The Modern Day Signs of Class. How Classy Are You?

signs of class, class, Minding your manners, avoiding emotional Facebook rants and knowing what cutlery to use are the modern day signs of class, according to new research.

Saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ is the cornerstone of class according to a survey of 2,000 Brits, followed by reading widely and having good table manners.

Avoiding text speak, being bilingual and maintaining great posture also made the top 50 touches of class.

For women, subtle make-up, never drinking from a bottle and displaying cleavage sparingly were signs of holding yourself well.

While for men having a firm handshake, knowing when to admit you’re wrong and owning a tailored suit made the cut.

A spokesperson from European fashion brand Peter Hahn, who commissioned the study, said: “Projecting the essence of class successfully requires a number of factors to work harmoniously, from your dress sense to your manners to your skillset.

“It helps if you have read your way through a bookcase of classics or can speak a couple of languages, but if your skirt is too short, your bow tie too sloppy or your posture too lax, your classy persona can falter.”

Also in the top 50 were being able to handle your drink and knowing poetry that doesn’t just begin and end with ‘I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud’ from William Wordsworth’s ‘Daffodils’.

Placing a napkin on your lap when eating and not wearing football strips as casual wear also featured.

For women, smelling nice, confidence and sensible heels are sure-fire signs of classy couture.

While for men, crisp white shirts, holding the door open for others and taking pride in their appearance are all ingredients that go into making gents suave.

Age is also a factor in levels of class. Brits believe the optimum age for classiness is 45 and that men and women generally get better with age, though men more so.

Dignified decorum on social media is a must for a quarter of Brits, while a fifth thinks wine knowledge is a sign of sophistication.

Despite these simple rules of class and etiquette, 86 per cent of Brits believe that people lack class nowadays.

In fact, an honest 36 per cent happily admit to having no class, with just one in 10 Brits confident in their classy credentials.

Nearly three quarters of those surveyed think that a touch of class is an important trait, but also believe that the manners, behaviour and fashion sense necessary are dying out in modern times.

 

TOP 50 SIGNS OF CLASS:

1. Says please and thank you

2. Is well-read

3. Has good table manners

4. Doesn’t swear

5. Knows what cutlery to use

6. Is discreet

7. Doesn’t start eating a meal until everyone else at the table has their food

8. Holds doors open

9. Never drinks directly from the bottle

10. Doesn’t use text speak

11. Avoids emotional Facebook or Twitter rants

12. Gives up a seat on public transport for someone else

13. Able to speak more than one language

14. Has great posture

15. Doesn’t gossip

16. Brings gifts for hosts when attending events

17. Shops in Waitrose

18. Doesn’t get drunk

19. Knows correct way to pour a bottle of wine

20. Places a napkin on lap when eating

21. Doesn’t discuss money or how much things cost

22. Knows more than two types of wine

23. Knows correct way to hold a wine glass

24. Doesn’t wear football strips as casual wear

25. Is a good listener

26. Doesn’t watch reality TV

27. Knows Mozart from Beethoven

28. Owns a timeless pair of shoes

29. Is up to date with current affairs

30. Has good culinary knowledge

31. Has National Trust membership

32. Only gives compliments when they actually mean it

33. Attends the Chelsea Flower Show

34. Prefers champagne to prosecco

35. Pays the bill

36. Isn’t easily flustered

37. Doesn’t get into arguments

38. Never borrows money from friends

39. Knows more poetry than ‘I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud’ from William Wordsworth’s ‘Daffodils’

40. Never forgets a meeting

41. Doesn’t fill the wine glass to the top

42. Uses the word ‘supper’

43. Rarely eats takeaways

44. Listens to Today on Radio 4

45. Avoids drinking instant coffee

46. Is a generous tipper

47. Knows how to flirt properly

48. Never caught running for the bus or train

49. Arrives fashionably late to a party (but not too late)

50. Owns a pedigree dog

TOP 10 SIGNS OF A CLASSY WOMAN:

1. Wears subtle make-up

2. Ages gracefully

3. Confidence

4. Never drinks directly from the bottle

5. Accepts compliments graciously

6. Doesn’t wear heels higher than she can walk in

7. Always smells nice

8. Doesn’t downplay her intelligence

9. Reveals cleavage sparingly

10. Wears dresses tight enough to show she’s a woman, but loose enough to prove she’s a lady

TOP 10 SIGNS OF A CLASSY MAN:

1. Respectful of women

2. Holds the door open for others

3. Takes pride in his appearance

4. Stands up when women join the dining table

5. Takes his hat off when indoors and in the company of women

6. Has a firm handshake

7. Knows when to admit he’s wrong

8. Owns a tailored suit

9. Always smells nice

10. Wears crisp white shirts

When it comes to classy celebs, the Royal Family are considered beacons of style and substance, with Kate Middleton, Prince William and Prince Harry securing top spots in the countdown.

