Jacob’s Creek Sparkling Rosé Cuvee

jacobscreekroseI rarely get sent Rosé to review, which is a shame as it is my favourite type of wine.

The problem with some Rosé is that it is too sweet (although I tend to have a higher tolerance for sweet wine than other people I know) and it tends to knock the balance of the wine off. Luckily Jacob’s Creek Sparkling Rosé Cuvee is not too sweet, it is just the right amount.

It is a refreshing sparkling wine which has a great taste. I reviewed it with someone who is always harsh when reviewing Rosé and even they loved it.

It is a grown up Rosé, one for the sophisticated palate. Not sickening, but a beautiful pink colour, a delicate and fresh berry flavour and chardonnay and pinot noir grapes. Recommended this Christmas and beyond: a very good sparkling wine. Frost Loves….

The Jacob’s Creek Sparkling Rosé is a non-vintage wine made from selected Jacob’s Creek Chardonnay and Jacob’s Creek Pinot Noir grapes displaying delicate fresh berry flavours and an attractive pink colour. It’s the perfect wine for raising a glass when celebrating the arrival of the New Year.

Price: £10.39 (approx) from Sainsbury’s, Waitrose, Mark’s & Spencers and Tesco

New Faces | Roy A. Tindle

Roy A. TindleAre you sick of seeing the same faces in magazines all the time? So are we. As much as we love the people we read about in the magazines we think it is time to inject some freshness into the media landscape, it is time to give other people a chance, the hottest writers, actors, musicians, scientists, businesspeople.

We want to give people the publicity they deserve, our first one is American author Roy A. Tindle, but watch out for more fresh faces; both old and new, and let us know if you know anyone worthy of inclusion.

The first of our New Faces is American writer Roy A. Tindle. We have interviewed him and include some examples of his work below. We hope you like him as much as we do.

 

Tell us about your writing

I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. I began writing simple poetry and short

stories then eventually moved on to novellas. Although I had some poetry published,

I never spent much energy trying to publish any of my earlier work until about two years

ago when I finally decided to attempt writing my first full novel. That is when ‘Motive’

was born.

 

What is your inspiration?

Most of my work may seem a little dark at first glance, but in nearly every case I attempt

to highlight the brighter side of life and love. I enjoy drawing the parallels between

light and dark, good and evil and the contrast between where we are now and where

we might one day be as individuals and as a society. My goal is to cause people to pause

long enough to take a look inside themselves to discover who they really are and ask

themselves the tough questions. Ultimately, I hope to inspire and uplift people with

what I write. These things are what inspire me to write.

 

What is your writing routine?

My writing routine is anything but a routine. I try to spend time each day writing, but

that isn’t always possible. Research, editing and habitual rereading occupies much of

my time. Frankly, if I manage to finish one good page a day I’m happy. That may not

seem like a lot and it’s true that it’s a slow process, but I’m hoping to produce chapters

that offer a smooth read that is not only entertaining and suspenseful, but is also

technically accurate.

 

What are you favourite books/authors?

I enjoy reading books of nearly all genres and there are myriad authors who I could

mention here, but to narrow it down to a top three, my favorite authors of all time

would be Dean Koontz, Michael Crichton and Jules Verne and for those who are familiar

with their work will undoubtedly see their influence in my writing style. I’ve always

enjoyed Dean Koontz’s ability to convince his readers that the villain in his stories are

more than human and almost omniscient, but ultimately he demonstrates that true evil

exists all around us and the real boogey man, although he may truly be hiding under

your bed, he isn’t necessarily a supernatural force. He’s the guy next door. Michael

Crichton and Jules Verne perfected the art incorporating real world science into a

fictional format. I’m a tech and science geek and not afraid to admit it. Crichton and

Verne are master story tellers who not only tell a good story, they educate their readers

in the process. Journey to the Center of the Earth is above all my favorite book. I have a

collectible first printing of that classic hidden away someplace.

 

Tell us about Motive

‘Motive’ is a book about the human condition and perhaps offers some understanding

of who we are. Although Motive is a suspense novel and, consequentially, much of its

focus is on the darker aspects of human nature, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

This story ultimately leads the reader on a journey throughout the mind, not only from

the dark corners of our psyche and the disturbing things we may find there, but also to

the inspiring and sometimes crippling effects of love and loss and hope and faith and all

those things that define who we are.

 

What is the best thing about writing?

For me, the best thing about writing is being allowed to use my imagination freely and

act a little crazy without the risk of being committed. Lol It is an escape from reality,

really. I think we all need that once in a while. Some people go to the beach. I write…

 

And the worst?

