Interview with Kit Rice

Getting to interview amazing new and exciting talent is part of my job I find so wonderful. Now and then we see brilliant new singers pop up and when you realise you are in the presence of a new rising star it sends shivers down my spine. I had the pleasure of meeting, photographing and interviewing the incredible Kit Rice recently. We chatted for hours and I left loving this chap so much, he and I sat and chatted for well over 2 hours all about his life journey, music and style. He bowled me over how wonderful he was…he is a rising star and one name to really lookout for.

Kit is not only a truly versatile artist with a wealth of musical knowledge behind him but he is a graduate of the prestigious BRIT school, established songwriter and classical violinist making him an emerging talent to really watch out for in the coming year!

Kit’s first iTunes release, Not on My Time EP was self – produced and released in December 2011, followed swiftly by Lies EP in February 2012 which attracted attention from music agents based in Central London.

At just 21, Kit’s debut album Stay Gone was completed with well known producer Cam Blackwood who is known for his work with artists including; Cee – Lo Green and Jamiroquai. His first single BYOB, was released on November 11th 2013 with the music video attracting wide spread attention from both the UK and the US.

Kit has performed numerous gigs at venues around the country including celeb spots such as The Ice Bar and XOYO. Kit was crowned the winner of The Bedford’s Song Slam in 2012 after wowing the judges with original tracks from his album and he has played live acoustic sessions on main radio stations including BBC Radio London.

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Q. Who did you listen to growing up?

A. I listened to a lot of Prince growing up, Whitney and Maria but mostly, with loads of Celine. I listened to classical music mostly when growing up. For years at Brit school I didn’t listen to anything with words. Then I went on to being a Dub Step DJ for a while!
Q. Where do you take your inspiration from when writing songs

A. I have tons of posters in my room from Prince, Snoop dog to Lady GaGa. If I am having a bad day I cam look up and just think what would they do and it normally does the trick.

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Q. You love to perform live, where would be the ultimate place to have a gig.

A. Kensington roof gardens, the actual balcony and strip it back, that would have to be the best place as I love the intimacy and the vibrant nature of the place, obviously Wembley would be incredible but for now that would tick the box. I love intimacy of the smaller venues.

Q. If you could collaborate with any other artist who would it be

A. Prince…he’s just the greatest. Defiantly Prince and brandy a she’s my vocal inspiration

 

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Q. Your latest release has a really cool video, I particularly love the guy on roller skates! Where would you love to shoot a great video, your dream location?

A. This was shot in a dance theatre owned by my parents, it was a really cool, but my favourite place to shoot would be on a huge yacht just like a JLO inspired version. The new video called NONSENSE out on the 1st of July is really great and the video for that is …well basically nonsense!! You will have to wait to see it, it also will have a 48 hour free down loads too.

 

Q. I see from your twitter….I haven’t been stalking you just researching! You love a good selfie, if you could have a picture with anyone, who would it be? Anyone even from the past?!

A. Prince….I love taking pictures with loads of people. SHOTS is amazing app that Justin Bieber made famous and you can connect with fans that way. I love to connect with my fans.

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Q. What do you love about fashion and do you have a certain look that you are trying to create.

A. I take a lot of influence from the likes of David Bowie, and Snoop dog. Lady Gaga is one amazing and cool lady. My look is all about looking strong, cool and a bit different.
Q. What can we expect from you over the next 12 months.

A. The new album will be out by the end of the year and now its about promoting myself. Getting myself out there and showing the world what I have to offer. Its very exciting.

 

Q. If you could play live for anyone who would it be

A. I have played in front of Nelson Mandela and that was incredible and very cool. Price would obviously be one all time great that I would love to play live for. To see what he would think..Even if he said dude your doing it all wrong!! HAHA!

 

Q. What is your vision for the future.

A. I want everyone to have heard the album as I was in a really good place when I wrote it and I am incredibly proud of it.. There are some really nice songs about my life on there.

 

Q. Tell us something we need to know about Kit! What’s your message?!!

A. LVE MUSIC…everything is played live, with strings bows etc. Keep it going and get people inspired. Peace and Love.

Watch Kits last BYOB Video

 

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Follow Kit on Twitter @KitMusicUK and pop over to say Hi. Come say hi to me @sarahbacchus and check out our online lifestyle magazine over at SLBStyle.com. For information regarding my Photographic work here is the link to the Sarahbacchus.com site

This interview and shoot was held at the beautiful Mamounia Lounge in Mayfair, I want to thank them for their hospitality and for allowing me to take over an entire room for a few hours! Tweet them @MamounialLounge

 

Ageing isn’t just skin deep – Muscular Ageing

Nexus PR hosted a magnificent event at 34 restaurant, with equally amazing people w, experts in their field, discussed about the myths and recommendations regarding our own bodies.

