SISTER SCRIBES: KIRSTEN HESKETH IN PRAISE OF WRITING GROUPS

Writing can be a lonely business and much has been written about writers seeking out other writers online. I’m a member of several online writing groups. I’m writing this article as one of the Sister Scribes; five writers who met through the RNA and banded together to become – hopefully – more than the sum of our parts. Then there’s the LLs – aka the Literary Lovelies – a group of writers who met through Twitter. Over the past four years, we’ve chatted most days, virtually cheering each other up and spurring each other on in our quest for world domination … er, publication. Geographically we’re scattered from Devon to Scotland via the home counties and Wales, but everyone makes a real effort to get together for lunch in London and the occasional retreat. Then there’s the informal support group that sprang up during Nano, another one that vents about politics, writers that met at the RNA conference, others that met during a virtual editing course … Wow – reading back through that lot, it’s a wonder I have enough time to do any writing at all!

All these groups have several things in common. We are all novelists- mostly writing romance or sagas or women’s commercial fiction. We are all – with a couple of honourable exceptions – woman. Most are seeking a publishing deal. And we are all – or mostly – ‘of a certain age’!

Which is partly why I love being part of my local writing group. I’ve been a member of Reading Writers for the past three years. It meets on the second and fourth Wednesdays of the month and it is gloriously diverse …. in age, gender and writing predilections. People are writing crime and thrillers, fantasy and sci fi and genres I’d barely heard of before. Many are busy with short stories or flash fiction or poetry or memoir. Lots have – or are planning to – self-publish. Some are biding their time while they learn about the craft of writing.

It all makes for a wonderfully vibrant and exciting group, one that pushes you outside your comfort zone and makes you look at your own writing though fresh eyes. I’ve written before about our ad hoc writing sessions in Coppa Club where a small group of us will meet for a morning to put our writing worlds to rights – before cracking on with the wordcount. A workshop on poetry and another on writing using all the senses really encouraged me to reassess my prose. The one on plotting had me stocking up on multi-coloured Post It Notes. Everyone other meeting is a ‘manuscript night’ where you are encouraged to submit 1,000 words of your WIP – the feedback is robust but invaluable – for example, last time, the 20 and 30 year olds in the group told me exactly why and how the online dating world is not how I had described it #imadinosaur #whoknew?. There have been book launches and pub visits and days out and going to the pantomime that one of the members had written.

And the competitions! Twice my short stories have come second – anonymously judged by external authors or journalists – and both times it was genuinely thrilling – the first and only times my writing has ever won anything. The certificates still have pride of place on the fridge.

All in all, it’s a fabulous group and I’m very proud to be a member of it.

The current treasurer’s a bit rubbish though 😉

 

Living with Alzheimers – A Typical Day by Chris Suich

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Bob wakes up at 8am today. His head has moved from his pillow to mine. How did that happen? I always put his head squarely in the middle of his pillow so how does he move to mine? He tries to get as near to me as he can because he needs the warmth and reassurance of my skin on his, even my breath when I breathe. It is a bit claustrophobic but I understand.
‘Are you Gary?’ he asks
‘I hope not,’ I answer
‘I’m Chris. ‘
‘Yes, you’re Chris, my number one’
‘I’m your wife. We’ve been together forty years’
‘I love you.’
This will be the start of 50 ‘I love yous’ throughout the day. Then it’s straight into the routine- helping him out of bed and toileting him, then the bath.

‘I’m not going in there.’
‘You are, but I will help you. I’m making it bubbly and warm ,and you’ve got your magic mat in, so you won’t slip.’
‘I’m not going in there!’
‘But I want to make you look lovely and smart, and make your lovely silver hair shine with my special shampoo.‘
He considers for a moment. ‘How do I get in? I’m going to fall.’
‘No, you’re not, because I’ve got you.’
‘Okay,’ he relents. ‘Just for you.’