The worst thing about writing has to be the loneliness. I consider myself a social

dragonfly, but writing is mostly a solitary craft. I enjoy the independence of being

a writer, but I often miss the daily interactions I’d have with friends by working a

traditional job.

 

What’s next?

What’s next? I’d really like to write something light and fun. I’ve enjoyed writing

Motive very much, but as I mentioned before, the story is a bit dark and highly technical.

I’m playing around with some new ideas and a particular character named Norman

“Northman” Northcutt may be making a debut with his ‘amazing abnormalities’ very soon.

 

Excerpts below

ABSOLVED OF ABSOLUTION (A Poem) – By Roy A. Tindle

 

Absolved of Absolution

Pretend it never happened. It is so easy to simply neglect the obligations of our hearts, to follow blindly

our captive minds and to imagine our lives are predetermined to lead by whatever means to a fateful and

hollow solitude. Lonesome tears fall more abundantly when absolved from absolution. You are to blame

yet your ignorance is your innocence.

 

A wound heals better when salved with the healing blessings from someone whose blessings are passed

without reproach. Become blameless by not placing blame and human in your fallacy. You’ve loved

before without knowing how it is that love should be, yet still you loved disgracefully and now, when love

is not an ignominy, you hide your face in shame.

 

I pray each night not knowing to who’s ears my prayers fall, but I pray still regardless knowing that even

though deaf ears may hear them I have at least spoken them and therefore I am absolved. I forgive

myself for all I’ve done and not with arrogance. Instead I know that the mistakes I’ve made were made

before knowing that our hearts are equally fragile, therefore I am determined to help you heal yours as

tenderly as if your heart were mine.

 

We are not much different you and I. No matter how things may seem. We hurt, we cry, we love and

we die and we can only hope we don’t have to do it alone. However in the end no matter when that time

may be, I’ll know that when I close my eyes I’ll have been absolved from absolution.

 

MOTIVE (Synopsis) – By Roy A. Tindle

 

In a small sleepy town in southern Michigan, local law enforcement struggles to identify the

cause for a sudden outbreak of horrendous crimes. As the townsfolk continue to disappear,

two desperate detectives team up with an eccentric college professor and forensic psychologist

who may have some insight into the cause. As the team is drawn further into the mystery,

they discover the true potential of man and, by doing so, they begin to understand how dark it

can become when one dives deeper into the cold abyss of the mind. Whether in love or hate,

darkness hides many secrets…. Secrets they’ll wish they had never uncovered.

 

MOTIVE (Excerpt) – By Roy A. Tindle

 

Professor Fredericks grimaced when he took the first bite of his steaming TV dinner. He

had become accustomed to the finer things in life and this of course extended to his cuisine. He

ate most meals alone at his favorite Italian restaurant, Giuseppi’s. Most days after leaving the

college he would stop in for dinner, usually spaghetti and salad with the accompaniment of a

house red wine. The staff at the restaurant knew him on a first name basis and, unless he called

ahead to notify them he would be late or absent, as he did today, his table would be reliably

reserved and the preparation of his meal would be in progress prior to his arrival.

Today however, he decided to eat at home. A decision he had come to regret. He had

no desire to be around people again today and what’s done is done. In the mind of the professor,

the best company was no company at all, unless of course you count the professor himself.

Now alone and, being that his talents do not extend to kitchen work and since he did not have the

foresight to grab some kind of carryout, he would have to make do with what he had. Having

been in the habit of not keeping much in his home for meals and, due to his reclusive nature, he

was left with choking down this tasteless meal in a box. The label on the box said it contained

spaghetti, but the quality of the meal offered debate on the side of shredded shoe leather doused

in tomato juice.

 

After a few agonizing bites of his microwaveable dinner, the professor tossed the

cardboard tray in the trash then attempted to rinse the foul taste from his mouth with an

expensive merlot. He drained his glass then refilled it to the rim. Although the food he kept in

his home lacked of any real quality, he had an extensive stock of delicate wines, one of which he

gluttonously slurped on now. He wasn’t really hungry anyway.

 

The professor gathered his wine glass, then on second thought the bottle too, and then

carried his defunct liquid meal to his study where he plopped down on to his vintage brown

leather arm chair. The walls of the study were lined with hundreds of books, reference manuals

and text books. He was an avid reader and had read every one of these books at least twice each.

Some he had written himself. Tonight however, he would not be reading.