It’s no surprise that the media control the way people think about their bodies, as it is always in plain sight, no matter where we go and they don’t always tell the full story. Top physiotherapist Sammy Margo spoke about Children & teens, 20’s & 30’s getting into good habits and the Hot & Cold heroes. Double world champion British rower and personal fitness trainer Toby Garbett spoke about Middle Aged spread and Exercise = Independence. Angus Hunter from Stirling University spoke about Structures, Stretching and the science behind it. Colin Brown speaking on the relevance of Deep Heat and Deep Freeze as the Hot and Cold Heroes!

Credit: Wikipedia

Credit: Wikipedia

As you would expect with the Grosvenor Square restaurant, it was amazing and the food was perfect… I can’t jump ahead, as so much happened before the meal, which has relevance to the actual event.

Sammy Margo, started off with an intro, as expected and went on to speak about the relevance of Collagen. It is more in our muscle than given credit! A decline in Collagen creates sagging skin, but also takes its toll on our muscles, hair and nails. Muscle wastage and loss of power impacts our daily lives. A lack of exercise, modern technology and increased obesity are fuelling a surge of muscle problems, whatever your age!

Sammy’s stats sound like a horror story and it is more frightening because these stats are backed up with facts, but the solutions are there! As a custodian of your body, you have to take more responsibility of it and your children, as they follow by example, more than what you teach. This is reflected in the teenage and young adult stats that show a decline in exercise and more reliant on technology and being unsociable by being on social websites!

The numbers increase as the age increases, as aches, pains and stiffness are all far too common ailments. An incredible 71% (7 out of 10) people didn’t know that we lost muscle mass as we aged. The medical term for age related muscle mass loss is, Sarcopenia. The rate and extent of muscle loss is down to Genetics, diet and lifestyle. The adage, “Use it, or lose it” is wholly relevant.

Sammy highlights that whilst “growing pains” are a reality, our good habits are supposed to be habitual by the time we are in our 20’s and 30’s. It is imperative to encourage children to be more active by setting the example yourself. They are more likely to do it because you are and not because you force them to, whether it is for the betterment of their health, or not!

30 to 40 year olds are likely to take up new sports, but more likely to fail to follow through with that sport! Failure to warm up is a common failure and leads to stiffness, injuries and could be a cause of turning people away from sports and training. However, simple things to help alleviate bad posture and stiffness at work could be standing whilst on the phone rather than sitting. Also, not leaning back on the chair and tilting the pelvis to maintain posture will help also.

Sammy pointed out that preparation for pregnancy can lead to a smoother post natal recovery. A strengthened core is something worth considering for the load bearing on the area as a whole. And learning to lift correctly will always stand you in good stead.

As extensive as her talk was, it covered a vast amount of things that should technically be standard knowledge to us! It’s our bodies, so some care in making sure it’s maintained is the least we can do for it.

After a well deserved applause, Sammy made way for Toby to discuss our middle aged spread. Only a quarter of 30-40 year olds studied said they worked out at least 3 times a week. Unfortunately the amount was halved in the age group 41-50. This is reflected in the amount that suffer a daily pain, or discomfort. 13% for the 35-39 year olds and 22% for 46-49 year olds. Are we making excuses, or is it something to do with our age? Technically, as we age, we suffer a weakness of the skeletal muscle, but do we use adequate treatment for it? Hot and Cold treatment is probably the last thing we think of doing, when it should be the first!

In menopausal women, the loss of oestrogen can have a domino effect of increased weight, loss of muscle mass and strength and declining bone density. When the hot flushes occur this often makes women shy away from exercise. Almost one-in-three people over the age of 60 will suffer a fall due to muscle weakness. Skeletal muscle dysfunction in the elderly can be deadly.

Toby mentioned a couple of things, which should ring a bell, or two, for some people when I put it for you to read. “The moment we lose the ability to squat, we lose our independence to get on and off the toilet!” An exercise that keeps that alone is worth doing! Even if you did it for 5 minutes a day, I am sure you would be able to evaluate the extent of your need to increase, or improve your technique and exercise.

