The 12 Pitfalls of Christmas And How To Avoid Them

vivienne_imgWhen a relationship is already struggling , Christmas can intensify that struggle. Instead of being a happy celebratory time, Christmas completely drains the joy. If you are already feeling a little under the strain and under supported, this article is for you.

The 12 pitfalls of Christmas and how to avoid them

 1 Too High An Expectation

We all have the wish for the perfect, romantic moment with the perfect gift when all our Christmas fantasies come true. There is an enormous sense of expectation on the big day and a lot of people aiming for perfection. This quest for perfection and the best Christmas ever can drain us and render both our Christmas and our partner’s efforts a disappointment. We all deserve to be happy and sometimes happiness is best reached when we stop the pressure. High expectations usually only lead to …..

2 Disappointment

The disappointment can be crushing because it feels so symbolic, as though if we are unhappy even at Christmas then we must be fundamentally miserable together. We can feel that “we” as a couple don’t want the same things in life just because “we” don’t want the same things at Christmas.

Perhaps we need to compromise our expectations, agree on how we will spend our time and efforts. “Good enough” can be very happy indeed. Decide to do something lovely for each other, so you both experience your special moment, so that potential disappointments can be curbed this Christmas.

 3 Negative Mindset

If we feel we’ve over-compromised or that we’re taken for granted before we start, then we enter into any conversation with a negative attitude which sets us up to have an argument or to fail in general.

If we look for the negatives and only notice events or things that are less than perfect this can lead to……

4 Over reaction

We all have the ability to massively over react. If we are tense to begin with, then the seemingly small stuff can push us over the edge from calm and composed to tantrum and distress. The number of people that argue over the practicalities of Christmas is probably close to 100%.

One particularly stressful practicality is packing the car. Let’s face it, this is basically an argument in a boot!  Mindset is key when it comes to the arduous errands around Christmas. If you find yourself thinking “what a nightmare all this stuff is” and “no way is it all going to fit into the car” …. Think about this before the day of travel and also turn that around to think “how great that we can give so many presents” and “This is going to be so much fun”.

After all, why spend all this time and energy and money buying the presents if you’re going to complain about packing them and the subsequent journey?

Some people have better spatial awareness than others …. be honest with yourself … how good are you at filling every crevice efficiently?  If the other person insists on doing it, let them get stuck before you wade in with your suggestions.

 5 Who’s rule is it anyway?

Christmas can seem as though it comes with an invisible but very real rule book. This rule book to be based on absolutes about the fundamental questions such as, ‘Who to spend Christmas Day with?’   Often families feel they must spend Christmas together.  Christmas Day seems to be symbolic of family and therefore if you don’t spend it with your family, you feel judged that you aren’t behaving in an accepted way. These emotionally laden rules lead to …..

6 Stress in various relationships

Many couples argue over whose parents’ turn it is to visit, and whose tradition to follow.  It may seem uncharitable and selfish to spend time with people whose company you actually enjoy.
Just because you’ve spent it with one set of people for the past 5 years, doesn’t mean you would be insulting anyone to have a change.  Handling that situation need not be as difficult as you may fear it is.

Family dynamics go into over drive. Various family members can battle over status and following certain traditions can equate to personal victories or be perceived as slights. Siblings can start to regress into squabbles befitting adolescence not middle age!

Everything can feel as though there is a hidden agenda and negative communication; even gift giving can be perceived as point scoring.  Christmas day can be reduced into a competitive battle ground with everyone trying to assert their status, for example, who’s in charge, who carves, whose pudding is better, who wouldn’t have bought the pudding but made it from scratch, whose present is more expensive, better thought out?  Competitiveness creeps in to cause many underlying feelings of guilt and undermining. Christmas is reduced to a series of unpleasant negotiations.

Focusing on how you and your partner really want to spend Christmas in a fashion that will make you truly happy is the key to sidestepping the unpleasantness. Thinking about happiness as the goal of the day and not point proving or following arduous tradition keeps you on the right track.

7  Quest for perfection

Women can often feel that how well they “do” Christmas is symbolic of how much they love and how good a wife and homemaker they are.  Women can end up putting so much pressure on themselves to get it all perfect that they set themselves up to fail, because they become stressed and grumpy therefore less fun to be around. This stress can lead to ….

8  Feeling Overwhelmed

FUN is the point of Christmas for most of us.  So, if the process of preparation drains the joy of the day, then your priorities are misconstrued however well intentioned.

Children and even partners only notice the stress – they don’t know the difference between good enough and perfection. So halve your “to do” list and go without some of the food and events but do what you are doing with a smile and you will enjoy it to and so will they!

9  Feeling Lonely  

Generally, husbands/male partners tend to care and plan somewhat less and the other partner feels “slighted”  or dismissed … that what they want to talk about is irrelevant … and this feeling of being ignored leads to ….

10  A sense of isolation

We can all feel lonely in a crowded room and never more so than at Christmas. This sense of isolation and being on your own with everything can cause stress. You can feel as though you need to take responsibility for Christmas and the emotional wellbeing of everyone and this becomes overwhelming.

Christmas and its scripts can put emotions and relationships into intense mode …. you’re supposed to feel joy and it can work to the contrary by making you feel more lonely, less connected, less valued, more miserable.

Communication is key to avoiding this pitfall. Talk to your partner about what you need to. However, you also need to talk to yourself. Strategize your efforts so that they will pay off and not completely frazzle you. If you don’t get the help you need, do less. Be fair on yourself too so that you don’t feel alone with it all this Christmas.

11  Working too hard

One partner feels taken for granted.  One partner isn’t pulling the same weight in effort as the other.  It feels symbolic that “if my partner doesn’t care as much about Xmas as I do, that means he/she doesn’t love me”. This sense of disproportion within the relationship can lead to….

12  Arguments and Disappointment

Overall, there are high expectations and the whole feeling of pressure to make this the “absolutely perfect family day” … and then add some alcohol to that and emotions quickly rise to the surface causing tension.

So logistic planning is helpful eg who’s going to contribute foodwise/drinkswise/presents …. all of this needs careful discussion beforehand.

Financially, parents tend to spend lots of money on their kids and then that sometimes leaves less for your partner’s present eg combining a Christmas present with a birthday present … it becomes a financial transaction rather than a giving or romantic one.  This is not a positive attitude to present-giving unless fully agreed with the receiver.