 

He felt lazy. Laziness was not a usual aspect of the professor’s personality, but he

allowed himself this occasional indulgence. He picked up the television remote from the small,

ornate table he had positioned next to his chair and pressed the power button. The small color

television in the corner of the room came to life. The volume was too high for the program that

was currently being displayed. An alternative music station played the non-melodic and off-
tempo cadence of an unpopular punk-rock group. The professor quickly changed the channel.

After flipping mindlessly through a few more stations, the Professor began to become lost

in his thoughts. He thought back through days gone by and relished in his memories. He thought

about his youth and all the days so long ago when life was much simpler.

 

He remembered fishing with his father on the muddy banks of the Dowagiac River. His

father would expertly cast and reel, then cast again a series of three or four fishing poles with

complicated looking reels that somehow spooled the fishing line around an exposed sprocket

instead of pulling it into a closed chamber as did the much simpler red and blue Spiderman pole

he was forced to use. His father said his Spiderman pole had what was called a “closed-bail

reel”, whatever the heck that meant.

 

He laughed when he remembered how his father rarely caught a fish, not because he

wasn’t a skilled angler, he was, but while fishing with his ungainly son he spent more time

retrieving snagged hooks and lures from the branches of surrounding trees than he did actually

fishing. Regardless of his continued failures and inability to properly cast a fishing line, the

Professor never gave up. He wanted his father to be proud and, although he always felt like he

had disappointed him, his father would gracefully brush off his failures with silence, a knowing

smile or the occasional razzing.

 

“Look at you go, Justin! You caught that big ‘ole tree and I all I managed to snag was

this measly minnow,” His father would say while holding up a sizeable bass nearly as long as the

young boy’s arm.

 

He knew his father was patronizing him, but he was glad for it. He would just smile

sheepishly or sometimes play along with his father’s joke. They laughed together and smiled

often. Life was so good then.

 

The Professor cared deeply for his father. He didn’t love him out of any childish sense of

obligation, but because he knew how much his father loved him and his love was given without

reproach. Their close relationship and great love was sustained through the young Professor’s

life. From childhood to adolescence and on into adulthood, the Professor never lost any love for

his father.

 

Though the wound created by the tragic and sudden loss of his father nearly twenty

years ago had not yet been fully healed, the time had not diminished his memories either. He

embraced the good memories as well as the pain, for the Professor believed that is through pain

we truly begin to become alive. In the Professor’s opinion, it is impossible to appreciate life

until we know death. Just as it is difficult to truly appreciate water until we walk through the

desert or how we cannot fully appreciate true love until our hearts have been broken a time or

two.

 

The wounds a heart survives throughout one’s life can sometimes leave it a little callused,

but ultimately it is that same pain that brings understanding, faith and hope. With pain also

comes the loss of innocence and triumph over naivety. Some would call this maturity. The

Professor called it an awakening.

 

As a child, one doesn’t bother worrying about the day-to-day stuff that overruns the

minds of most adults. When a person is young the only thing that matters is the here and now.

Each day is an adventure, full of new surprises and the unknown. Being new to the world, life

for a child is fresh, vibrant and full of color. Most profound of all, the professor decided, is that

children possess the minds of Saints. This is not to say that children behave in the manner of

a Saint, not in the least, but their innocent minds allow them the ability to expect the best, not

only from the wonderful world in which they live, but also from the people who surround them.

Funny how quickly things can change.

 

The Professor sometimes allowed himself this selfish session of regressive thinking.

Not only did he enjoy the memories of his youth and of his father, it also helped place into

perspective the contrasted differences of adulthood and the responsibilities that come with the

knowledge gained by it. As a college professor responsible for the education of young minds

in the field of criminal psychology, one must always maintain perspective. To understand the

mind of a criminal, or any mind for that matter, it is of course important to recognize the factors

responsible for the development and ultimate product of an individual’s psyche. Professor

Fredericks knew how much influence one’s childhood could have on their adult lives. Ever

since that day many years ago when his father was murdered before his eyes, the Professor knew

first hand. This is in great part why he became a forensic psychologist, and it is also why he

maintained a personal file for each of his student’s. You never know who you can trust.

Although spying on the personal lives of his students went against every policy and

guideline set forth by the University, the Professor felt it was absolutely necessary. He kept files

for each of his students here, in his home, locked in a file cabinet in the room in which he now

sat. It would be too risky keeping the files in his office at the college. If the college somehow

discovered he kept such personal information on his students, he would at the very least be

reprimanded and, more likely, terminated.