Another exercise worth considering is the rotator cuff. Even if you go to the gym, you have to ask whether, or not you cater for this exercise. The easier it is to take your jumper of and put one on shows how well your rotator cuff is. Yes, those are things we take for granted. Going to the toilet and getting dressed.

Angus Hunter covered an area I am an advocate for… Stretching! As I am a firm believer that there is no excuse forego stretching. Before your feet even touch the floor, you could have done a basic stretch that encompasses the whole body and takes about 5 minutes. However, it’s not about me, it’s about the presentation.

He has a quote from Shakespeare, which appeals to the actor in me, “… The sixth age shifts into the lean and slipper’s pantaloon, ith spectacles on nose and pouch on side; his youthful hose, well sav’d, a word too wide, for his shrunk shank…”

After we learnt the scientific word for the loss of muscle, we learn the word for the loss of strength, “Dynapenia”! The basics are without the muscle to support the strength, you will be lacking with increasing muscle loss. Granted Angus was far more scientific, but the statistics are the things that show how age and lack of muscle stimulus affects us as we age!

I found the fact that massaging and stretching have similar effects on the muscle interesting! They both lengthen the muscle and release muscle stress. Duration of both also determined the amount of stress alleviated and the length. There is no clear evidence on the most effective type of stretching.

Genetics play a part on the type of muscle you have and can help your sport dependant on the type you have. The 3 classifications are type I fibres, which are known also as Slow Twitch. Type IIa fibres, which are Fast Twitch. Type IIb/X fibre, which are also Fast Twitch, these have the shortest time to peak tension as opposed to the Slow Twitch which has the longest!

Collagen is considered the glue that holds us together, given it comes from the Greek word, Kolla, which means glue. Type 1 is the toughest and found in ligaments, tendons and bones. Type 2 is found in cartilage and the jelly (vitreous humour) inside the eye. Type 3 is the most thin and elastic found in the skin, lungs and blood vessels. About 25% of the body comes as Collagen and this declines as we age, hence the wrinkles, dry hair and brittle nails!

With all this knowledge, does it make it any easier to understand? Yes… and no. Always, the more information you have the better to make an informed decision it is! However, it means that the media have to get off their butt and make it so that it is something we read, not just whilst you’re waiting at the doctors, but actually as an everyday concept! It should be relevant to food, sunbathing, exercise, ageing and wellbeing! An article here, or there is great, but more of it makes it common knowledge and not a stranger to conversation with your doctor, personal trainer, neighbour, or child. It really is that important.

Even hot and cold treatment. How many people know the 4 distinct phases? Bleeding, Swelling, Proliferation and Remodelling… Just in case you had forgotten. Cold happens during the swelling phase and heat benefits the proliferation phase! Because those 2 phase overlap, there is about 72 hours after swelling and cold to treat it that heat treatment helps the proliferation phase.

Generally you can tell if it’s a swelling, as you can touch it and feel it! Calor (heat), Dolor (pain), Rubor (redness) and Tumor (swelling)… Loss of function is easier to determine. I can throw more science and figures into the hot and cold therapy, but ultimately, it showed that biology is something we should know better than we do! A basic knowledge of our own body, symptoms and maintenance is sorely (!) lacking. Many injuries reoccur when we return to strenuous training too soon and when care and recovery has been hurried, or ignored.

The amazing speakers were justified in coming together for the presentation and Deep Heat and Deep Freeze were amazing to have advanced their products from the pain inducing prank of my youth. As much as I have left out, I could go on and put all instances verbatim, but the onus is on us to be more proactive, knowledgeable and honest about how we look after and maintain our own bodies. We also owe it to the next generation not to sell them short that knowledge, as it should be as common as going online to chat to our friends on Facebook.

To end this, I am going to go through the amazing high protein meal that was relevant to the event as a whole.

Starter, Smoked Salmon and Brown Bread. Main, Roast Saddle and Grilled rack of Cornish Lamb, with a Pea Polenta Croquette and Sautéed Girolles. That is a wild mushroom, to save you Googling it. There were also some New Potatoes, which cover the high carbs for the meal. Dessert, was a light Peach Melba Meringue.

All were delicious and appreciated, as we all partook in a small demonstration of posture exercises before eating.

My appreciation of all that was presented to me at 34 Restaurant by Nexus PR and respective speakers was far more than this article can put into words and there are a lot of them.