I place Bob’s hand in the sink tell him to lift his leg up and guide it into the bath water. I tell him to hold onto the bath handle with his other hand and he cautiously and shakily lifts his other leg in. He won’t sit down though, so the bath is not happening.
‘Sit down , I will help you.’ I hook my arm under his arm pit and guide him downwards.
He sits.

‘I’m all wet now!’
‘Yes, well you are getting washed.’
Then onto  the trauma of the wash and the hair washing. I’m as quick as I can be because Bob wants to get out as soon as he gets in. I guide him out and dry him. He has no idea how to help. His limbs are heavy and leaden. I have to push his arms into the sleeves and lift his legs into jeans and shoes. All clean and fresh.

Next is the pills and shave. I’m knackered already and it’s only 8.45am.
First go with the pills and he spits them out. I pick them up and we have another go. ‘All swigged down.‘

Now the shave. But Bob is having none of it.
‘No, no no,’ he says
‘I’ll be quick. ‘
‘No. I hate it!’
‘Don’t be cross,’  I say and give him a kiss.
He melts. ‘Okay, just for you.’
So I get my way and he has his wet shave. I’m getting better at it, and quicker.

My lovely handsome husband. Aftershave Jo Malone, only the best!

The Last Minute Christmas Gift List

nana hot and not duvet

We cannot recommend the Nanu Hot and Not Duvet enough. You can customise it so one side is hot and the other hot. You can do with this various degrees. I cannot believe no one thought of it before. Martial harmony for Christmas? Yes please.

Available here.

hey grandude. paul mccartney's

This children’s book from Paul McCartney, and illustrated by Kathryn Durst, is lots of fun and visually stunning. My children loved the story and I have now read it to them more times than I can count. Highly recommended.

Available here.

luvabella newborn doll

This Luvabella Newborn is a wonderful toy for boys and girls. It is great for imaginative play and teaching children how to care for babies. It is well made and comes with great accessories.

Available here.

moft laptop stand

This Moft Laptop stand is a great, and stunning, design. It is easy to use, has adjustable height and attaches and detaches with ease. It is small enough to fit into a stocking making it a perfect Christmas gift.

Available here.

beats solo pro ivory

Beats Solo Pro. Sigh. I love beats. You have not heard a song properly until you have heard it through a pair of Beats. They are the headphones of music lovers. These ones in particular have brilliant noise cancelling and they are wireless. This along with 22 hours battery life? Love.

Available here.

Are you watching book

Vincent Ralph has written a stunner. A lot of crime thrillers just have women being brutalised and murdered in them. This book is different. Yes, there are murdered women, most notably the murder of the main character’s mother. But this is a feminist crime thriller. It is a modern tale and a riveting read. I could not put these down. My favourite crime book this year.

Available here.

The bear in the fifth floor flat book

Written by John Foley and Illustrated by Alice Hawthorn, this is a brilliant book and on top of that, all proceeds go to Mencap, the UK’s leading charity for people with a learning disability. A must buy for two reasons.

Available here.

perky pear tit tape, lift and shape tape.

Perky Pear is the original life and shape tape. It is perfect for Christmas parties and beyond. Sweat proof and waterproof, it is made of cotton. It is easy to use when you get the hang of it.

Available here.

Yardley Perfumes Gift Set reviewed by Natalie Jayne Peeke. West Country correspondent.

Yardley is renowned for their luxury fragrances, bath and body products. I received a charming gift set that included 5 10ml floral fragrances which includes English Lavender, English Rose, Lily of the Valley, English Bluebell and English Fressia. The fragrances were beautifully packaged in a little gift box.

I sampled the perfumes and they are absolutely gorgeous, my favourite being English Rose. Each scent is light and not at all overpowering. The fragrances stayed on my clothes all day often resulting in compliments of the floral fragrance.

As there is a mixture of fragrances I believe that they would make a beautiful gift for most women who appreciate delicate floral scents.

The gift set is just £10 from www.boots.com .