 

Within any given file, the Professor kept records of everything he thought might be

useful in determining the mindset of the student. He kept medical records which would indicate

any potential drug habits as well as reports of possible domestic violence either perpetrated

against them or by them. He also kept other criminal records as well as any media-related items

and articles from local newspapers and school newspapers that may have been generated as a

result of a student’s mischief. A complete family history was also included along with their

academic reports dating back through their elementary school years. The majority of these

reports were obtained through a little novice hacking of the college’s computer system, the

internet or by photocopying documents hijacked from the school’s office of the registrar. Some

of the information contained within these files could not be obtained through any published or

public source. For the really good stuff he hired a private detective.

 

He wondered sometimes how his student’s would react if they ever found out that most

days, when they were not in class or studying in their dorms, that their personal lives were being

recorded, documented and filmed. The Professor had spent countless hours reading reports

created by a private detective or watching video of them living out their personal lives. The

Professor knew, with the exception of a few elusive students, who within his class drank too

much, did drugs, if they were straight or gay, who they interacted with, what kind of food they

ate, who they were sleeping with – if anyone, and what kind of car they drove and even how

they drove it. He knew what stores they shopped at and he even knew how much money they

had in their bank accounts to go shopping with. There wasn’t much the Professor did not know.

However, there was at least one thing he had not been able to uncover.

 

He had learned through these reports, along with a little deduction, that a growing group

of students had been meeting privately over the last couple months. What it is they were meeting

about remained a mystery. Mysteries don’t settle well with the Professor. He liked to know

what his students were up to. This is why he decided to spend this Friday evening on a mission

of discovery. Later he would once again follow this group himself and give the P.I. a night off.

Besides, with all of this thought about his childhood, the professor felt inclined to be like a child

again and set out on an adventure.

 

He glanced at his watch; an expensive Rolex. He had plenty of time before he had

to leave and he knew just how he would pass the time. The professor settled further into his

comfortable leather chair, once again allowing himself to revisit the memories of his youth.

There was one memory in particular he cherished especially. This beloved memory was a

mental movie that played over and over again upon the silver screen of his mind. Knowing he

would be unable to stop it from playing, even had he wanted to, he easily surrendered to his

thoughts and allowed the aged and spotted film to roll.

 

He took another sip of merlot then closed his eyes and smiled.

 

Motive will be available in the spring of this coming year.  It will be available initially on Amazon.com and a few other places.

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An Evening With Sylvester Stallone

 AN EVENING WITH SYLVESTER STALLONE IN LONDON Hollywood’s much-loved action hero Sylvester Stallone is set to enthrall, enlighten and entertain the UK at a unique ‘An Evening With’ event at London’s iconic Central Hall, Westminster on Saturday, 11th January 2014. This un-missable event is an once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see one of the world’s biggest stars in the grandiose setting of Central Hall, Westminster. The event is presented by leading entertainment impresario and event organiser Rocco Buonvino and entrepreneur Joe Ricotta, in association with film producer and founder of entertainment company Sterling 2 Ent Teji Singh.

 

Sylvester Stallone, who is famed for his roles in such cult classics as Rocky, Rambo, Demolition Man and The Expendables, will treat the audience to an intimate evening of anecdotes about his illustrious career, private insights from his life as one of the world’s most admired screen idols as well as partaking in a special question and answer session with audience members.

Sylvester Stallone rose to worldwide recognition as an actor, writer and director since he played the title role in his own screenplay of Rocky, which won the Academy Award for Best Picture and was nominated for a staggering 10 Oscars. Rocky grew to a franchise of five sequels and in 2006 Stallone concluded the series with Rocky Balboa, a critical and audience success which resolutely confirmed both Stallone and Rocky as iconic cultural symbols. In more recent times, Stallone wrote, directed and starred in Rambo, which continued the saga of Vietnam vet John Rambo 25 years after the debut of Rambo: First Blood.

 

Stallone then released his most ambitious project, the action thriller The Expendables, which he wrote, directed and starred in, and for which he hired an all star action cast including Jason Statham, Mickey Rourke, Jet Li, Eric Roberts, Dolph Lungren and Steve Austin – as well as Bruce Willis and Arnold Schwarzenegger. It opened to Number One at the Box Office – making Stallone the only actor in Hollywood history to open a Number One film across five decades.

