Thriving through the festivities by Alex Bannard, Wellness and Wellbeing Editor

Last time I shared one of my all time favourite self-care rituals – meditating in the bath.

But self-care doesn’t always have to take a long time. Some of the best self-care tools are little techniques that you can turn to when you are triggered, stressed, overwhelmed. You discover them on your journey, play around with them & realize they work & you pop them in your self-care tool kit, knowing you can turn to them whenever you need them.

Having little tricks that you can pull out of your self-care tool kit when you need them is as important to creating a practice of self-care as taking time to meditate & do yoga, spend time in nature, garden, whatever it is that you like doing that is all about nurturing your mind, body & soul.

Self-care is also about having a tool kit, an arsenal of coping mechanisms. These are little tricks, techniques, conscious moments which help us to thrive even if times are stressful!

These little techniques are brilliant because when you notice that you’re triggered, stressed, anxious, overwhelmed you don’t have to disappear to meditate for 10 minutes or get on your yoga mat. Instead you can turn to these tips right when you need them. Perfect for when the festivities get a bit overwhelming & you need to reset.

Today I’m going to share 2 little breath techniques which really help to calm the mind, relieving stress, anxiety & overwhelm.

I have been using the longer exhalation for years.

The exhalation activates the vegas nerve which in turn stimulates the relaxation response, calming the mind. It’s a brilliant technique to know because you can use it anywhere.

Since our brain doesn’t know the difference between real & perceived threats it’s a really useful tool for dealing with the emotional & mental stress the holidays can sometimes present.

Simply breathe in smoothly for 3 & breathe out for 5. Keep doing this until you feel a shift. A smile, a sigh, a yawn are all good signs of a shift. Feeling lighter in the shoulders or more grounded are also a promising sign that there has been a subtle shift. These subtle shifts all mount up to create something quite profound.

The second technique I’d like to share with you is finding the pause.

We have a tiny pause between the in breath & the out breath & again between the out breath & the in breath.

With this breath technique we simply exaggerate this pause.

When we find the pause in our breath it helps us to find the pause in our life.

This is especially useful during the menopause when plummeting hormones mean we can be more susceptible to over-reacting.

But let’s face it festive commitments can also make us feel over-whelmed & more likely to over-react.

But it’s also important to find the pause when things are going well to acknowledge these magical moments, savour them, give thanks for them – no better time to start fining the pause than in the holidays!

If you would like to find out more self-care tips to thrive in the festivities check out Alex’s FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindfulnessyoga4selfcare

Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexbannard/

Short yoga sequences including yoga for stress are available on her YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQlKZJ7MeyYc6lqkv6seISw

Alex is based on the edge of the stunning Cotswolds & has been sharing her love for all things yoga & mindfulness for almost a decade, not just in the UK but also around the world. Her mission is to help everyone discover a more mindful way of living & to encourage them to embrace regular self-care practices for a happier & healthier way of being.

Top Books of 2021: A List of Brilliance.

top books of 2021It’s that time of year where I try to whittle down all of the amazing books I have read into a short(ish) list. Each one is an essential read. So here goes…

Shiver by Allie Reynolds.

The Serial Killer’s wife by Alice Hunter.

Ahead of Her Time by Judy Piatkus.

The Garfield Conspiracy by Owen Dwyer.

Just Haven’t Met You Yet by Sophie Cousens.

Snow Country by Sebastian Faulks.

The Receptionist by Kate Myles.

The Perfect Marriage by Adam Mitzner.

Her Last Breathe by Hilary David.

Animal by Lisa Taddeo.

The Devil’s Advocate by Steve Cavanagh.

Water Memory by Daniel Pyne.

Autopsy by Patricia Cornwell.

Wild Girls By Phoebe Morgan.

One August Night by Victoria Hislop.

A Narrow Door by Joanne Harris.

Before She Disappeared by Lisa Gardner.

Perfect Timing by Owen Nicholls.

Magpie by Elizabeth Day.

Look What You Made Me Do by Nikki Smith.

Safe And Sound by Philippa East.

Perfect On Paper by Gillian Harvey.

A Poet  For Every Day of The Year by Allie Esiri.

And one for 2022: The Patient by Jane Shemilt.

Frost editor Jane Cable chooses Claire Dyer’s Yield and Polly Heron’s The Surplus Girls’ Orphans as her books of the year.

What would you add?

CUT TO THE MINIS from CUT RUM

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CUT SPICED RUM is a premium Caribbean Rum infused with real spices including, aniseed, nutmeg, ginger, black peppercorn, cinnamon, coriander seed, lemon peel and sweet vanilla pods. Best enjoyed over ice with Ginger Beer. 
 