It is a very extended time together from eg 10 am – 9pm or even longer when visiting relatives far away which means an overnight stay is included.  So if it’s someone you don’t see regularly because you don’t want to, that too brings huge pressure of interaction to spend 36-48 hours with those people.

If you feel your relationship is coming to an end, then buying presents for the maybe “last Xmas” feels like a death looming.
How to step over these pitfalls

Whatever you decide, make that a positive decision.  Go into the situation with a positive mindset …. set it up to succeed.

Think about it – any time you meet a person who is complaining, down on themselves, or generally miserable, then your heart sinks and you don’t feel so good.

When you are greeted by someone who is smiling, open and interested, you feel their energy and the joy begins.
Prepare as best you can regarding travel logistics, presents without going into huge debt and agreeing who makes the gravy.  Have all the necessary conversations so that everyone’s expectations are met.

If there are still some issues, this is where you have to decide whether you are going to spend time with these people or not.  And if you decide that you are going to be with them, then this is when you decide how you are going to feel and behave.  If you go in with a smile on your face, you will feel happier and your experience will be happier.

We can all survive and even enjoy Christmas 2013!

Mindset is the key to a happy and fun Christmas Day.

Wishing you a happy Christmas Day.

From: Vivienne Goldstein (Relationship Coach) and
Dr Lucy Atcheson (Psychologist)

We hope this article is helpful. If you would like some bespoke therapeutic support for your relationship at one of our workshops supporting women to enhance their relationships please contact us at

Lucy@counsellingpsychologistlondon.com or Viv@viviennegoldstein.com

Christmas Gift Guide For The One Who Is Hard To Buy For

The best thing to buy for someone who is hard to buy for is to get something edible, different or just plain amazing.

Mr Site Takeaway Website Beginner For PC & MAC

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This is a great present for most people. Pretty much everyone needs a website these days and the Takeaway Website Beginner is not only everything you need in a box, but also very easy-to-use.

Maui Jim Sunglasses

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Breakwall Glasses – Perfect for tennis fans, these frames come in Gloss Black, Rootbeer and Smoke Grey. Breakwall tames UV and wind to protect your vision beautifully. They are rimless and feather-light for an uncompromised view, all day long. These frames also happen to be popular with brand ambassador, ATP No. 3 tennis player, David Ferrer. We love them, they look great and are the most perfect glasses.

Tanqueray London Dry Gin

Tangqueray London Dry Gin

Brilliant gin and a great gift. An enduring classic, Tanqueray London Dry Gin is loved by bartenders, cocktail lovers and gin aficionados across the globe. With an extra smooth taste, it has an elegance that sets it apart from the rest and a flavour that shines in sophisticated cocktails and vibrant gin and tonics. Tanqueray is made with the finest botanicals including refreshing juniper, peppery coriander, aromatic angelica and sweet liquorice and its smooth yet bold flavour means it has become one of the world’s most awarded gins, making a luxurious and classic gift.

There’s no better way to enjoy Tanqueray than with tonic, fresh lime and lots of ice in one of the signature green stem and black base copa glasses. This oversize copa glass evokes the golden age of gin cocktails and its shape allows for the aromas of Tanqueray’s key botanicals to circulate for full appreciation of the drink’s flavour.

Taittinger Champagne

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The most delicious and classy champagne. Who wouldn’t want a bottle of Taittingers for Christmas?

Taittinger Nocturne Sec NV, RRP £47, John Lewis, Harrods, winedirect.com

Tattinger Brut Réserve NV, RRP £38.99, widely available

Taittinger Folies de la Marquetterie NV, RRP £55, Harrods, Handford Wines

Taittinger Prélude Grands Crus NV, RRP £49, Majestic, Oxford Wine Company, Fortnum & Mason

Taittinger Vintage 2005, RRP £53, Majestic Wine, Hedonism drinks

 

Bloom Gin & Tonic

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BLOOM Gin & Fentimans Tonic is a luxury pre-mixed G&T in an attractive old fashioned glass bottle – the perfect little gift in a bottle for grown ups. They are delicious. The perfect cocktail for Christmas and beyond.

BLOOM Gin is a delicate floral premium London Dry Gin, inspired by the natural flora of English country gardens and created by the world’s first female Master Gin Distiller.

Joanne Moore chose botanicals from her own garden including chamomile and honeysuckle, as well as the citrus fruit pomelo, to make up the three key botanicals which create a delicate and subtle gin-drinking experience.

Carefully prepared and ready to serve, these bottles combine the delicate floral tones of BLOOM Gin, balanced with the distinctive herbal and plant-root notes of Fentimans tonic, made with lemon from the Cochin area of India.

Available from Sainsbury’s RRP £3.50 a bottle

The Counsellor By Cormac McCarthy

Cook Like a Man: The Official Movember Cookbook

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Cook Like a Man: The Official Movember Cookbook and Cormac McCarthy’s The Counselor Screenplay are both great gifts. Depending on whether your friend is a man who loves cooking, or a person who loves film.

Naked Gift Box & Bite Sized Treats

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Great gluten, dairy and wheat-free snacks. Tasty and healthy. We even ate one before we took this picture, we just couldn’t help ourselves. Perfect stocking fillers.

Blingbacks Shoe Jewellery

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Great show jewellery. These make sure your shoes are as ready to party as you are. Party, dance, walk & dazzle with Blingbacks Shoe Jewellery. Available in Debenhams and Dorothy Perkins, also online on Amazon and Asos. www.blingbacks.co.uk

Higher Living Tea

Hope And Greenwood Jolly Christmas Sweet Shake and Mince Pie Bon Bons

We love the Higher Living Tea, the ginger one is a particular favourite and the Mince Pie Bon Bons and Sweet Shake are tasty and perfect for getting into the Christmas spirit. Higher Living herbal teas are available in ASDA, Tesco, Waitrose, Ocado, Holland & Barrett, Planet Organic, Wholefoods, Hope And Greenwood are available in their store in Covent Garden.

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A Raincoat From The Cambridge Raincoat Company

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Great, stylish coats that are also perfect for cyclists.

An iPad. They probably already have one, but if not, go for it or an iTunes voucher. Anything from Apple is a must.