Michael Rowan makes up for Christmases past and indulges his taste buds in Christmas Present even as he looks forward to Christmas Future, at Ladurée,

1 The Market, WC2E 8RA, London.

Covent Garden is one of the best places in London to people watch and I must have passed Ladurée a hundred times, situated as it is, on the busy corner of Covent Garden Market.

I have often admired the pastel coloured macaroons in the window and watched people choosing from the breakfast or lunch menu, seated outside amongst the original cobbles.

So how is that I have never sat down to enjoy a breakfast or lunch Parisian style?

These are questions that I am unable to answer, but I know for certain that as this Christmas approaches, this is the place you are most likely to find me.

This year Ladurée has teamed up with the Canadian Chef, Patrice Demers to bring a unique and scrumptious approach to Christmas.

In my childhood Yule Logs were more traditional than tasty, so imagine my delight to discover the fabulous range offered by Ladurée. Any of these Yule Logs would make a showstopping centre piece for the Christmas table.

Their signature Yule Log, ‘Atoca’ has a beautiful balance between sharp cranberry and sweet maple syrup with Chocolate Mousse and Chantilly Cream. (£8.00 for an individual Yule log or £36.00 for a log serving 4 people).

‘La Marquise’ features a hazelnut dacquoise and pieces of hazelnut in a Sachertorte sponge, crisp hazelnut wafer and hazelnut cream and a velvety milk chocolate mousse. . (£7.50 for an individual Yule Log and £32.00 for a log serving 4)

‘La Favorite’ has a base of pistachio macaron and buttercream infused with pistachio together with a delicately flaked praline as subtle as it is delicious. (£7.50 for an individual Yule Log and £36.00 for a log serving 4)

More traditional flavours possibly, are to be found in ‘La Duchesse’ Yule Log featuring a Genoese sponge soaked in aged dark rum, chestnut mousse and candied chestnut pieces. (£7.50 for an individual Yule Log and £36.00 for a log serving 4)

The show stopping ‘Marie Antoinette’ Yule Log is described by Ladurée as iconic and having tasted this I am unable to disagree. A mouth-watering confection of macaron, rose infused buttercream with a raspberry and lychee jam. (£7,50 for an individual Yule Log and £52.00 for a log serving 6)

There is for me but one problem and that is, which to choose. Each Yule Log is as elegant as it is delicious and I simply could not choose a favourite. The individual logs are available from 4th to the 31st of December whilst the larger logs go on sale from 11th to 31st of December so plenty of time to try them all.

What would Christmas be without Mince Pies and this year Ladurée has launched its take on this festive treat. Bite sized puff pastry with a traditional spiced fruity filling and a crumble topping offer a melody of textures that go perfectly with a cup of delicious tea or coffee. (£1.95 each or £8.70 for a gift box containing 4 mince pies, available from the 4th of December)

Continuing the theme of partnership Ladurée have also teamed up with Moet & Chandon to produce two stylish hampers containing both champagne and elegant comestibles. Beautifully packaged these hampers would make the perfect give for loved ones or clients and are bound to delight. (£66.00 and £96.00 available from 6th of November.

If like me you know Ladurée for their macarons you will not be disappointed by their Christmas selection which includes Pecan and Maple Syrup; Haskap (the Canadian Blue Honeysuckle); dark chocolate and Labrador Tea. Beautifully packaged with maple and pine branches motif there is no need to wrap this gift.

Gift boxes are available containing 8, 12 and 24 macarons and are priced at £19.50; £28.00; £52.50 respectively.

A special mention for the L’eau de Nil and gold coloured Treasure Chest, containing 200 glorious macarons some of which can be customised with a name or simply ‘Merry Christmas.’ The hamper costs £620.00, so it is a gift for someone very special, but what a show stopper.