 

Seen as one of Hollywood’s most iconic stars, Sylvester Stallone will be seen at Christmas 2013 starring in Grudge Match with Robert DeNiro. In March, 2014, Rocky the Musical will open at The Winter Garden on Broadway. The musical is based on the original film written by Sylvester Stallone with music by Stephen Flaherty and Lyrics by Lynn Ahrens.

 

‘An Evening with Stallone’ is undoubtedly an exceptional occasion to catch an icon in the flesh. Tickets start from £45 (plus booking fee) and can be purchased from www.seatlive.com For VIP tickets, please contact Sterling Media on 020 7801 0077 or 07503 231 715.

House Of Cards Season 2 Preview

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Right after House of Cards was nominated for four Golden Globes, Netflix released the first trailer for Season 2; Kevin Spacey, Robin Wright and Carey Stoll were nominated for their roles, while the show was nominated for Best Drama Series.

“The road to power is paved with hypocrisy … and casualties,” Frank Underwood (Kevin Spacey), says. Expect this season to be darker, more brutal. We can’t wait for the February 14th 2014 release date. Let the butchery begin.

Hints And Tips On Choosing The Perfect Wedding Wines

hattie wineThere’s so much to think about when organising a wedding, but planning (and most importantly tasting) your wedding wines should be fun. So we’ve worked with Hattie’s Wines to bring you the top 10 tips for anyone thinking about wine for a wedding day.

1. Before you do anything else, work out what your venue will allow. Can you bring your own wines? Will they charge ‘corkage’ (a fee per bottle to let you bring your own)? Or do you have to choose from their wine list?

2. If you have to select from their list, make sure you ask to taste the wines that you’re thinking of choosing, ideally with the food you’re having, to check that you like them. If you’re struggling with the venue’s wine list, you can upload it to Hattie’s Wines for some free help, if you’d like.

3. If you can bring your own wines (yay!), the next step is to be clear on your budget, bearing in mind any corkage you might have to pay on top. On balance, while it’s great to splash out on some fabulous wines for such a special occasion, it’s also really important to make sure you don’t run out halfway through the meal, so if your budget is limited then consider some of the great value for money wines we’ve suggested below.

4. Next up, think about the food you’re having but also think about the people coming (younger crowd, trendy crowd, boozy crowd?!), the weather (if you can predict it!) and the time of day. Red wines can get quite heavy after a while, especially on a summer afternoon.

5. Most of us know the broad rule of thumb is to pair white wine with white meats and fish and red wine with red meat dishes. But like everything else you’re organising, this is your day, so do it your way. You might prefer to have a white wine with the starter and a red with the main, or both on the table at once for people to pour for themselves. In this instance, think about the weight of the wines and the foods – lighter wines with lighter foods and bigger wines with richer foods.

6. When you look for a wine supplier, make sure you’re able to get some good advice on what you’re buying – whoever you buy from should be happy to have a look at what you’re trying to achieve and help by advising you on the best wines for your needs and budget.

7. Don’t forget to consider the delivery options. It will probably be much easier for you if the wines are delivered direct a day or so in advance, then it’s one thing off your to-do list.

8. Get tough with your supplier, especially if you’re buying lots! Look into wine companies that can give you some kind of offer for a bulk purchase, e.g. free delivery or money off when you spend over a certain amount.

9. Don’t forget the bubbles! There are lots of times you may need to serve something sparkly, perhaps while guests are waiting for you to have your photos done and of course during the toasts. Splash out on Champagne if you can but if not don’t worry, there are some fantastic Proseccos and Cavas out there which will suit just as well.

10. And our final tip? Don’t worry about over-ordering – whatever you don’t drink can be taken home for you and your beloved to enjoy whilst perusing your wedding photos.

Some wedding wine suggestions from the Hattie’s wine list:

Aperitif / during photos:

Bach Extrisimo Semi-Seco Cava, £8.99. For those of you who don’t like their sparkling wines really, really dry, this will be music to your ears. It won’t make you suck your cheeks in (think lemon sherbets, or Victoria Beckham). Made in the Cava region, this is all apples, citrus and almonds in liquid form. A great alternative to Pimms.

White wines:

Clique Viognier, £8.99. This is a wine stuffed with gallons of juicy exotic fruits, from pineapple to grapefruit, but is still dry and highly drinkable. This is not the moment for British reserve – it’s time to kick off your shoes and dance like nobody’s watching. This is punchy, unabashed, unembarrassed joy. Oh and the label looks fab on the table!