Karpo… A Restaurant of Choice

Deep in the heart of King’s Cross, right opposite St Pancras Station is Karpo brasserie, the ideal place to rest, relax and recharge in an unpretentious setting… everything a restaurant should be. Draped in an anti-camouflage montage of colour, this restaurant is no shrinking violet.
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Serving cuisine with a global influence, the standards of service are uncompromising, with a highly developed sense of noblesse oblige, each and every customer is valued as a welcome friend by Massimo, the front-of-house manager. The light streams in through a roof window onto a vibrant wall of foliage creating the perfect backdrop to the non-conformist tables and chairs, different styles and textures, refreshingly breaking up the dining area with slices of beautifully turned wood and marble… there were no ‘bad tables’.
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Karpo have created a pleasingly uncomplicated menu that discards unnecessary fripperies , keeping to the bare essentials in terms of ingredients and cooking processes. We were tempted with the brunch menu offering a selection of superb egg dishes ranging from Benedict through to plain and simple poached egg, but the deep fried cod cheeks and polenta with wild mushrooms came a close second to our choice of confit duck leg, sausage and lentils (£12) and Cumberland sausages, mash and gravy (£10). It was pleasing that Karpo chose to ignore the zeitgeist of listing every supplier on the menu, just occasional references of where the menu was taking us.
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The duck was cooked to perfection with the sausage and lentils adding a twist of colour and texture, an adequately-sized portion, nicely washed down with a glass of house wine (Chardonnay, £4.75 glass). The Cumberland sausages, mash and gravy were presented in an uncomplicated way, you just can’t sex this dish up, the taste reminiscent of good ‘ole home cooking… but better. I rounded my meal off with lemon posset with handpicked lavender (£5), daintily presented but with a potent citrus kick! English breakfast tea was served… properly. The tea was presented and a healthy amount of tea leaves were allowed to brew in a teapot instead of the usual ‘coquette of the teabag’ ritual most restaurants resort to. Attention to detail was uppermost and it was reflected in the taste.
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It was refreshing not to be asked ad nauseam if everything was ok, the well-mannered hosts discreetly sashayed around the tables keeping a close eye but not interrupting the quiet intimacy of the couples or the vibrant interactions of business people wooing clients in an appropriate setting.
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And this is the defining point about Karpo, when we visited, customers looked relaxed as if they genuinely wanted to be in this establishment rather than ‘this’ll do’ as a need to just ‘grab a bite to eat’. People brought people to eat here… and that’s good enough for me.
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Karpo Restaurant
23-27 Euston Road
King’s Cross
London
NW1 2SB
Bookings for up to 8 via email: reservations@karpo.co.uk
Website: www.karpo.co.uk
Telephone: 0207 843 2221
Facebook: karporestaurant
Twitter: @karporestaurant

Open for breakfast 7:00am to 11:am Monday to Friday
Neighbourhood brunch: 8:00am to 4pm Saturday and Sunday
All day menu runs from 12:00pm to 10:00pm weekdays, 5:00pm to 10:00pm Saturdays/Sundays (till 9:00pm Sundays)

Imagery by Shane Finn at Visual Devotion

Après turns 4

unnamed     To celebrate their 4th birthday, Après, W1’s late night cocktail bar decided to throw a party complete with musical chairs, balloon animals and an array of glowing jewellery. To top it all off they were serving special ‘Birthday Milk’ cocktails to mark the occasion.         If you haven’t heard of Après, it’s probably because it hides nicely next to the side entrance of Selfridges and not centrally located in the tourist trap, a good thing in my opinion. The decor is cool, slick and stylish. The music was pumping and differed between the lounge and the main bar upstairs. I feel like Après have mastered the balance with the two spaces with the club offering a fun place to let loose and go crazy on the dance floor, and the upstairs area being the ultimate chill out with a much lighter area next to a shisha terrace outside.   The cocktails were delicious and fresh, perfect for the summer. Their signature cocktail, Le Birthday Milk, is made from a blend of coconut milk, nutmeg, rum and some other exotic flavours! Kudos for the invention it is well worth a try and will be available throughout the month of June! unnamed-2   Après has the right amount of ‘cool’ without being too hipster and not too corporate. There’s something to please everyone in this club so it’s well worth a visit if you’d like to escape the hustle and bustle of Oxford Street or fancy a good knees up with some mates and most importantly, the service is excellent!   You can find them on 31 Duke St, W1 just off Oxford St.