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What do you think?

Reasons My Kid Is Crying by Greg Pembroke Review

20131101-144258.jpg Every now and then we get sent something at Frost Magazine that changes our way of thinking. For me Reasons My Kid is Crying was one of those things. I don’t have any children, and, boy, did this make me happy about that.

Ingenious and hilarious, possibly inappropriately so. This is the funniest book I have read since ‘Who Moved My Blackberry?” which was YEARS ago. Buy someone this for Christmas, they will love you forever.

It all started when busy father Greg Pembroke posted a few pictures online of his three-year-old son, mid-tantrum, alongside the reason his son was crying: He had broken his bit of cheese in half. This book collects together photos sent to Greg from parents around the world, documenting the many, completely logical reasons why small children cry. (‘I let him play on the grass’ . . . ‘We told him the pig says “oink”’ . . . ‘The neighbour’s dog isn’t outside’). Together, they are both a fond portrait of the universal, baffling logic of toddlers – and a reminder for burned-out parents everywhere that they are not alone.

I love this book and I if I never procreate, this is why. Check out Greg’s Tumblr here.

Buy Reasons My Kid is Crying here.

5 Fun Life Skills To Improve Your Life

5 fun life skills to improve your lifeIt probably is possible to go through life without developing any life skills at all. But would it be easier? I think not. With that in mind here is a fun little list of 5 fun life skills to improve your life. Add your own below.

Cooking

By the time you get out of your teens you should be able to whip up one amazing dish. By the time you hit thirty, you should have at least five amazing dishes that you can easily make that people compliment you on. This should be made without stress and fuss.

Driving

Driving is an unparallelled life skill. Running a car may be expensive but freedom costs money. Nothing beats being able to get into a car and go anywhere you want. It is debatable whether or not you are truly grown up until you can drive.

Dancing

Being able to dance is definitely a strength in life. So many social occasions call for it. If you don’t have natural rhythm then just take some classes and know your way around a fox trot. It will make you much more appealing to the opposite sex and people will think you are talented and sophisticated.

Games

Any party will probably include games, and dinner parties generally include post games fun. For something more entertaining than your average board game, and most things are, getting in touch with your gambling skills for an occasional flutter is fun. I am not talking about online gambling, but poker with friends is always lots of fun and very interactive. Brush up your card skills and bleed them dry.

 

Sport

No, not watching. Unless the sound is off and it is just for some eye candy. Learning a sport is an invaluable skill to improve your life. It will keep you fit, help you meet new people and maybe even get some fresh air. Take a class, do Zumba, running, football, yoga, anything you want. It will be another skill that will improve your life. I recently did Anti-Gravity Yoga which was different and lots of fun.

What do you think? What other fun life skills are there?

 

 

Eat Clean, Feel Good; Ecover Review + Rachel Allen Recipes

Frost doesn’t just review glamorous things, nope, we try to bring you the great and good for every part of life. Environmentally friendly products are our thing so we reviewed theses plant and mineral based cleaning products.

Ecover Review

A lot of stuff people clean with is really toxic. Breathing it in does more harm than good. That’s why Ecover caught our eye, when we got sent some to review we were pretty happy. We used the Pomegranate & Lime Multi Action Wipes are easy to use, smell great and makes cleaning an easy job, best of all the wipes are made with 100% biodegradable fabric. The plant-based formula wipes really work; they leave everything super shiny.

Their Washing Up Liquid with Lemon and Aloe Vera and Washing Up Liquid with Camomile and Marigold both smell great, They make washing up easier and clean effectively. They are also gentle on your hands and don’t have unnecessary chemicals; brilliant stuff.

Lastly, Ecover All Purpose Cleaner in Lemon de-greases and leaves everything sparkling clean, a little goes a long way making it making it purse friendly as well as Eco-friendly.

We’re a big fan of Ecover. Try it and see for yourself.

Ecover teams up with Rachel Allen to raise awareness of the ‘nasties’ lurking in everyday washing up liquid

Looking after your family’s health and well-being through the meals you prepare for them doesn’t end when you’ve finished cooking. . .

Washing up is an essential part of our daily lives, but have you ever spared a minute to consider the ‘nasties’ you may be inadvertently feeding your family through the washing up liquid you are using?

In a quest to help the nation’s washer-uppers’ ditch unnecessary ‘nasties’, innovative cleaning brand, Ecover has teamed up with chef and mother of three Rachel Allen, to support its initiative Eat Clean, Feel Good. Rachel is supporting the campaign by helping to encourage people to think carefully about the ingredients they use in both their cooking and washing up.

In order to do this Rachel has produced a series of Eat Clean, Feel Good tips which incorporate advice for both cooking and washing up. She’s also generated a series of mouth-watering series Eat Clean, Feel Good recipes containing seven delicious and nutritious meals, all made from fresh, seasonal ingredients.

Ecover know how much you value protecting your family’s well-being by ensuring they’re eating home cooked meals packed full of fresh natural ingredients and want to encourage people to apply the same logic when it comes to washing up. After all, you wouldn’t put ‘nasties’ into your family’s meal, so why would you wash your crockery and cutlery in them?

Rachel says, “As a mother and a chef, taking care of my family through food is at the heart of everything I do. The meals I prepare and the ingredients I choose are extremely important. I try to use as many fresh and seasonal ingredients as I can when cooking for my family, avoiding any hidden ‘nasties’, and apply the same principles when it comes to cleaning up after them. Using Ecover washing-up liquid is an easy and simple way to ensure that I am doing the very best I can for my family’s health and well-being every time I step into the kitchen.”

Ecover is passionate about using plant and mineral based ingredients in its entire range of cleaning products, including its washing up liquid. In fact Ecover washing up liquid is 20 times less toxic than other brands that, on average, contain up to 10 different, and completely unnecessary ‘nasties’.* Most of the ‘nasties’ won’t even be listed on the label, but remain on your plates, dishes and cutlery, even after rinsing and can lead to skin, eye and respiratory irritations, as well as leaving unnecessary residues in water supplies which is damaging to aquatic life.

So, if you want to ensure you are not exposing your family to any unnecessary ‘nasties’ make the simple switch to Ecover washing up liquid to clean up after mealtimes and why not try out some of Rachel’s delicious recipes that have been produced especially for the Eat Clean, Feel Good campaign, along with her top tips for cooking and cleaning.