Or splash out on Coulaudin Bussy Chablis Premier Cru, £14.99. A wonderfully fresh, lemony wine, but with real backbone. It’s ‘Premier Cru’ (more Marc Jacobs than Mark Owen) which means it’s even better quality than the average Chablis. This is the Chanel handbag of wine – a classic that accessorizes anything, and oozes style and sophistication – just like your big day.

Red wines:

Domaine d’Aumieres Merlot, £7.99. This little gem of a wine comes from a family that started making wine in this region over a century ago. So, they really know what they are doing. The beauty of this Merlot is in its simplicity – ripe, juicy and soft with baked plum fruit flavours. A definite crowd-pleaser!

Or splash out on Le Blason du Prince Chateauneuf du Pape, £14.99. It’s time for a celebration. A big classy celebration. Even the scantest French skills will pick out ‘prince’ and ‘chateau’ here, and should tell you that you’re dealing with something pretty regal. The flavours manage to be both restrained and powerful at the same time: a sophisticated glass of dark brambly fruit. The quintessential posh red wine – a princely bottle for the day’s princess!

Toast:

A toast to the happy couple deserves Champagne, and why not go pink with the Louis Massing Champagne Premier Cru, £19.99. Light and delicately done, but with lush redcurrant fruit flavours, and a twinkle in its eye.

Beyoncé Releases Visual Album

With the secret release of Beyoncé’s self titled visual album today, Queen Bey is the woman that everyone is taking about. Get Beyoncé’s music video looks from Soft Paris, as featured in ‘Jealous’ and ‘Haunted’.

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Beyonce released her new album which went straight to iTunes without warning in the middle of the night. She announced it on Instagram. Bearing a brand new music video for each of its 14 tracks as well as four bonus videos, we are pretty excited and just in time for Christmas too. Let’s hope someone puts it in our stocking (metaphorically anyway)  A 30-second preview is below. What do you think?

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Find The Perfect Watch For Your Loved One This Christmas

Marc by Marc Jacobs watch., marc jacobs, watch, Christmas,A watch is a great Christmas present but getting it right can be hard. We have a guide from Watchshop.com to make it easier.

Terry Markham, Buyer & Online Merchandiser of WatchShop.com says: “It’s important to try and find a watch that not only looks great, but suits the personality and lifestyle of the person you are buying it for. Luckily, today’s watches offer an incredible range of styles and themes to suit everyone. There are several things you should keep in mind when it comes to choosing the perfect watch for someone”

The Overall Look – Think about the watch recipient’s particular style and start from there. Tailor the choices to distinctive clothing they wear, there will be a watch to match it. The selection of watch designs available is incredible, from elegant silhouettes, through more contemporary and fashion led pieces, all the way to striking urban inspired designs or purpose built functional utility watches, there will be one that suits their style and lifestyle all at once.

Function over form over function – The most important thing to remember when choosing is the person’s lifestyle, and where and when they will wear the watch. If it is going to be worn on special formal occasions, features such as an alarm or GPS are probably not the most vital. Water resistance is a consideration at this point, it will start changing the options available. Think about the features which would be most useful for the person. Will they need a watch that has a temperature gauge or helps them train for marathons, or does it need to look good with a suit? Figure out the “must-have” features of their ideal watch, and then zero in on brands that are known to excel at them.

The Fine Details – Sometimes, it’s the smallest details that really make the watch special for the recipient. Today’s watches offer more exquisite and exciting embellishments than ever. From Swarovski crystals, and precious stones, to exotic materials and finishes, you can take your pick from a bevy of stylish touches. If you think the person you are buying for would appreciate some glitz and glamour, it’s easy to track down an affordable timepiece that offers a hint of luxury and a healthy dose of glitzy appeal. If they are more reserved, a brushed finish will give the subtlety they will appreciate.

Colours – Finally, nearly every imaginable shade and hue can be found amid today’s selection of watches, from a single detail picked out subtly to a complete watch. From lurid contrasting colours or vibrant solid-coloured pieces that pop out in exciting and eye-catching ways, to more subtle and understated looks that exude sophistication and glamour to any ensemble, it’s a snap to find watches that feature everyone’s favourite colour, or match their pallete and wardrobe.

Use this as a rough guide of what people need, from the way they would identify their ideal watch:

Strictly Fashion – If you think they will value looks over functionality then you may wish to opt for a fashion brand and skip the high-tech gadgetry. In this case, you should can select from a variety of budgets and select a watch that appeals in a purely visual way to their style.

