Poppy by Janet Pinder

Although she’s never made the list in the US, Poppy, as a name, is on a rising graph in England, Scotland, and Wales.  She is also popular in Australia and New Zealand.

In Latin the meaning of the Name ‘Poppy’ is ‘Flower’ and ones first thoughts turn to the colourful garden flowers which the dictionary describes as ‘any of a numerous genus of plants having red, orange or white flowers and a milky sap’.  Google on the other hand talks about a ‘flowering plant in the subfamily Papaveroideae of the family Papaveraceae. Poppies are herbaceous plants, often grown for their colourful flowers’.  

Another Google quote tells us ‘Poppy flowers can vary largely in colour, but are commonly identified as red. This led to an association with death, and may explain the adoption of the poppy as a symbol for rembrance of WW1 victims.

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The use of the poppy as a symbol of remembrance was however inspired by the poem ‘In Flanders Fields’ and must be the most familiar subject that we associate with this flower.

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On a recent shopping trip, as I had not yet managed to buy a poppy I left my Husband, reading his Bucks Free Press in the coffee shop, to look for a special one that I wanted.  I returned empty handed only to be greeted with “Prepare yourself for some bad news”.

It was the announcement in the death column of a very old friend.  Poppy; an ex neighbour whom we had known since the early 60s.  She had been a very good neighbour and friend to the family when our boys were very young.  They affectionately called her Mrs Poppy.  She would always do anything for anyone.  Her kitchen was open daily for morning tea to all the regular tradesmen – postman, milkman and others. She organised and ran the village help line for the sick and elderly, shopping for others, arranging lifts for doctors appointments and any other matter in which she could help.  ‘The Salt of the Earth’ was one description given to her at her funeral.

Years ago she had told me she was born on 11th November, I believe at 11 o’clock which is why she was given her name, so it should not have been any surprise to me that with her death being at this time of the year, the family had chosen that same date and time for her funeral although I was puzzled by the start time given in the paper of 10.45.  It was soon apparent that everyone needed to be in the church promptly, for at 11 o’clock, before the actual service started, we were guided to participate with the rest of the country in the two minutes silence that is observed on this day at this time when we remember the gallant men and women who gave their lives in all the conflicts around the world and their family and friends that they left behind.

At this time I also like to add my thanks that I was one of the lucky ones whose Father came home, seemingly uninjured, although he spoke very little of his experiences.  It was a very moving start to a funeral – one I have not experienced before nor probably will again.

I just wonder how many other people in this world have had the same date and time for both birth and funeral and what the probability is of this happening on November 11th- especially to someone called Poppy.

 

 

Campaign Launched For Mothers To Be Included On Marriage Certificates

Wedding bride and groomI recently went to my local council with my fiancé to give notice to marry and was both shocked and appalled to learn that mothers are not included on marriage certificates in England. In Scotland and Northern Ireland mothers are included, but not in England. This essentially whitewashes women out of the history of their own children. Mothers carry their children for nine months and then go through the pain of labour and risk their lives to give birth to them, apparently this isn’t enough to be included on their marriage certificate.

It was upon reading this excellent guest post on Mumsnet by Ailsa Burkimsher Sadler that I decided that enough is enough. So I have signed her campaign and you should to. After all, without women the world would cease to exist. Yet the children that we have get a man’s surname slapped on them and then we are not even important enough to be included on their marriage certificate. As Alisa says in her blog post: “Did you know that marriage certificates in England and Wales include a section for the names and occupations of the fathers of the bride and groom, but the names and occupations of their mothers are not allowed to be recorded?

In Scotland and Northern Ireland information about mothers is included. Civil Partnerships also recognise mothers, unlike same sex marriages, which mirror their heterosexual counterparts.

‘So what?’ I hear some corners of the internet cry – ‘haven’t we got bigger fish to fry?’ But imagine you’ve brought up your child on your own – when the most important day of their life comes along you won’t be legally acknowledged, and the absent father will be. And if you’ve raised a child together, imagine that only he is considered important enough to give his blessing to the union. And it’s about more than a hurtful snub – it’s about the erasing of women from the civil and legal system of which marriage is a central part. We’re writing women out of history, and it seems indicative of a society where decisions are made by men to suit men. ”

Enough is enough: please also sign the petition so we can end the sexism. 33,000 people have so far. Thank you.

