writing mistake possible – trying to get it right before getting it written (painstakingly polishing passages that didn’t even make the final cut) and sending it out to agents as soon as I’d finished the first draft. I don’t think it really had a plot. Let alone a narrative arc!

About this time, I joined Twitter and started to discover that fellow writers really are the most generous and lovely bunch. Twitter led me to the Romantic Novelists’ Association (RNA) New Writers’ Scheme, which in turn led me to the RNA conference.  The RNA conference led me to delightfully raucous kitchen parties, sore head … and the other Sister Scribes. And along the way, I have met some truly inspirational women writers and poets and I am very excited to be introducing some of them to you in due course …

Once I had worked out what Another Us was really about. I redrafted and polished it and I started pitching to agents again. That was nerve-wracking, but once I’d received the first couple of rejections, I started to enjoy the process. I was lucky enough to have a little flurry of interest and I chose to sign with Felicity Trew from the Caroline Sheldon Literary Agency who, interestingly, I had heard speak at the RNA conference. Felicity is advocate, enabler, co-conspirator and therapist all in one and I can’t wait to find out what happens next.

I’m now working on my second novel – affectionately titled Muddy Milly – which is set on an archaeological dig and is about a woman facing up to traumas in her past. My hubbie and I are heavily involved in a Roman dig near where we live in the Chilterns and I absolutely love it – the excitement, the camaraderie, the gentle exercise, the beautiful woodland. I’m really looking forward to March when the season starts again …

I’m a proud member of Reading Writers and am currently their treasurer and I’m still a member of the RNS New Writers’ Scheme. I am very much looking forward to the conference in the summer (although my liver is not).

I’m very much looking forward to meeting you all over the coming weeks and months.

Kirsten xx

 

Follow Kirsten on Twitter @Kirsten_Hesketh

Circa – a play by Tom Ratcliffe 

Old Red Lion Theatre, 418 St John Street, London EC1V 4NJ Tuesday 5th – Saturday 30th March 2019

Image courtesy of Chris Mann

 

Most people get to be happy with one person. I don’t see why I should have it any different.

 

Circa explores the blurred identity of the gay relationship in the modern age. Following the story of one man’s romantic life, we are taken through the different relationships and encounters he experiences over a period of thirty years. Joining him through the joys and pitfalls of trying to find love and fulfilment as a gay man.

 

The twenty-first century. Being gay is supposedly more integrated than ever. Marriage is legal, parenthood is possible and #LoveWins is trending on twitter. The time has arrived to settle down with the man you love for a life of lasting companionship. But in a world where sex is readily available, and with a history of sexual freedom; what does it mean to be in a gay relationship in the modern age? And why are so many gay men still lonely?

After premiering at the Theatre de Meervaart, Amsterdam in 2016, work.Theatre return with Tom Ratcliffe’s debut play in a co-production with Harlow Playhouse.

 

Circa tackles a range of issues head on in an increasingly deep and fascinating exploration – yes, of what it means to be a gay person, but more widely, what it means to be human. I’m pleased there are no set-in-stone answers provided in this most thoughtful debut play from Tom Ratcliffe. As audiences shout at concerts and gigs after a band has done a good job, “More! More!” (LondonTheatre 1).

 

Writer Tom Ratcliffe comments, I can’t wait to be bringing Circa back this year for a longer run in London and then to Harlow. The play has become even more topical over the past two years and loneliness amongst the gay community is something that needs to be spoken about.  I think there’s something for everyone to take away from this play as the striving for contentment in romantic relationships is universal.  The play has developed over the past two years and it’s something I cannot wait to share with everyone.

 

Performance Dates  Tuesday 5th – Saturday 30th March 2019   Tuesday – Saturday, 7.30pm    Saturday and Sunday matinee, 3pm

 

Running time   2 hours including interval

 

Age Recommendation  13+

 

Location   Old Red Lion Theatre, 418 John Street, London EC1V 4NJ

 

Box Office Tickets are available priced from £12 Call 0333 012 4963 or book online at: www.oldredliontheatre.co.uk.

 

Twitter @__Circa, @workTheatre, @tomratcliffe15, @ORLtheatre, #CircaORL

 

Baby Face UK Tour: February – March 2019

Image courtesy of Daniel Hughes

Hey Baby! Following her hit success at Edinburgh Fringe 2018, award-winning performance artist Katy Dye now takes Baby Face on aUK Tour. Baby Face – winner of The Autopsy Award and Lustrum Award 2018 – is a daring look into the paradox of living in a society that continues to infantilise adult women.