Here’s one to try this seasonal baked summer garden vegetable risotto.

Ingredients:

4 tbsp. olive oil

250g of peas

100g spinach

950ml vegetable or chicken stock

1 onion, peeled and finely chopped

2 garlic cloves peel and crushed

250g risotto rice

150ml white wine

100g finely grated parmesan cheese

75g butter cut into cubes

12 stalks of asparagus, ends trimmed and cut in half lengthways

Salt & pepper to taste

Preheat the oven to 180’C. Heat the olive oil in an oven-proof saucepan; add the peas and spinach and cook, stirring all the time, for 2 minutes, until the spinach wilts. Add about 50ml of the stock and puree in a blender or food processor. Set aside.

In the same saucepan, heat the remaining olive oil, add the onion and garlic and season with salt and pepper. Cover with a lid and sweat over a gentle heat until soft but not coloured. Add the risotto rice and stir it around in the saucepan for a minute, then add the remaining stock and the wine. Stir and bring it up to the boil, cover with the lid and place in the preheated oven for 15-20 minutes or until the rice is just cooked and all the liquid has been absorbed. Vigorously stir in the vegetable puree, parmesan and butter and set aside.

Bring a saucepan of water to the boil; add a good pinch of salt and the asparagus. Boil for 2-3 minutes or until it is just tender, then drain. Serve the risotto into warm bowls with the asparagus arranged on top and sprinkled with the grated Parmesan.

Rachel Allen’s ‘Eat Clean, Feel Good’ Top Tips

“Being a mother and a chef, taking care of my family through food is at the heart of everything I do. The meals I prepare and the ingredients I choose are extremely important which is why I try to use as many fresh and seasonal ingredients as I can when cooking for my family, avoiding any hidden ‘nasties’ and applying the same principles when it comes to cleaning up after them” says Rachel

A recipe for mealtime success

Always try to source fresh and seasonal fruit, vegetables and meat from a local butchers, green grocers or farm shop. This way you can ensure the ingredients you are using are not only fresh but you know the produce will have been well-looked after and free from ‘nasty’ pesticides or additives
As a mother, watching what my children eat is vital. To ensure that they do not consume unnecessary quantities of salt, additives, fat or chemicals, everything I feed them is homemade. Whilst it can take more time, the reward of knowing exactly what’s going into their tummies makes it worthwhile
A good habit I’ve got into is planning our weekly meals in advance. This helps me to ensure minimal wastage on food and take a bit of the stress out of mealtimes. That said, if there are leftovers, I have a number of fail-safe recipes to use up any bits and bobs. For instance, if, like me, you often have a Sunday roast with your family, why not boil the carcass of your chicken to make stock, you can then freeze into ice cube portions to be used at a later date
My top three cupboard/fridge essentials would be fresh herbs like basil, thyme and dill, balsamic vinegar and Irish butter as these are key ingredients that will always help enhance the flavour in any meal

How to make the most of your ‘washer-uppers’

Taking care of my family’s well-being is at the forefront of my mind, so we always use Ecover’s Pomegranate and Lime washing-up liquid, which is made from natural plant based ingredients. Not only does it make my hands feel lovely and soft, but it also gives me peace of mind that I’m doing everything I can to protect my family’s wellbeing
Although it sounds slightly unusual, in my house we soak our oven trays and shelves in the bath using Ecover Oven and Hob cleaner. This breaks through grease/ grime without the use of any nasty toxic chemicals and they fit perfectly in the bath so can be totally submerged
If I’m washing smaller items in the sink, I will always use the water from my washing-up bowl to feed my plants. As Ecover leaves no unnecessary ‘nasties’ residue in the water, it’s gentle enough to put directly onto plants

Rachel Allen’s grilled or pan-fried mackerel fillets with parsley,
mint and anchovy sauce, served with pomegranate, lime and
pistachio couscous

Mackerel may be my favourite fish; perfectly fresh it has a rich strong flavour that goes well with
other strong flavours such as this parsley and anchovy sauce. The recipe makes a large amount of
sauce so you will have some left over and it also goes well with lamb or chicken.
Serves 4, preparation time 20 minutes

For the sauce:

Large handful of parsley leaves
Handful of mint leaves
2 tbsp capers, rinsed
1 tbsp Dijon mustard
6 anchovies
200ml extra virgin olive oil
For the butterflied mackerel:
4 large mackerel fillets, gutted
4 tbsp olive oil
Salt and pepper
For the couscous:
400g cous cous
Seeds from one pomegranate
2 tbsp olive oil
2 tbsp lime juice
500ml boiling chicken or vegetable stock
4 tbsp pistachio nuts (shelled), toasted
2 tbsp chopped coriander

First make the sauce. Place everything but the olive oil in a food processor and whiz for 3 – 4 minutes
until the herbs are finely chopped. Then add the olive oil to mix. Set aside until needed or place in a
jar in the fridge. If storing for more than a few hours cover your sauce with a good layer (about half a
centimetre) of olive oil. It will keep in the fridge for about a month.

Place the couscous and pomegranate seeds in a bowl and mix in the olive oil and lime juice. Pour in
boiling stock or water and season. Allow to sit in a warm place for 5 – 10 minutes until the liquid is
absorbed. To serve, stir in the toasted pistachios and chopped herbs and season to taste.
Meanwhile, place a cast iron griddle pan on a high heat – if you don’t have a griddle pan you can use
a frying pan. Brush with oil (or put 2 tbsp oil in the frying pan) and allow it to get quite hot. Season
the skin side of the mackerel with salt and pepper and place on the griddle skin side down. Season
the other side and cook for 2 – 4 minutes until the skin is golden and crisp, turn over and cook for a
further 1 – 2 minutes.

Put on plates and serve immediately, drizzled with the parsley, mint and anchovy sauce and the lime
and pomegranate couscous

Rachel Allen’s bacon and bean broth

A warming broth that is as comforting as it is nutritious. The sugar really brings out
the flavour of the tomatoes.