Catherine

Follow Alisa here: Twitter: @nameequality

 

Should You Change Your Name After You Marry? | The Wedding Diary

We live in modern times and tradition is something ever-changing. Some traditional things last, and some just don’t. Others, like a woman taking her husbands name after they marry, actually become controversial. My favourite motto to live by in life is, ‘live and let live’. But, yet, it seems we can’t.

Some woman see submission or sexism when a woman changes her name. But where did that woman get her name? And where did her mother get hers?, and her grandmother? To stop it now feels like closing the stable after the horse has long bolted.

All of this does make me sound pro changing my name, I know. I am in a bit of a muddle with it to be honest. Part of my thinks it is something to do if you have children, so you can be a family ushould you change your name after you marry? wedding, weddings, name change, marriage, wedding diarynit, the stories of woman being stopped at airports because they have a different surname from their children are common. If I have children I certainly don’t want to have a different surname than them. It would just be too weird. This means I have to take my fiancee’s name, he has to take mine or we have to double-barrel our names. That is if we have children. If we don’t, does it really matter? Part of me thinks not.

There is a part in The Crucible when John Proctor has two choices: change his name or die. He chooses to die, “It is my name”, he says; “I cannot have any other”. This is a pretty extreme example but I remember watching TV with a friend. There was a woman with a very long double-barreled surname. My friend commented on the ridiculousness of her name; “Oh, just lose your ego woman!” But it is not just ego is it? It’s your identity. My name is me. Well, actually, my name is a stage name, albeit one that I use for everything now. It belonged to my grandmother, a Lithuanian who died when she was only 40 of kidney failure. Not surprisingly, I would like this to live on. I am only a handful of people in the world with the surname ‘Balavage’. An Anglo take on ‘Bullovich’. You see? Surnames, they change. As does identity. I even pronounce my surname differently than she would have: Ba Lav age, with a quiet ‘V’. At my friends Nick Cohen’s book launch, the amazing writer Francis Wheen complimented my on my surname, ‘Like a glamorous French actress’. I have pronounced it the way he said it ever since.

So when I marry I have a few choices: change my real name and keep my stage name, change my name completely and just keep Balavage for acting, or double-barrel my name. I have until next year to decide, but I am already in a pickle. What to do?

It is not about feminism or inequality. If a woman wants to take her new husbands name, she should be able to, if a man wants to change his, he should and if a woman wants to keep or double-barrel her name, she should be able to without rudeness: it’s her identity after all: Live and let live.

 What do you think? Will you change your name?

 

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge Leave Hospital With Baby Prince

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge have emerged from the Lindo Wing with their son. Both happy parents cradled their newborn son as they stood on the steps of St Margaret’s Hospital in-keeping with tradition. Kate looked radiant and happy in a cornflower blue dress by Jenny Packham.

William said: “He’s got a good pair of lungs on him that’s for sure. He’s quite heavy. We’re still working on a name.’ He also spoke about the wait for the birth, “I will remind him of his tardiness when he’s older as I know how long you lot have been out here.” He also complemented his wife’s looks, saying:”He’s got her looks that’s for sure!” and also joked that his son had more hair than him. Kate said that William had already changed his first nappy.

Duke and Duchess of Cambridge leave hospital with baby sonPrince of CambridgePrince Charles and Camilla visit grandchildKate and William with baby son

Kate gave birth to their son at 16:24 yesterday (22/7/2013) and Kensington Palace announced the birth via email at 20:32. The couples son weighted 8lbs 6oz and William was present for the birth.

Carole and Michael Middleton saw their grandchild at the Lindo Wing earlier today. They were followed by Charles and Camilla. Charles said that the birth was ‘marvellous’.

The baby will be called HRH Prince or Princess X of Cambridge, and will one day be head of the armed forces, supreme governor of the Church of England, and the head of state of 16 countries, as well as head of the Commonwealth.

What is your take on the Royal Baby? Were you excited? What do you think it should be called?

Will The Royal Baby Be Elizabeth III?