All Business – Business people tend to be very demanding about the watches they wear, especially if they travel a lot. If you’re buying a watch for them to wear to the office on a regular basis, you’re probably going to want to select one with a more conservative style. Choose colours and finishes that will blend in and go along well with the majority of their wardrobe. It should be comfortable and durable, a dependable companion wherever the work day leads them.

Urban Lifestyles – City dwellers, and those who just prefer having a more urban edge, are going to want watches that offer a combination of style, excitement and technology. Life is fast-paced in the city, so it helps selecting a watch that will never be caught wanting. They will appreciate their watch being fun, cutting edge and very stylish to match their own lives.

Active Lifestyles – Even if the person you’re buying for is into extreme sports, you should be able to find a watch that’s more than up to the task. Almost every watchmaker these days offers water resistant timepieces, and there are many models that boast chronograph models to measure the time of their life. If they spend a lot of time doing outdoor activities, you’ll also want a watch that’s tough and durable, with a high water resistance.

There are so many different options when it comes down to buying a watch as a gift for somebody else. Don’t get overwhelmed, and just use what you know about them to buy a watch they will use and cherish for years to come.

The 12 Pitfalls of Christmas And How To Avoid Them

vivienne_imgWhen a relationship is already struggling , Christmas can intensify that struggle. Instead of being a happy celebratory time, Christmas completely drains the joy. If you are already feeling a little under the strain and under supported, this article is for you.

The 12 pitfalls of Christmas and how to avoid them

 1 Too High An Expectation

We all have the wish for the perfect, romantic moment with the perfect gift when all our Christmas fantasies come true. There is an enormous sense of expectation on the big day and a lot of people aiming for perfection. This quest for perfection and the best Christmas ever can drain us and render both our Christmas and our partner’s efforts a disappointment. We all deserve to be happy and sometimes happiness is best reached when we stop the pressure. High expectations usually only lead to …..

2 Disappointment

The disappointment can be crushing because it feels so symbolic, as though if we are unhappy even at Christmas then we must be fundamentally miserable together. We can feel that “we” as a couple don’t want the same things in life just because “we” don’t want the same things at Christmas.

Perhaps we need to compromise our expectations, agree on how we will spend our time and efforts. “Good enough” can be very happy indeed. Decide to do something lovely for each other, so you both experience your special moment, so that potential disappointments can be curbed this Christmas.

 3 Negative Mindset

If we feel we’ve over-compromised or that we’re taken for granted before we start, then we enter into any conversation with a negative attitude which sets us up to have an argument or to fail in general.

If we look for the negatives and only notice events or things that are less than perfect this can lead to……

4 Over reaction

We all have the ability to massively over react. If we are tense to begin with, then the seemingly small stuff can push us over the edge from calm and composed to tantrum and distress. The number of people that argue over the practicalities of Christmas is probably close to 100%.

One particularly stressful practicality is packing the car. Let’s face it, this is basically an argument in a boot!  Mindset is key when it comes to the arduous errands around Christmas. If you find yourself thinking “what a nightmare all this stuff is” and “no way is it all going to fit into the car” …. Think about this before the day of travel and also turn that around to think “how great that we can give so many presents” and “This is going to be so much fun”.

After all, why spend all this time and energy and money buying the presents if you’re going to complain about packing them and the subsequent journey?

Some people have better spatial awareness than others …. be honest with yourself … how good are you at filling every crevice efficiently?  If the other person insists on doing it, let them get stuck before you wade in with your suggestions.

 5 Who’s rule is it anyway?

Christmas can seem as though it comes with an invisible but very real rule book. This rule book to be based on absolutes about the fundamental questions such as, ‘Who to spend Christmas Day with?’   Often families feel they must spend Christmas together.  Christmas Day seems to be symbolic of family and therefore if you don’t spend it with your family, you feel judged that you aren’t behaving in an accepted way. These emotionally laden rules lead to …..

6 Stress in various relationships

Many couples argue over whose parents’ turn it is to visit, and whose tradition to follow.  It may seem uncharitable and selfish to spend time with people whose company you actually enjoy.
Just because you’ve spent it with one set of people for the past 5 years, doesn’t mean you would be insulting anyone to have a change.  Handling that situation need not be as difficult as you may fear it is.

Family dynamics go into over drive. Various family members can battle over status and following certain traditions can equate to personal victories or be perceived as slights. Siblings can start to regress into squabbles befitting adolescence not middle age!