Welcome to a world of knee socks, bunches, lollipops, bubblegum and models adopting the childlike expressions of six-year-old girls. Paedophilia is condemned yet fetishised images of women as prepubescent girls are everywhere. In this brave and outlandish performance, Katy Dye questions if innocence is truly as sexy as we’re told.

[a] pointed examination of the way that women are infantilised and how they sometimes collude… Baby Face is provocative stuff…big on impact (Lyn Gardner, The Independent).

Here, the audience enter a strange world, where a grown woman transforms from adult, to teenager, to toddler, to baby. She dresses in a school uniform and performs Britney’s iconic routine. She squeezes herself into a clingy top printed with cartoons – meant for a child or a grown woman? In a pristine white set, using minimal costumes and a baby’s high chair, she navigates the uncomfortable line between wanting to be cared for and being infantilised. With a soundtrack of bubblegum pop and drone rock, and a cloud of talcum powder and haze, strange mixed messages hang in the air. Baby Face is an exposure of our contradictory society when it comes to women’s bodies and how they are treated.

The production is supported by Arts Council England and the Hunter Foundation.

Baby Face :  running time 50 minutes

Box Office Tickets are available from individual theatre box offices. Twitter @katydye1, #BabyFace

Notes Ages 16+, talcum powder used in show (allergy warning)

Artist/Performer Katy Dye Producer Jack Stancliffe Sound Designer Zac Scott Lighting Design Michaella Fee Rossi Video/photography Daniel Hughes

Performance Dates

7th – 9th February Tron Theatre, Glasgow 63 Trongate, Glasgow G1 5HB 28th February Theatre Deli, Sheffield 202 Eyre Street, Sheffield S1 4QZ

6th March Lawrence Batley Theatre, Huddersfield Queen Street, Huddersfield HD1 2SP

8th – 9th March Brighton Dome Church Street, Brighton BN1 1UE

20th March The Lowry, Manchester Pier 8, The Quays, Salford M50 3AZ

23rd March Harlow Playhouse Essex Playhouse Square, Harlow CM20 1LS

GAUCHO TOWER BRIDGE – STEAKS, SOPHISTICATION AND SUBLIME SCENERY

 

Carnivores, raise your hand if you want to learn more about the best Argentinian steaks in the Capital… Good, let’s get to it.

We popped into Tower Bridge’s Gaucho restaurant to experience its new look and Latin American style theme and learn what this much-loved chain would bring to our meat loving selves. Little did we know, the grub, the great deals that run through the week and the ambience were absolute game changers.

If you’ve not had chance to frequent a Gaucho restaurant yet, (we promise we’re not judging…much), then you might not be completely au fait with its set up. Gaucho has more respect for its meat than we probably have for our loved ones and upon arrival, a chopping block of lovely, red, cuts will be presented to you in the fashion of a specials board. The team will talk you through each of its main cuts. Butterfly (a signature piece brushed with garlic and herb), sirloin, rump, rib eye and fillet. Don’t feel overwhelmed though – you won’t leave that place until you’ve dissected which cut is best suited to you forever more.

Once you’ve established if you’re mad for marbling or bonkers for blue meat, you can choose the weight of the cut that will land on your table. 250g, 300g or for the gluttonous amongst us (don’t lie, we’re all guilty of it), 400g. To embody Goldilocks, the 300g was ‘just right’ for us.

The wine, sides and starters that will pepper the table throughout your experience are all equally well seasoned, well cooked and well-presented but the two things that stood out to us most? The succulent steaks (obvs) and the location. Sit yourself at the right table on either of its floors and you will spend your sessions staring at London landmarks and people watching. You’ll take in the tourists testing millions of snaps for the perfect Instagram picture, be impressed (and sickened in equal measure) by the sporting groups dancing across Potters Field lawns and peek through the windows of City Hall, because this location is a Monopoly style Mayfair in our opinion.

Some of the diary dates at Gaucho you won’t want to miss?

Mondays BYOB – no catch, no corkage, no size limit!

Saturday Electro Brunch – Two hours of brilliant beats and bottomless bevvies to accompany dishes from this master menu, all for £49.95pp

Visit the Gaucho site for more information.

*We were guests of Gaucho Tower Bridge

A good clutch of novels in this round up.

The Witch of Willow Hall by Hester Fox is an interesting book. I’ve just had a discussion on genes, and we were chatting about whether we inherit memories, or attitudes, or gifts and to some extent this explores the edge of our discussion.