If all this Christmas shopping has made you weary Ladurée have carried their Canadian theme one step further with their Christmas and Canadian French Toast (£14.00) or make an occasion of it and treat yourself to their Christmas Afternoon Tea. (£42.00/£48.00 per person and available from 4th to 31st December)

A trip to Ladurée, Covent Garden is a deliciously indulgent treat, but with all the hard work involved in getting ready for Christmas, surely you deserve it?

www.laduree.co.uk

Michael Rowan discovers that you can have a good night and a great day thanks to this latest hangover prevention available from yetiandthefox.com

 

When younger and invited to Christmas parties the only questions I ever asked were ‘when and where?’

These days I am far more likely to check what plans I have for the following day and if a monumental hangover is going to be a price worth paying.

I have had these ‘Good Night, Great Day’ capsules on my desk for some weeks, not wishing to waste them on a few drinks, unlikely to result in a hangover.

The longer they remained untouched the more my scepticism grew, but finally myself and a friend arranged to go out in London and knowing my friend, I suspected that the dreaded hangover was only a day away.

We met for a late lunch and plumped for the tasting menu which had 5 courses with an accompanying glass of wine, (white, red and a Sherry- see the lengths I am willing to go to for you?)

After a short walk we found ourselves in a favourite wine bar, where we shared a bottle of white and a glass of red.

From the wine bar to a cocktail bar where we each had three rather tasty cocktails (all in the name of science you understand)

I had dutifully taken two capsules before I began drinking alcohol much to the bemusement of our waiter.

I also took the precaution (but my friend didn’t) of placing a capsule next to a toothbrush, so I didn’t forget to take it when I returned home.

Given my earlier scepticism you can imagine my surprise, when I woke up this morning without a hangover. I laid in bed for a good 10 minutes, convinced that it was going to kick in at any moment but no, I feel fine.

I also contacted my forgetful friend who reports a hangover, so it would seem that you must take all three capsules to fully benefit.

The capsules boost liver function and increase energy levels whilst being the mother of all antioxidants, helping to reduce those unwanted effects from the night before.

I appreciate that this is not a scientific review and all I can say is that on this occasion, they most definitely worked for me.

However, they are not an excuse for drinking irresponsibly and the lack of a hangover does not mean that you will necessarily be fit to drive the next morning. So please, always be drink aware.

That said, if you think that there is an occasion when you may drink more than usual, these capsules could just be the thing to ensure that you have a Good Night and a Great Day!

Good NIGHT, Great DAY Capsules can be found at yetiandthefox.com with prices starting at just £6.00.

 

 

Nudea, Fit-Focused Lingerie Rebellion

Newly launched Nudeawww.nudea.com is a new fit-centric intimates brand offering expertly crafted, comfortable lingerie that fits without compromising on a feminine aesthetic. ‘Nudea’, meaning new goddess, is fuelled by an obsession with fit and inclusivity and embraces the cultural shift away from overtly sexy lingerie to a more modern, body-positive attitude. Appealing to modern-minded women, Nudea offers a wide size range, neutral, contemporary colour palettes and hero styles designed and created for real women with real bodies.

I have tried a pair of their knickers and they are great. They also have a revolutionary tape measure for finding out your real bra size. I find people, even professionals, tend to get it wrong and then you are left wearing an uncomfortable bra which causes welts and pain. See the tape measure here.

Nudea, Fit-Focused Lingerie Rebellion

New Research Reveals Almost 50% of British Women Haven’t Been Measured 

For A Bra In Over 5 Years  

October 2019 – launching this month, Nudea, www.nudea.com, is a new fit-centric intimates brand offering expertly crafted, comfortable lingerie that fits without compromising on a feminine aesthetic. ‘Nudea’, meaning new goddess, is fuelled by an obsession with fit and inclusivity and embraces the cultural shift away from overtly sexy lingerie to a more modern, body-positive attitude. Appealing to modern-minded women, Nudea offers a wide size range, neutral, contemporary colour palettes and hero styles designed and created for real women with real bodies. 