Tasting Notes 
Nose:  toasted orange, pancake batter, vanilla bean
Taste:  creamy, pepper, vanilla, sea salt, caramel
 
RRP: £22 for a 70cl bottle. ABV: 37.5%. Available from Amazon and Master of Malt
 
CUT SMOKED RUM is the UK’s first naturally smoked rum – a 3 year old Jamaican rum infused with Arabica coffee beans, smoked with burnt wood chips and left to rest in oak barrels. This rum is one of a kind. Best enjoyed over ice with Ginger Beer
 
Tasting Notes
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Frost Loves KidiZoom PrintCam For Christmas & Beyond

I love it when my kids get creative, and I love pictures of them, so this VTech KidiZoom PrintCam is more of a present for me, albeit one that they will love. This super-smart camera lets your kids instantly print pictures of themselves, no ink required. It has over 150 photo effects and activities. What’s more it can print up to 80 black & white photos per roll. It has three games and it also records video.

What’s more it has a comic strip maker, and you can even print off your own cards and pretend money. It’s a fantastic present and I cannot recommend it enough.

Move over David Bailey, step aside Mr Rankin – it’s time to meet the next generation of photography pros with the VTech KidiZoom PrintCam.

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Just in time for Christmas, VTech has got a fresh new addition to its KidiZoom line with the VTech KidiZoom PrintCam – a children’s camera for 5+ years that lets budding photographers print their images immediately, on the go, within minutes. No more waiting to get to a printer!

 

Unleash little ones’ creativity with included special photo effects, stamps and borders, as well as 3 games, panoramic prints, and a comic strip maker! It’s just as easy to create whacky selfies with the flip up lens that allows full use of the camera without changing hand positions! You can also turn your photos into line drawings to colour or use the print shop to print games, design and print your own cards, or even pretend money and accessories.

 

That’s not all though, when combined with a micro-SD Card (not supplied), it functions as a normal digital camera, enabling children to keep their images forever, whether that’s to print them out again in full colour, or for you to save and treasure them for years to come.

 

This is the ultimate device for imaginative and curious children and will unlock a world of creative and artistic opportunity – while you hopefully get some well-earned downtime!

 

RRP: £69.99 | Available from: Smyths Toys Superstores / Argos / Very and Amazon

 

Frost Loves: BCC Bottled Cocktail Co.

We have tried the Bottled Cocktail Company and we love them. They sell great and convenient cocktails. Perfect for Christmas and beyond.
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– The Bottled Cocktail Company 

Launched, with a refined range of classic drinks in striking bottles inspired by cocktails that have become classics in the world of bartending. The brainchild of drinks expert Keivan Nemati, the range will bring consumers a true mixology experience, with the quality and creativity of a bar, in the comfort of their own home. Inspired as much by Nemati’s experience in the worlds of perfumery and culinary arts as his rich history in the bar scene in London and beyond, the brand was established in 2020 by Nemati and a group of friends, who were brought together by their passion for cocktails and flavours. 
 
The initial range, inspired by cocktails that have become classics in the world of bartending, includes; Silver Fir Negroni (£35), El Presidente (£36), Dry Gin Martni (£34), Elderflower High Ball (£33) and Passionfruit Spritz (£33), with more to be released in the coming months. All are bottled at sipping strength, and designed to be drunk either straight up, served from the freezer, or stirred over ice. 

Our online cocktail delivery service covers North London in as little as 1-2 working days, and 3-5 working days UK-wide.

https://www.bottledcocktailcompany.com

 

WELSH WRITING WEDNESDAYS: CHRIS LLOYD ON WALES AS A STATE OF MIND

Wales has an extraordinary breadth of landscapes and moods. From cities to hamlets, from rural idylls to the legacy of the mines. A beautiful country pockmarked by elements of its past that has learnt to make a virtue out of the ravages it’s experienced. It’s a landscape and a history that invite legend and myth to flourish, a haven for stories and storytellers.

So, if that’s the case, why do I set all my books outside Wales?

In many ways, Wales is a state of mind. A way of viewing the world – both our own and others – that is born of being a small nation. How I view the world, the places I’ve lived, the countries I’ve visited, is determined not just by where I happen to be, but where I happen to be from.

When I was twenty, I went to Spain for six months as part of my degree. I ended up going back there after graduating and staying for twenty-four years, twenty of them in Catalonia. My connection with Catalonia – initially the small city of Girona and then the big guns of Barcelona – was immediate. I felt an affinity with its history of being the smaller partner to a more powerful neighbour, a culture that had been denied and pushed and pulled about at various times, a language that had been banned and belittled, and a culture that continued to thrive despite everything it had faced. And I viewed it all through the prism of my own background.

And that is why, despite the richness of Wales as a setting, there was never any question in my mind that I should write about Catalonia. The problem was that I waited until I was living back in Wales before having the idea to write a book set there, a monument to my planning skills. Except it wasn’t a problem. Just as when I’d first gone to live in Catalonia, I found myself looking at Wales through new eyes and finally understanding how I felt about being Welsh, so writing about Girona from a distance actually helped me pin down my thoughts and feelings about my former adopted home. Oddly, I’ve found that to write about somewhere I love, I need a distance from it, which is probably one of my barriers to writing stories set in Wales – I live here.