Growing up, Lydia Montrose knew she was descended from the witches of Salem and was warned to keep her legacy secret. But Willow Hall has awoken something inside her…

I enjoyed the writing, and the story. The American voice came over clearly, the story was effortless to follow. A good read.

The Witch of Willow Hall by Hester Fox. pub Harper Collins. pb £7.99 e book and audio

 

Every Breath You Take by Mary Higgins Clark and Alafair Burke

I read this with great pleasure. I’ve loved Mary Higgins Clark ever since a sheep station owner in Australia handed it to me for my onward journey, saying you’ll love her. I do. I’ve wanted to love Alafair Burke, because I have a passion for James Lee Burke. But somehow I’ve never quite felt the commitment to his daughter, very close, but not quite. But after reading this novel,  I’m in her corner now.

The Met Gala ball – where the rich and famous want to be seen , strutting their stuff. You’re nobody if you’re not invited. Perhaps people would kill for that crisp white card? For for not getting one?

Is that what happened three years ago when a member of the Met’s board of trustees was found dead in the snow at the foot of the building? Thrown or jumped? Well, now you mention it, thrown, but by whom? Ah, well read the book.

The alchemy of these two writers brings us something special. Bravo, fabulous. Like Oliver Twist – More please.

Every Breath you Take by Mary Higgins Clark and Alafair Burke. pub Simon & Schuster pb £7.99

The Bad Daughter by Joy Fielding

Another novel about trust. There’re many questions about trust   these days and not just in the writing world.

This exploration is gripping: Robin Davis hasn’t spoken to her family in six years. Not since ‘it’ happened. Then they’re attacked; left fighting for their lives. And Robin is back. What is the secret that has put them all in danger, and whose is it?

As I say, gripping. But I’ve come to expect it from this author.

The Bad Daughter by Joy Fielding. pub Zaffre. pb and eBook £7.99

Starry Night Van Gogh at the Asylum by Martin Bailey. Reviewed by Catherine McGuinness

Starry Night: Van Gogh at the Asylum is a fresh insight into the last year of the artist’s life which was mostly spent at Saint-Paul-de Mausoleum in the South of France. The author, a leading Van Gogh specialist has woven new material from the Asylum with his extensive knowledge of the artist, his life and work. This well written and lavishly illustrated book will capture hearts and minds.

Vincent Van Gogh was a highly literate man who knew French, German and English as well as his native Dutch. He was a great reader, who loved Dickens and who read the complete works of Shakespeare in English during his stay at Saint-Paul. He produced many paintings and drawings during the year he voluntarily spent as a patient whose mental health problems had caused him great distress culminating in the severing of his own ear.

Martin Bailey has meticulously charted that year using documents from the asylum which for the first time offer descriptions of the buildings, other residents and glimpses of the life led by `Monsieur Vincent’ from May 1889 to May 1890.

It is possible to see the viewpoints for the works of this time, whether from windows, or the interior, and occasions when Vincent was well enough to travel into the surrounding countryside. Many of the paintings were sent to Paris to his brother Theo, which is how they have survived. The masterpieces included wheat fields, olive groves, cypresses and sunsets.

Vincent also wrote letters when he was well enough, which alongside this new research give a fascinating insight into the artist. Sadly there are so many lost works. The story of some of these is an intriguing work of detection and revelation by the author.

Starry Night Van Gogh at the Asylum By Martin Bailey  pub:  White Lion Publishing. £25.00 Hardback

Book of The Week: Only a Mother By Elisabeth Carpenter

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This is an atmospheric psychological thriller that leaves you wanting more. Brilliant.

 

ONLY A MOTHER . . .
Erica Wright hasn’t needed to scrub ‘MURDERER’ off her house in over a year. Life is almost quiet again. Then her son, Craig, is released from prison, and she knows the quiet is going to be broken.
COULD BELIEVE HIM
Erica has always believed Craig was innocent – despite the lies she told for him years ago – but when he arrives home, she notices the changes in him. She doesn’t recognise her son anymore.
COULD LIE FOR HIM
So, when another girl goes missing, she starts to question everything. But how can a mother turn her back on her son? And, if she won’t, then how far will she go to protect him?
COULD BURY THE TRUTH

Perfect for fans of Lisa Jewell, Louise Jensen, Katerina Diamond, Helen Fields and CL Taylor – a hard-hitting psychological thriller told from the fresh perspective of a killer’s mother.

 

Available here.