Nudea has conducted extensive research of over 600 British women in a pioneering size and fit research and development process. Highlights of this in-depth research reveal:

  • Two-thirds of women reported having had a body change (weight loss or gain, pregnancy or surgery) in the previous 6 months, yet less than 20% had been measured for a bra in the past year despite these changes having a direct effect on their bra size.
  • Almost 50% of women surveyed hadn’t been measured for a bra for over 5 years.
  • Only 8% of women claimed to have no issue with their bra, which means that 92% see room for improvement. 
  • Only 10% of women measured themselves to the correct size vs. a professional bra fitter. 11% were just one size out but a massive 79% of women were wearing both the wrong band and cup size.
  • Nudea’s research workshops also revealed that younger shoppers want more modern choices for getting fitted, finding the idea of stripping down in front of a Bra Fitter in a department store old-fashioned and unappealing.
  • The UK average bra size is 36DD; Nudea’s research sample found 34DD was the most popular size and the 34 and 36 the most popular band sizes.   

Nudea CEO and Co-Founder, Priya Downes, comments: We’re obsessed with fit. For the past two years, we have researched more than 600 amazing women to understand the biggest issues they face when getting fitted, choosing and purchasing a bra. Using this data, we have dissected, re-engineered, fit-tested and wear-tested the 20+ components that make up even the most basic of bras, all with fit and comfort in mind

We want women to find their fit, no matter their shape or size. By giving women the tools to achieve comfort and style via an online fit quiz, fit parties and Nudea’s bespoke tape measure, women needn’t dread the stuffy, poorly lit fitting room experience any longer.

Nudea Creative Director and Co-Founder, Sophie Morgenthaler, adds:Nudea’s mission is simple: to create beautifully crafted, functional underwear that not only fits and looks better, but can be worn throughout the day without compromising on comfort. We really are rebelling against badly fitted lingerie. By marrying the best new high-performance technology fabrics, lightweight hardware and bonding techniques with a design-led aesthetic, we are delivering smooth, invisible and lightweight finishes across Nudea’s debut collections.”

The Ritual Yearbook – Theresa Cheung. Reviewed by Mary Cooper

 

365 Simple Daily Practices to Boost Happiness & Fulfilment

 

I was emptying the dishwasher the other day and stabbed myself on a sharp knife as I reached in. I didn’t see it. Why not, I wondered, it was so obvious.

 

Later, while talking to my brother we discussed the simple philosophy of how sometimes things are right in front of us but we don’t see them, are we so preoccupied with other things that we are not paying attention to the matter in hand? Looking but not seeing or looking from the wrong angle?

 

Theresa Cheung’s The Ritual Yearbook is, for a personal growth and spiritual development book, surprisingly down to earth. It is full of insights into how we see ourselves and how to be the best we can be.

 

With just a few minor changes to our days she suggests that simple things: making our bed as soon as we rise, having a good stretch each morning, getting out in the fresh air, are all rituals that can transform our lives. Even smiling in the mirror at ourselves each day (not so easy first thing in the morning unless you do it before you put your glasses on) can have a transformative effect.

 

The one ritual I found difficult at first was writing down things I’m grateful for. Theresa suggests writing three things each day.

 

At first I felt slightly overwhelmed. Was I grateful for the rain, the sun, the trees and to be alive?

 

Yes, I am grateful for those things but I’m also grateful for small things: My comfy bed, my warm house, my phone. And because I am grateful for these things, I realise that I don’t have to feel guilty that I have them.

 

I have watched Theresa Cheung on a podcast with Russell Brand, and with Piers Morgan on Good Morning Britain. Sometimes she looked nervous but she held her own and was never lost for words, not even when faced with a barrage of disbelief from certain interviewers.

 

The Ritual Yearbook has given me permission to believe that, if I follow the rituals and look at the world from a different angle, everything will be ok.

 

Theresa Cheung allows me to believe in angels.

The Ritual Yearbook: pb £14.99