Will the Royal Baby be Elizabeth III? Duchess and Duke of CambridgeAfter months of royal baby speculation, it appears the nation believes the new royal arrival will be a girl named Elizabeth born on the 7th July.

These predictions came out top in a poll of nearly 4,000 fellow expectant mums who were asked to guess the sex, name and the date the royal baby would arrive on parenting website Bounty.com.

Despite recent rumours of Harry letting it slip that the royal couple are expecting a boy and Kate buying a blue Bugaboo pram, two thirds still believe the new arrival will be a princess.

And when it comes to naming their firstborn, most think the couple will be ‘keeping it in the family’ with Elizabeth the most popular choice, closely followed by Diana, Victoria and Alexandra.

These echo the recent ‘Royal Baby Odds’ released by Ladbrokes, which favour Kate giving birth to a girl at 2-5 with the same names as front-runners at 6-1.

Lisa Penney, spokesmum for Bounty.com, whose ‘Royal Baby Guesser’ competition is asking new mums and pregnant women to cast their predictions for the royal baby. “Everyone loves a royal baby and as speculation reaches fever pitch we thought it would be fun to ask our members for their own predictions,” says Lisa.

“The results show even though Kate and Wills are seen as modern, contemporary royals, people still think they will plump for a traditional royal name.”

When it comes to boys names, George – most widely rumoured to be favoured by the couple for a son – comes out on top, followed by James, Henry and Edward.

Interestingly, it seems new mums are already taking name inspiration from the royals with Bounty Parenting Club’s most recent baby names report revealing both George and James were among the top ten names given to baby boys by new parents in April.

However, the ‘most likely for a princess’ girls names have some catching up to do with Elizabeth the 42nd most popular name given to baby girls in April, Alexandra the 69th, whilst Diana just makes the top 100 at 84th.

And despite recent reports of a ‘family friend’ letting it slip that the baby is due on 13th July, 7th July came out top as the date believed most likely for the baby making its arrival, followed by the 17th and the 14th July.

Lisa continues: “Our records show that year after year parents continue to be influenced by popular culture and celebrity, so it’s highly likely that whatever name the royal couple go for they’ll be setting a baby-naming trend for the future.

“And it does seem that even rumours surrounding the possible name they’ll go for are enough to inspire new parents. Our latest baby data shows sharp increases since the beginning of the year for Diana (up 200%), Elizabeth (up 22%) and George (up 10%), leaping up seven places to become the eighth most popular name for baby boys in the UK.”

There is still time to take part in bounty.com’s ‘royal baby guesser’ competition for your chance to win a ‘Princess for a Day’ experience worth £1,000. Visit http://www.bounty.com/royal-baby/royal-baby-competition to case your own predictions.


TOP TEN PRINCESS NAME PREDICTIONS

1.      Elizabeth

2.      Diana

3.      Victoria

4.      Alexandra

5.      Charlotte

6.      Sophia

7.      Emily

8.      Mary

9.      Grace

10.    Olivia

 

TOP TEN PRINCE NAME PREDICTIONS

1.      George

2.      James

3.      Henry

4.      Edward

5.      Charles

6.      William

7.      Philip

8.      Alexander

9.      Arthur

10.    Richard

 

TOP TEN BIRTH DATE PREDICTIONS

1.      7th July

2.      17th July

3.      14th July

4.      15th July

5.      6th July

6.      12th July

7.      16th July

8.      10th July

9.      5th July

10.    3rd July

What do you think the royal baby will be called?

 

Time For Personalisation With Nameplates?

In today’s samey world a little personalisation never goes amiss. In fact signs and symbols accompany our lives at every turn, and in the office that can make employees feel like they are part of the business family. Nothing is more satisfying for an employee than starting in the bottom rung of a company and working their way up to an office and personal nameplates.

Whether we are driving or in a store, signs let us know where to go and warn us of danger ahead. In fact a world without signs would be a scary one indeed, and definitely one that is less interesting. And can you imagine trying to find your way around a hospital without nameplates on the door? You would never know what doctor to go to. A world without nameplates and signs would be hard to navigate.

In fact I think nameplates are so cool, and a sign that you have arrived, that I am thinking of getting my own nameplate, as the editor-at-large of this very magazine. It is going to feel very satisfying. Why not?

If you had your own nameplate what would it say?