Serves 4, preparation time 1 hour 20 minutes + 6 hours soaking time
Ingredients
225g dried haricot or cannellini beans
½ onion
1 bay leaf
1 carrot
200g bacon, cut into lardons about 1x2cm
2 tbsp olive oil
4 cloves of garlic, peeled and chopped
2 x 400g tins of chopped tomatoes
1 litre chicken or vegetable stock
1 tsp sugar
Salt and pepper
225g curly kale, stalks removed and thinly sliced
2 tsp chopped fresh thyme
1 tbsp chopped fresh parsley

Soak the beans in plenty of cold water for about 6 hours or overnight, then drain, and place in a
large pan with the bay leaf, onion and carrot. Cover with fresh cold water and place on a medium
heat. Bring to a simmer and continue to simmer for 45 to 60 minutes (it may take longer) or until
tender, they should easily squash against the pan if pressed with a spoon.
Meanwhile, add the olive oil to a large casserole dish and place on a medium high heat. Add the
bacon and cook for a few minutes until golden. Next add the garlic, cook, stirring continuously for a
minute or so until golden, then add the tomatoes, stock, sugar, salt and pepper and simmer for 10
minutes.

Drain the beans and discard the carrot, onion and bay leaf. Add the cooked beans to the stew along
with the cabbage and cook for a further 4 minutes until the cabbage is cooked. Stir in the herbs then
taste for seasoning and serve

Rachel Allen’s broad bean and asparagus salad

Serves 4-6, preparation time 15 minutes

Ingredients

For the salad:
400g (14oz) shelled fresh or
frozen broad beans
16 – 20 asparagus spears, woody end
snapped off and discarded, then cut in
to roughly 5cm pieces
2 handfuls of rocket leaves
For the dressing:
4 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
1 tsp finely grated lemon zest
2 tbsp lemon juice
Salt and ground black pepper
First make the dressing by mixing together all the ingredients and seasoning with salt and pepper.
Next bring a large saucepan of salted water to the boil. Add the beans and boil ½–1 minute or until
they are just cooked, then drain but reserve the water. If the beans are quite big, peel them at this
stage (they’ll pop out of their skins easily); this isn’t essential but I think it’s well worth it as the skins
can be tough.
Add some salt to the water and bring back to the boil. Tip in the asparagus and cook in the boiling
water for 4 – 8 minutes or until tender when pierced with a sharp knife. Drain immediately. Add the
asparagus and broad beans to a bowl and toss with most of the dressing. Place on serving plates,
then in the same bowl add the rocket leaves and gently toss with the rest of the dressing and divide
between serving plates.

Rachel Allen’s pan-grilled chicken breasts with lemon and marjoram aioli and
roast cherry tomatoes

For the roast tomatoes, try to get hold of cherry tomatoes or small tomatoes that are still attached
to the stalk. These look good and the stalk can be cut with scissors into portions before cooking. If
the tomatoes are off the stalk, you can cook them whole or cut in half.
Serves 4, preparation time 40 minutes

Ingredients

4 chicken breasts
3 tbsp olive oil
For the roast cherry tomatoes:
About 20 small or cherry tomatoes
Olive oil, for drizzling
Sea salt and ground black pepper
Lemon and marjoram aioli:
2 cloves of garlic, finely crushed
2 egg yolks
1 tbsp lemon juice
1 tsp Dijon mustard
175ml sunflower oil
50ml extra virgin olive oil
2 tbsp chopped or dried marjoram
100ml chicken stock (or water)

Preheat the oven to 200°C (400°F), Gas mark 6. Place the tomatoes on a baking tray (if they are cut
in half, place them cut side up), drizzle with olive oil and season with salt and pepper. Cook in the
oven for about 10 minutes or until the skin is a little blistered and the flesh soft on the inside. Take
out of the oven and keep warm until serving – they will sit happily for up to half an hour in the oven
with the heat turned off.

Place a cast-iron griddle pan or a frying pan on a high heat and allow it to get quite hot – it should be
just smoking. Rub the chicken breasts with the olive oil, and season with salt and pepper. Place the
chicken in the pan skin side down and cook for 4 – 5 minutes or until the one side is a deep golden
colour or has good scorch marks (if using the griddle pan). Turn the chicken over and reduce the
heat, continuing to cook for 8 – 12 minutes or until the chicken is cooked through (it should be
opaque in the middle).

Meanwhile, make the aioli. Place the garlic, marjoram, egg yolks, lemon juice and mustard in a bowl.
Place the oils together in a jug and pour into the egg yolks very gradually in a very thin stream while
whisking constantly. Continue to add the oils, whisking all the time until all the oil has been added
and the aioli is thick. Transfer the chicken to a warm serving dish and keep warm.

Deglaze the pan by placing the roasting tray on a medium heat and pouring in the stock (or water)
and using a whisk to dissolve the delicious juices stuck to the tray. Bring up to the boil, then pour
into a jug and allow to sit for a minute for the tart to float up to the top. Spoon off the fat. Reheat
the liquid if it has cooled down completely, pour into the aioli gradually, whisking constantly.
To serve, place the chicken breasts, whole or sliced, on warmed plates, spoon some sauce over the
top or around the edge and place a portion of cherry tomatoes on the side

Rachel Allen’s baked dover sole with herb butter served with
broad bean and asparagus salad

This is how the gorgeously fresh flat fish is often cooked at Ballinasloe – just simply baked in the
oven then drizzled with a herb butter and a squeeze of lemon juice. All flat fish can be cooked in this
way such as turbot, brill, plaice, flounder and lemon sole.
A Dover sole, or black sole (as it is often called in Ireland) is usually large enough for a good main
course, sometimes even for 2 people, but something smaller like a lemon sole might be just right for
a starter or a small main course.

Serves 4, preparation time 40 minutes

Ingredients

4 very fresh dover sole, on the bone
Salt and pepper
For the Herb butter:
75g butter
1 heaped tbsp which is a mixture of two or
more of the following chopped herbs,
parsley, fennel, thyme, lemon balm and
chives
4 wedges of lemon for serving plus 1 more
wedge for squeezing into the juice
For the salad:
400g (14oz) shelled fresh or frozen broad beans
16 – 20 asparagus spears, woody end snapped off and discarded, then cut in to roughly 5cm pieces
2 handfuls of rocket leaves

For the dressing:
4 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
1 tsp finely grated lemon zest
2 tbsp lemon juice
Salt and ground black pepper
Preheat the oven to 180C. First remove the head from the fish, if you wish! Wash the fish well and
lay it on a chopping board white skin side down. Using a sharp knife and as neatly as possible, cut
through the skin right round the fish just where the fringe meets the flesh, finishing in an ‘x’ at the
tail. Prepare all the fish in this way.