Everything can feel as though there is a hidden agenda and negative communication; even gift giving can be perceived as point scoring.  Christmas day can be reduced into a competitive battle ground with everyone trying to assert their status, for example, who’s in charge, who carves, whose pudding is better, who wouldn’t have bought the pudding but made it from scratch, whose present is more expensive, better thought out?  Competitiveness creeps in to cause many underlying feelings of guilt and undermining. Christmas is reduced to a series of unpleasant negotiations.

Focusing on how you and your partner really want to spend Christmas in a fashion that will make you truly happy is the key to sidestepping the unpleasantness. Thinking about happiness as the goal of the day and not point proving or following arduous tradition keeps you on the right track.

7  Quest for perfection

Women can often feel that how well they “do” Christmas is symbolic of how much they love and how good a wife and homemaker they are.  Women can end up putting so much pressure on themselves to get it all perfect that they set themselves up to fail, because they become stressed and grumpy therefore less fun to be around. This stress can lead to ….

8  Feeling Overwhelmed

FUN is the point of Christmas for most of us.  So, if the process of preparation drains the joy of the day, then your priorities are misconstrued however well intentioned.

Children and even partners only notice the stress – they don’t know the difference between good enough and perfection. So halve your “to do” list and go without some of the food and events but do what you are doing with a smile and you will enjoy it to and so will they!

9  Feeling Lonely  

Generally, husbands/male partners tend to care and plan somewhat less and the other partner feels “slighted”  or dismissed … that what they want to talk about is irrelevant … and this feeling of being ignored leads to ….

10  A sense of isolation

We can all feel lonely in a crowded room and never more so than at Christmas. This sense of isolation and being on your own with everything can cause stress. You can feel as though you need to take responsibility for Christmas and the emotional wellbeing of everyone and this becomes overwhelming.

Christmas and its scripts can put emotions and relationships into intense mode …. you’re supposed to feel joy and it can work to the contrary by making you feel more lonely, less connected, less valued, more miserable.

Communication is key to avoiding this pitfall. Talk to your partner about what you need to. However, you also need to talk to yourself. Strategize your efforts so that they will pay off and not completely frazzle you. If you don’t get the help you need, do less. Be fair on yourself too so that you don’t feel alone with it all this Christmas.

11  Working too hard

One partner feels taken for granted.  One partner isn’t pulling the same weight in effort as the other.  It feels symbolic that “if my partner doesn’t care as much about Xmas as I do, that means he/she doesn’t love me”. This sense of disproportion within the relationship can lead to….

12  Arguments and Disappointment

Overall, there are high expectations and the whole feeling of pressure to make this the “absolutely perfect family day” … and then add some alcohol to that and emotions quickly rise to the surface causing tension.

So logistic planning is helpful eg who’s going to contribute foodwise/drinkswise/presents …. all of this needs careful discussion beforehand.

Financially, parents tend to spend lots of money on their kids and then that sometimes leaves less for your partner’s present eg combining a Christmas present with a birthday present … it becomes a financial transaction rather than a giving or romantic one.  This is not a positive attitude to present-giving unless fully agreed with the receiver.

It is a very extended time together from eg 10 am – 9pm or even longer when visiting relatives far away which means an overnight stay is included.  So if it’s someone you don’t see regularly because you don’t want to, that too brings huge pressure of interaction to spend 36-48 hours with those people.

If you feel your relationship is coming to an end, then buying presents for the maybe “last Xmas” feels like a death looming.
How to step over these pitfalls

Whatever you decide, make that a positive decision.  Go into the situation with a positive mindset …. set it up to succeed.

Think about it – any time you meet a person who is complaining, down on themselves, or generally miserable, then your heart sinks and you don’t feel so good.

When you are greeted by someone who is smiling, open and interested, you feel their energy and the joy begins.
Prepare as best you can regarding travel logistics, presents without going into huge debt and agreeing who makes the gravy.  Have all the necessary conversations so that everyone’s expectations are met.

If there are still some issues, this is where you have to decide whether you are going to spend time with these people or not.  And if you decide that you are going to be with them, then this is when you decide how you are going to feel and behave.  If you go in with a smile on your face, you will feel happier and your experience will be happier.

We can all survive and even enjoy Christmas 2013!

Mindset is the key to a happy and fun Christmas Day.

Wishing you a happy Christmas Day.

From: Vivienne Goldstein (Relationship Coach) and
Dr Lucy Atcheson (Psychologist)

We hope this article is helpful. If you would like some bespoke therapeutic support for your relationship at one of our workshops supporting women to enhance their relationships please contact us at

Lucy@counsellingpsychologistlondon.com or Viv@viviennegoldstein.com