Kirin Ichiban Beer And Feng Sushi: A Match Made In Umami Heaven

This June celebrate one of the original and healthiest fast foods with International Sushi Day on Wednesday 18th June with a luxury sushi platter from Feng Sushi alongside an ice-cold Kirin Ichiban beer.

We were thrown at just how amazing the platter was. The sushi is amazing, high quality with something for everyone. The salmon was amazing, there was a great mixture of avocado and sushi and the salty edamame beans were also a joy. The platter retails at £29.75 and we thought it was a bargain considering how many people it feeds -2-to-4- and just how delicious it was. Now that we know just how amazing Feng Sushi in Fulham is, we will definitely be wanting more.

This is what the men had to say about the beer because, cliche alert, none of the women like beer: “The beer was pure, smooth, crisp and of the highest quality. It was a delight. One of the best beers I’ve ever had. I would highly recommend trying it, I will certainly be buying some more.” So it is safe to say we are fans of both the sushi and the beer.

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Beer is a fantastic match for sushi as the pairing emphasises umami, the mysterious fifth flavour that adds a moreish savoury note. Soy sauce, seaweed and the fish itself are all sources of umami, which are heightened by the crisp, pure notes of Kirin Ichiban, acting as a palate cleanser to tone down the spicy wasabi kick.  The beer’s rich flavour and deep, smooth finish also complement the delicately flavoured sushi and salty edamame beans.

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Kirin Ichiban is the world’s only 100% malt beer produced from the unique Shibori process where just the first pressing of the ingredients is used, unlike other lagers which are pressed and re-pressed. The result is one of the world’s crispest, richest and purest beers with a rich flavour and no bitter aftertaste. The beer shows citrus aromas with an initial, crisp refreshing bite, leading to a surprising depth of flavour and an intensely satisfying, clean finish.

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Feng Sushi’s classic patter comprises of 30 pieces of fresh sushi, including mean spicy tuna roll, MSC king prawn tempura roll, salmon mizuna and chive roll, salmon nigiri, seared salmon sashimi and salty edamame. The platter is available to order online for £29.75, with two bottles of Kirin Ichiban for £7.50.

 

·         Kirin Ichiban is sold in Tesco, Ocado and www.thedrinkshop.com in 330ml bottles, RRP £1.49 per bottle

·         Feng Sushi’s classic platter serves 2-4 people and retails at £29.75

·         For more information on Feng Sushi, restaurant locations and to order online visit www.fengsushi.co.uk

The Art of Conversation By Judy Apps Book Review

theartofconversationbookreviewSome people are socially inept. It is not polite to point it out and I never do. But let’s be honest, we have all been there: opposite the person at the party who talks about themselves endlessly, at a wedding next to someone who is critical about everything or sat beside someone who just endlessly moans on a long journey. There is an art to conversation, and plenty of people have not mastered it.

 

So I might be buying this book in bulk and handing it out liberally, anything to lessen the social trauma of listening to someone else droning on about their own life for an hour, or moaning and complaining and then just leaving, a negative aura lingering behind them. I once spent an hour and a half, no exaggeration, listening to a women talking about her biological clock and how it was running out, and forty minutes at another party trying to explain to someone where the Scottish Borders are “What country does it border with?” they asked. I managed to keep a straight face, wondrously.

 

The Art of Conversation by Judy Apps is a fascinating book. It also has a section on dealing with the type of drains above. So called because they drain your energy. It has anecdotes and quotes galore, all of which are brilliant. It also has exercises and will help you understand the different levels of conversation and how they work. I read this book very fast as it is both enjoyable and educational. It also helps you overcome fear and express yourself more powerfully with your voice and body language.

 

An educational, insightful and enjoyable book. Definitely worth a read.

 

The Art of Conversation: Change Your Life with Confident Communication is available here.

 

 

 

 

Superdrug’s 50th Birthday Experience | Social Diary

Tuesday 10th June, Bankside Vaults, SE1, Unilever were honoured to host an all-encompassing beauty experience to celebrate Superdrug’s 50th Birthday, in one unforgettable party.

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Held at one of the largest nightclubs in London, Bankside Vaults was transformed into a highly creative venue where VIP guests came together to experience a unique event, that included an immersive fashion show, exhibiting designs from some of the most up and coming creative heads in the industry hailing from London College of Fashion. The conceptual show blurred the boundaries between creativity, fashion and beauty.