Pour 50ml of water on each baking tray, this is to create steam in the oven. Lay the fish in a single
layer (cut side up) on the baking trays. Sprinkle the fish with salt and pepper and bake in the oven for
15 minutes (for a small lemon sole type fish) to 25 minutes (for an average sized sole). A brill or
turbot may even require us long as 35 minutes. The fish is cooked when the skin lifts easily off the
flesh of the fish from the tail end, and the flesh should be opaque white with no trace of pink. When
the fish is cooked it will sit quite happily in a warm oven (with the skin still attached) for up to half an
hour.

While the fish is cooking in the oven, make the salad. First make the dressing by mixing together all
the ingredients and seasoning with salt and pepper. Next bring a large saucepan of salted water to
the boil. Add the beans and boil for ½ – 1 minute or until they are just cooked, then drain but reserve
the water. If the beans are quite big, peel them at this stage (they’ll pop out of their skins easily); this
isn’t essential but I think it’s well worth it as the skins can be tough.
Add some salt to the water and bring back to the boil. Tip in the asparagus and cook in the boiling
water for 4 – 8 minutes or until tender when pierced with a sharp knife. Drain immediately. Add the
asparagus and broad beans to a bowl and toss with most of the dressing. Place on serving plates,
then in the same bowl add the rocket leaves and gently toss with the rest of the dressing, then
divide between serving plates.

Before you are ready to serve the fish, make the herb butter. Melt the butter in a pan then add the
herbs and a squeeze of lemon juice to taste. Keep warm.

Remove the cooked fish from the baking tray and carefully place on warm serving plates, pull the
skin from the tail end and peel it off gently (if you want to serve this off the bone, remove the four
fillets from the bone now with a fish slice; but I usually serve this on the bone). Pour the hot herb
butter over the fish, place a wedge of lemon on the plate and serve.

Rachel Allen’s rack of lamb with mustard mash and minted peas

A rack of lamb makes for a perfect and luxurious roast. It is a delicate cut that looks beautiful both
whole and when cut in to chops. It’s also extremely quick to roast. The sweet flavour of lamb needs
only a little encouragement with this herb and garlic paste.
Serves 2 – 3, preparation time 50 minutes

Rack of lamb:
Prep time: 5 minutes
Cooking time: 45 minutes
1 rack of lamb
2 tbsp chopped fresh rosemary
1 tbsp Dijon mustard
1 tbsp olive oil
1 clove garlic, crushed or finely grated
Salt and pepper

Preheat the oven to 220°C (425°F), Gas

mark 7. First, prepare the lamb – remove the papery skin if it is still attached, then score the fat in a
criss-cross pattern with lines 1–2cm (½–¾ inches) apart, trying not to cut into the meat.
In a bowl, mix together the rosemary, mustard olive oil and garlic and rub the lamb all over with this
mixture. Season with salt and pepper and place in a roasting tin and cook in the oven for 25 – 35
minutes, depending on the weight of the lamb and how pink you like it to be. Remove from the oven
and allow the meat to rest for 10 minutes before serving, then cut between the chops and give each
person 2–3 each.

Mustard Mash, preparation time 50 minutes
500g potatoes (new potatoes are too waxy for this)
25g (¾ oz) butter
100ml (3 ½ fl oz) milk, or 75 ml (2 ½ fl oz) milk and 25ml (1 fl oz) cream
1 ½ tbsp Dijon mustard
Salt and pepper
I find this is the best way to cook good, fluffy floury potatoes. Clean the potatoes and put them into
a saucepan of cold water with a good pinch of salt. Bring the water up to the boil and cook for 10
minutes. Pour all but 4cm (1 ½ inch) of the water out and continue to cook the potatoes on a very
low heat. Don’t be tempted to stick a knife into them, the skins will break and they’ll just break up
and get soggy if you do. About 20 minutes later, when you think the potatoes might be cooked, test
them with a skewer: if they’re soft, take them off the heat.

Peel the potatoes while they’re still hot and mash them immediately. To peel them while they’re
hot, hold them in a tea towel (not your fancy ones). Add the butter, but don’t add any milk until
they’re free of lumps. When the potatoes are mashed, add boiling milk (or milk and cream). You
might not need it all or you might need more, it depends on the potatoes. Add the Dijon mustard to
taste and some salt and pepper. If you want to make this in advance, add a little extra milk, as the
potatoes dry out as they sit. It will keep well in a warm oven – just keep it covered
with a lid, plate or tin foil.
Minted peas, preparation time 4 minutes
25g (¾ oz) butter
1 tbsp chopped mint
A small squeeze of lemon juice
225g (1/2 lb) peas, straight from the freezer if you like

Melt the butter in a hot frying or sauté pan. Add the mint, lemon juice and the peas and cook on a
high heat for about 2 minutes until the peas are cooked.

Rachel Allen’s sweet and sticky pork with vegetables and noodles

I adore Asian food, it’s full of big bold flavours like ginger and fish sauce that aren’t shy, so must be
carefully balanced as they vie to be centre of attention. The marinade acts as a brine to give the pork
both flavour and moisture and is worth doing the day before if you’ve time.
Serves 4–6, preparation time 25 minutes + 4 hours marinating time

Ingredients
400g (14oz) lean pork, cut into thin strips
1 tsp salt
400g (14oz) medium Chinese egg noodles
400g (14oz) button mushrooms, quartered
150g carrots, peeled and finely sliced at an
angle
1 tbsp soy sauce
4 large spring onions, trimmed and cut
into 2.5 cm (1 inch) pieces
For the marinade:
2 cloves of garlic, peeled and finely
chopped
2 tsp finely grated root ginger
3 tbsp groundnut oil
1 tsp soy sauce
3 tbsp fish sauce (nam pla)
3 tbsp caster sugar

Place the pork in a bowl or re-sealable food bag and add all the ingredients for the marinade. Toss
the pork to coat evenly and cover the bowl with cling film or seal the bag and leave
to marinate in
the fridge for at least 4 hours (or overnight if possible).