The first in my Catalan trilogy, City of Good Death, featuring Elisenda Domènech, a police officer in the newly-created Catalan police force, draws enormously from Catalan culture and the history and legends of Girona. A killer is using the Virgin of Good Death, a small statue dating from the Middle Ages, when it served to give convicted prisoners a final blessing before they were led out of the city to their execution, to announce the impending death of someone they feel is deserving of execution. Unfortunately, there are those in the city who agree and who applaud the killer’s every move. Until the victims become less deserving.

It was a similar passion that led to my new series, featuring Eddie Giral, a French police detective in Paris under the Nazi Occupation. I’d been fascinated for years by the notions of resistance and collaboration, and the blurred lines between them, but I wanted to write the story from a Parisian’s point of view, not the guns and guts heroism of the movies, but the day-to-day survival of ordinary people trying to get by. As near to the real history as possible. And I think that that is an essentially Welsh vision of life – an interest in society and community, an affinity with the underdog and the need to preserve a sense of self.

 

Follow Chris on Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrislloydbcn

 

 

 

 

Flow through the festivities with grace & ease by Alex Bannard Wellness and Wellbeing Editor

 

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The festive season can be a stressful time. It’s so important take some time to care for your mind, body & soul all the time but especially during stressful periods.

Self-care isn’t always bubble baths & chocolate although there is definitely a place for that: meditating in the bath is one of my favourite self-care – more of that later.

Self-care is all about doing something we look forward to everyday, it’s the highlight of our day, something we do that nourishes & nurtures our body mind & soul. It doesn’t have to be time consuming or self-indulgent, just a few short minutes can make a huge difference.

It’s all about about doing what you need in order to nurture & nourish yourself.

Simply taking sometime to do this sends a powerful message – it sends a message about your self-worth. That you love yourself enough to take care of yourself. You send a message to the Universe: I am worth it, that’s why I am investing in myself, taking some time to make myself a priority. This is an act of self-love & you are SO worth it.

Self-care is an act of self-love which boosts self-worth: what a beautiful virtuous circle.

When life is stressful, as it can be during & leading up to the holidays, it’s even more important to practice self-care. This is because when we are living in stress we are living in survival mode, drawing from our energetic field. We need to balance this by activating the rest & digest system to boost our energetic field, protecting against illness & burn out.

As I said at the beginning meditating in the bath is one of my favourite self-care rituals ever.

I use magnesium salts which are brilliant for detox-ing, cleansing & soothing away aches & pains, mentally & physically.

I just love meditating in the bath – words can’t do it justice, just try it.

Fill the bath with bubbles or magnesium salts & then lie in the bath just rest your attention on your breath. Every time you get distracted by a train of thought, no need to beat yourself up, criticise or judge, just simply guide your attention back to your breath.

If your mind feels really noisy & busy, don’t worry, this is normal: when we become still & silent our minds can suddenly seem really busy thinking thoughts.

We can’t stop our minds thinking thoughts but we can stop these thoughts from controlling us. We simply become aware when we have been interrupted by a thought & gently & kindly accept this interruption, guiding our awareness back to our breath.

Join me next week for another self-care tip to help you thrive in the holiday season.

If you would like to find out more self-care tips to thrive in the festivities check out Alex’s FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindfulnessyoga4selfcare

Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexbannard/

Short yoga sequences including yoga for stress are available on her YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQlKZJ7MeyYc6lqkv6seISw

Alex is based on the edge of the stunning Cotswolds & has been sharing her love for all things yoga & mindfulness for almost a decade, not just in the UK but also around the world. Her mission is to help everyone discover a more mindful way of living & to encourage them to embrace regular self-care practices for a happier & healthier way of being.

The Little Squirrel Who Worried: A Picture Book to Help Young Children Experiencing Anxiety

The Little Squirrel Who Worried

 

By Katie O’Donoghue

 

A beautifully illustrated picture book about overcoming

anxiety for young children to share with a parent,

teacher or mental health professional

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     A lovely, gentle story about conquering worries that any child will love, but particularly those who are in need a little bit of reassurance.

 

  • Author Katie O’Donoghue wrote and illustrated The Little Squirrel Who Worried while working for the Children’s Emotional Wellbeing Mental Health Service NHS last year during Covid 19. The book was created specifically to address cases of anxiety that she was seeing among young people every day.

 

  • A gorgeous gift for children who love to be read to and who love animals.

 

Little Squirrel hasn’t left his nest since last autumn. He needs to gather nuts for the long winter to come but he’s too worried to leave his cosy nest.

 

Luckily, Little Squirrel has lots of friends in the forest, from Wren to Snuffly Hedgehog, Grey Rabbit to Mister Fox, Old Badger to Great Stag. Will their encouragement and words of advice be enough to help Little Squirrel to venture out?

 

About the Author

KATIE O’DONOGHUE is a child and young person’s therapist with a background in fine art and design and a masters degree in Art Psychotherapy.

 

The Little Squirrel Who Worried is published by Gill Books available now in hardback at £11.99.   ISBN: 9780717192304