Celebrity model, presenter and DJ, Jameela Jamil was on the decks for the party’s VIP guests including celebrities Laura Whitmore, Made in Chelsea’s Andy Jourdan, models Kimberley Garner and Imogen Thomas, boy band Kingsland Road and BAFTA winning violinist Linzi Stoppard.

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All images Courtesy of Piers Allardyce

 

 

Does Having Children Hold Women Back?

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Something has been annoying me for a long time and I need to write about it. Yes, women and how they are discriminated against if they have children, and if they don’t have children, Yes, basically just the fact that women can’t win when it comes to their ovaries. No one has every asked a man how he balances his work/life balance. Or how having children affected his career. And many famous men don’t have children and it is not pointed out in every single article about them a la Jennifer Aniston. But that has gotten me thinking: does having children hold women back? A lot of women in the June 2014 edition of Bazaar magazine thought so.

 

Zaha Hadid was interviewed and said: ‘With architecture, if you stop, it’s hard to go back. It’s long hours, lots of travel. If you have kids, it’s not obvious how to make it work.” and went on to say “When I could have kids, it just didn’t occur to me.”

 

Artist Phyllida Barlow said: “I don’t think having children and being an artist are compatible at all. I don’t mean that as a negative thing, just that both require full-time attention. Both are emotional and hazardous. Things go wrong” Phyllida has five children and a successful career so I am not sure what her point is.

 

This is an extract from the piece on artist Marina Abramovic: “She also knew she’d never have children. Every person, she argues, has only one source of energy, which can be transformed into work, family, children, creativity; anything. If you have children, you divide it.’ It isn’t a fashionable view, the article goes on, but there’s no doubt in her mind that it is not possible to be a great artist and have children: Maybe if you’re very rich and have nannies but then the children suffer’, she qualifies. The evidence is all around us she insists. ‘Why are there so many more male artists than female. Because a man doesn’t have to sacrifice as much as a woman.’ How sexist. She then goes on to cite Louise Bourgeois who had an amazing career post-60: husband dead and children who had left home, ‘So many artists start wonderful, talented, and then the children come.” Then how come so many men manage both? Oh, right, the woman gives up her life and career. Am I the only one who reads this and wants to scream the point that children have two parents? Surely the father could look after his own children at some point? And don’t get me started on men who refer to looking after their own children as ‘babysitting’. You contributed half of the DNA you idiot.

 

Weirdly enough, the sanest comment came from an Olsen in the June 2014 edition of UK Marie Claire: Elizabeth Olsen has been thinking about the working-women-having-kids-thing. ‘It’s more important for women to do well in their families lives because they end up doing better in their job if they pay attention to their family. There was a time when you’d have a career, get to the top and then have children, which I always thought was weird- as opposed to having kids witnessing the ebbs and flows, starting somewhere and growing together as a family’ Can someone please give this women a medal?

 

Oprah Winfrey has stated many times that she couldn’t achieve what she has if she had children, but how does she know? How can she honestly say that? Oprah is also quoted saying: “If I had kids, my kids would hate me, They would have ended up on the equivalent of the “Oprah” show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.” Do children say this about their fathers? In a typical family set up men are away a lot. Kids don’t hate them, they just miss them. People don’t give children enough credit. They know adults have to work.

 

Former Australian Prime Minister Julia Gillard was interviewed in the Telegraph and she was asked, once again, about her child-free status. She said: ‘I’m comfortable with my choices. It gave me my chance to work as an PM’.  I mean, why ask a former Prime Minister about her career when you can question her ovaries instead?

 

But this hasn’t answered my original question. Does having children hold women back? Probably. I don’t have children myself, although I may one day, but I think the main question should be: if having children doesn’t hold men back, why should it hold women back? The answer is obvious. Women are supposed to sacrifice everything for their children and burn their ambitions and wishes on the alter of motherhood. And some of the worst critics for women is other mothers. I know married friends in their thirties, some of whom don’t even want children, who can’t get a job or a promotion because employers don’t want to risk hiring a women in their thirties, too worried that they will just get pregnant and then cost them maternity leave. Women are discriminated on the fact that they have wombs, whether they use them or not.

 

A book I will be reading is I Don’t Know Why She Bothers by Daisy Waugh. It rages against the social pressure of women sacrificing their entire life at the alter of motherhood and is an antidote to maternal guilt and pressure. Because you know what can stop children holding women back? Men picking up the slack and doing their fair share.

 

What do you think? Does having children hold women back?