Bring a large saucepan of salted water to the boil. Add the noodles and cook for 3 – 4 minutes or
follow the instructions on the packet until tender. Drain and return to the pan, then cover and set
aside to keep warm.

Once ready to cook, place a wok or large frying pan on a very high heat and, once hot, add the pork
and the marinade. Stirring constantly, fry for 4 – 5 minutes until the pork is cooked through. Remove
the pork with a slotted spoon and set aside. Reduce the heat so that the marinade is simmering, add
the mushrooms, carrots and soy sauce and continue to cook for 2 – 3 minutes. Add the spring onions
and stir fry for a further 2 minutes. Finally, tip in the cooked noodles along with the pork. Cook for a
further minute, tossing everything together. Divide between warm bowls and eat with chopsticks if
you wish.

Will you try the cleaning products or one of the recipes?

How To Pass Your Driving Test. Frost’s Editor Learns How To Drive

how to pass your driving test, pass your driving test, pass first time, nerves, tips, advice, how to pass driving test first timeIt is embarrassing how long it took me to get my driving licence. Not because I kept failing my test, but because it took me ten (yes, really!) years to take it. To some degree this wasn’t my fault. I got my provisional licence when I was 17. I immediately started taking lessons in Scotland where I lived. I was confident in my driving but kept hearing the same thing, ‘You need more lessons.’ I was desperate to do my test and dumped my driving instructor. I got another one who was worse. He would break wind in the car. If you think junctions are hard then try to do them while holding your breathe!

Instructor number three was a woman. She seemed to drift away while I was driving and, like number one, would keep saying I needed more lessons. I asked what was wrong with my driving and also like number one, she could not answer. I was annoyed.

In the meantime I passed my theory test, first time, with the highest score the test centre said they had ever had. I finally made my driving instructor book a test. And then I got an acting job in London. In fact, I kept getting acting jobs and auditions. I would buy blocks of lessons and then get a job. I realised that I had to move. The traveling and costs were too much. I moved to London and then getting my drivers licence became something on my to do list that never actually got done. Until this year.

This kind of procrastination is not like me but after a lot of thought I know why: I hate tests. I am confident in my ability to do things but I don’t like it when people test me. Ten years ago I was raring to go, but the whole test phobia had gotten worse with age. I had to control this to progress. I had built the test up to more than it was. As the years crept by and I headed into my twenties I felt like the oldest non-driver in the world. Everybody else seemed to be able to do this essential life skill, why not me? Then I started to lose jobs. A lead role in a BBC TV show, big commercials and countless films. I had to do something about it.

I started taking lessons again in 2012. In fact I had one lesson in 2010 and one lesson in 2011. In 2012 I started looking for an instructor. The guy from the AA Driving School had been giving lessons since 7am. I had my lesson with him at 7pm. I was driving in the dark after a long break. I had to have my wits about me, I lived in Ealing at the time and Southall was my nearest driving test centre. Southall is notoriously hard to pass your test at. Their pass rate is around 40%. I had a friend who had taken three goes there to pass her test. There were horror stories. Driving in Southall during that lesson, with a driving instructor who was pretty much asleep, was a learning curve. I decided not to have any more lessons with him. He was obviously overworked.

Next up was BSM. They offered an instructor who had not taken all of her tests yet for only £20 an hour. Bargain! I thought. As I said, I was confident in my driving ability, I just needed practice and the nerve to take the test. I paid for a block of ten lessons at £200. This turned out to be a big mistake. She arrived and I got in the car and I felt a presence behind me. I turned around and there was a woman staring at me. ‘Oh, this is my cleaner. You don’t mind if she comes along, do you?’ Shocked and thrown I mumbled ‘no’. I immediately was annoyed to myself. I have always been too polite. Something I am still working on. The cleaner did not seem to like my driving, Tutting every time I did something wrong. Which was often as the instructor and the cleaner talked to each other in a different language the entire time. On other lessons, she spent the entire time on her phone. One entire lesson was bay parking, something that the Southall driving test does not include.

I took lessons with Red, the instructor kept trying to sell me other things and we didn’t gel. I then took lessons with an independent driving instructor. I won’t mention her name here but I regret every lesson I ever took with her. She would yell and get angry, tell me about pupils who had blown their top and gotten angry with her. She would then dump them,not realising it was her that was pushing them too far. Passing a church she mentioned that they should send their prayers our way. I was beyond offended. My driving got worse under her and she kept putting me off taking my test. One day at a roundabout in Southall I couldn’t take anymore. I turned the ignition off as angry cars overtook. She yelled at me. I yelled back. We never had another lesson and she sent me a long, bitchy email about my ‘f**k it’ attitude. Self awareness obviously being too hard to grasp. She also said I would never pass my test.

By this time I had had enough but I would not quit. As I edged into my late twenties I started to worry about being 30 and without a drivers licence. I would not have it. I got on the internet and madly researched. I would take an intensive course. And I would pass.

The theory test only lasts two years and I had already taken it twice, passing first time with high scores each time, it was about to run out again due to my procrastination. I booked an intensive course. It was the best thing I ever did. I actually did not pass first time. the nerves got to me. I was physically shaking from head to toe. I only got three minors but was so nervous that when the examiner said ‘turn right’ I immediately did so, onto a two way side street.

I decided to not let the nerves, or the pressure, both financial and social, get to me. I bought some Bach Rescue Remedy, ate a banana, bought The Girls’ Guide to Losing Your L-plates: How to Pass Your Driving Test and focused. I used positive visualisation to imagine myself driving, on my own, down a country road. ‘You’re a good driver Catherine,’ My instructor said. ‘It is just a test, why be nervous?’ I put it into prescriptive. I told myself that the only person I had to pass for was myself. And I did it. With only four minors.

To this day my driving licence is one of my favourite things. Every time I look at it I know that anything is possible with hard work, perseverance and a positive attitude. The fact it was so hard to get just makes it even more amazing. I spent thousands of pounds but I finally feel like a grown up.

How To Pass Your Driving Test (From someone who has done it)

Take an intensive course. They are easier and you won’t get an instructor stringing you along for more money.

Choose an instructor that you get along with. Don’t give money to anyone who shouts or bullies.

Study. Read the The Official DSA Theory Test Book and highway code again. Remember the rules of the road.

If you get nervous try Bach Rescue Remedy. It worked for me.

Ask friends and family for their stories and advice.

Don’t tell anyone when you actually do your test. You don’t need the extra pressure.

Try and get a family member or friend to take you out. I did not have this and it cost me quite a bit of money as I could only practice in an instructors car.

Your theory test runs out after two years. Take it just before you take the practical, It will help having the knowledge in your head too.

For Girls, The Girls’ Guide to Losing Your L-plates: How to Pass Your Driving Test is an excellent book. It really helped me pass and also has some driving tips for when you do pass.

For Boys; Pass Your Practical Driving Test: Discover what your examiner is looking for and save the expense and heartache of failing is a good book.

Relax, if you fail you can do it again. It is not the end of the world.

Don’t over think it. Just be aware. Indicate even if other cars don’t. Just because someone has a licence doesn’t mean they are a good driver.

Always remember your checks. Look all around during maneuvers and at junctions.

Know what the DSA are looking for and know why people fail.

Good luck!

 

Exam Results Helpline tells students not to panic

Exam Results Helpline advisers urge students to ‘stay calm’, as they prepare for thousands of calls from students (and parents) who are keen to talk over their options after receiving unexpected exam results this year.

The Exam Results Helpline telephone 0808 100 8000 is a free telephone helpline staffed by independent careers advisers. Students across the UK who receive unexpected exam results (A levels, GCSEs and equivalent qualifications) can call in for advice about their learning and career options.

The Helpline is open throughout the exam results period, this year running between Thursday 15 and Saturday 24 August for students receiving exam results in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. The Helpline opens for students in Scotland between Tuesday 6 and Wednesday 14 August*.

The busiest time is always A-level results day, which is Thursday 15 August this year.  Last year, the helpline received almost 3,000 calls on A level results day and almost 9,000 across the whole exam results period.

Supporting schools and colleges, helpline advisers offer information and advice on a range of topics including further and higher education options, vocational learning, re-sits, re-marks, careers, employment and gap years.

The only careers helpline with access to UCAS’ applicant information and higher education qualifications, its experienced careers professionals also offer up-to-date advice about Confirmation, Clearing and Adjustment. Advice is timely and accurate.

 

Exam Results Helpline adviser Nick Hynes, who has 25 years’ experience as a professional careers adviser, said: 

“After all the planning and revising students do, results day is the moment of truth.   If they haven’t achieved the grades they were hoping for, if they’ve done better than expected or if they just want to consider their options before making any major decisions about their futures, our experienced careers advisers are here to help.

“We offer professional and impartial advice on what the best choice might be taking into account individual circumstances and goals. We are happy to speak to family members and friends also.

 

Student, David Murdoch, called the Exam Results Helpline last year. He said:

“It was really nice to have someone properly explain my options – what I could do, the alternatives I hadn’t thought about, and the processes I needed to go through.

“It was good to get objective advice.”

If a student is reconsidering their options based on results they have or have not achieved, they should contact the Exam Results Helpline on 0808 100 8000.

If a student has a specific query about their university application, they should contact the UCAS customer service line on 0871 468 0468.

For further information, visit www.ucas.com/examresultshelpline

For students in Scotland receiving exam results
Tuesday 6 August Scottish exam results day    0800 : 2000
Wednesday 7 August                                        0800 : 2000
Thursday  8 – Friday 9 August                           0900 : 1900
Saturday 10 – Sunday 11 August                       1000 : 1800
Monday 12 – Wednesday 14 August                 0900 : 1700

For students in the rest of the UK receiving exam results
Thursday 15 August A-level exam results day 0800 : 2000
Friday 16 August                                               0800 : 1900
Saturday 17 August                                           0900 : 1700
Sunday 18 August                                             1000 : 1600
Monday 19 – Wednesday 21 August                0900 : 1700
Thursday 22 August GCSE exam results day    0800 : 1900
Friday 23 August                                               0900 : 1700
Saturday 24 August                                           0900 : 12noon

28 Quotes On Happiness

quotes on happiness, happiness, quote, quotes, what is happiness“Happiness is the secret to all beauty. There is no beauty without happiness.” Christian Dior.

“Happiness quite unshared can scarcely be called happiness; it has no taste.” Charlotte Brontë

“Happiness leaves such slender records; it is the dark days that are so voluminously documented; but we see no reason to add to the darkness now. Happiness is precious, beyond all other riches, there to be cherished, however fleeting, and in finding the courage to be happy, we may also find the strength to be true to ourselves.” Truman Capote.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln

“Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open.” John Barrymore

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”. Mahatma Gandhi

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.” Oscar Wilde

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Dalai Lama

“The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” Benjamin Franklin

“True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.” Antoine de Saint-Exupery

“We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” Thomas Jefferson

“Just do what must be done. This may not be happiness, but it is greatness”. George Bernard Shaw

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” Epictetus

“I think happiness is a combination of pleasure, engagement and meaningfulness”. Ian K. Smith

“If we did not look to marriage as the principal source of happiness, fewer marriages would end in tears.” Anthony Storr

“It is great happiness to be praised of them who are most praiseworthy”. Philip Sidney

“You can run, run, run away from a lot of things in life, but you can’t run away from yourself. And the key to happiness is to understand and accept who you are”. Dale Archer

“Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind”. Alice Meynell

“I always remembered that when I saw people get married they got on a rocketship and went to Planet Happiness, Population: Them.” Marc Webb

“We all of us deserve happiness or none of us does”. Mary Gordon

“My family didn’t have a lot of money, and I’m grateful for that. Money is the longest route to happiness.” Evangeline Lilly

“Happiness consists in activity. It is running steam, not a stagnant pool.” John Mason Good

“There’s a happiness that comes from writing that I won’t live without”. Maria Semple

“I learned that people everywhere are basically the same and have similar goals that we do. They want health and happiness and the opportunity to provide for their families”. Steve Kerr

“I think money helps us. It helps us. It’s our – it’s our exchange system. But it does not buy you happiness. It doesn’t buy you health”. Victoria Osteen

“The secret of happiness is to find a congenial monotony”. V. S. Pritchett

“Too much good fortune can make you smug and unaware. Happiness should be like an oasis, the greener for the desert that surrounds it.” Rachel Field

Do you have a favourite quote on happiness? Add it below.