Taylor Swift, Emma Watson and Idris Elba are also considered some of the classiest public figures around.

As for the decade with the most charm and swagger, the 1950s come out on top followed by the decadent 1920s.

By comparison, just one per cent of those surveyed chose our current decade as the classiest of the last hundred years.

The Peter Hahn spokesperson added: “We’re all accustomed to the adage ‘sex sells’, but actually leaving something to the imagination can be much more alluring than the shortest skirts or an overt cleavage.

“At Peter Hahn we know that a well cut garment will achieve the perfect silhouette, which is far more likely to get you noticed for all the right reasons.”

 

 

Celebrate the Night Tube with Late Night Dining at Gaucho

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The nation’s favourite Argentine Steak restaurant are about to make Londoners a whole lot happier. As if we didn’t have enough to celebrate with the arrival of the night tube, FINALLY, Gaucho Piccadilly will be the first to give you one incredibly important reason to stay out late. Executive Chef Jamie Robertson has curated a tantalisingly, tasty new menu of sharing dishes to celebrate the occasion. Available between 10pm-1am Weds-Saturday, this feast will feature signature Gaucho beef empanadas, tuna ceviche spoons, chunky truffle chips and of course, no Gaucho feast would be complete without their winning steak. The feasting menu will be priced at £25 per head, so with a selection of delicious morsels to try, Gaucho might just be your new late night hangout. Of course the cocktails and plethora of fine Argentine wines will also be on offer until closing.

The Late Night Menu at Gaucho Piccadilly will launch on Friday 26th August, and will be offered from Wednesday to Saturday nights.

For more information, visit: www.gauchorestaurants.co.uk

Frost Editor Catherine Balavage Writes Poetry Book

poetry, poetry book, poems, women authors, Scottish writers, poetry book, female writers, Frost editor Catherine Balavage has released her new book, What Do You Think?: A collection of poems. This is Catherine’s fourth book. She has previously written three non-fiction books on acting, wedding planning and blogging. 

In her fourth book Catherine Balavage turns to poetry. A collection of poems that speak from the heart and tell the truth about the world. You will be left nodding your head in agreement and relating to these poems about love, loss and life. The book features poems over the course of Catherine’s life. The first one was published when she was just 12-years-old. The poems cover every aspect of life, from love, motherhood, loss and even mean girls.
Best-selling author Margaret Graham wrote the foreword. 

I’ve long thought Catherine Balavage is an extraordinarily accomplished young women: author, writer, editor and actor, mother, wife, and she can add poet to that roll of honour.

In What do you think? a collection of her poems written throughout her still young life, she connects with the vast majority of the human race, as she writes of the struggle to achieve a sense of who a person is, the efforts to release oneself from early angst and stand tall; finally achieving confidence potential and contentment.
In her introduction Catherine says that As an artist it sometimes feels like you are born without skin, yet spend your life rolling around on razor blades. Well, quite.

In What do you think? Catherine has written poems that could be songs – I could hear music. She has written poems beating time with the rhythm in her head, poems hauled up from experience, observation and unflinching, sensitive thought.

A triumph.

What do you think?: A collection of poems by Catherine Balavage is available on Kindle and in print.

 

La Maison Rémy Martin are the Hosts with The Most

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To celebrate the buildup of hotly anticipated private members’ club La Maison Rémy Martin, we were invited to The Rumpus Room at Mondrian London for “A Night of Olympic Talent”. The evening is one of many to be hosted by La Maison Rémy Martin where the element of surprise and exploration of craftsmanship is very much at the forefront, much like the mystère of the brand itself.

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We had the privilege of meeting Olympians Jade Johnson, Dalton Grant and Peter Wilson MBE to hear their unique and insightful stories on their Olympic journeys and current lives whilst enjoying a selection of specially curated Rémy Martin cocktails including Rémy Grand Tonic, 1738 Royal Side Car and XO Old Fashion. All cocktails were a Rémy take on old classics and were a welcome change to the old favourites. Created with the iconic Rémy Martin we were immersed in the brands allure of luxury and surprise. Whilst kicking back on the plush leather sofas of the Rumpus Room, it was a joy to hear the Olympians’ highs and lows as well as hearing Peter Wilson MBE answer our burning question of how much partying he did after winning, needless to say, he couldn’t recall much from the week after. The evening was a relaxed affair and incredibly inspirational to hear such wise words from these winning athletes. If this is how La Maison Rémy Martin do all their events this is certainly a club I would love to be a part of. We finished our evening perfectly with Rémy Martin neat providing a gold finish to an already winning evening.

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For more info and for upcoming events visit;

http://www.remymartin.com/uk/

MumsThread: On The Importance of Work When You Become a Mother

working mothers, working mum, freelance, self employed, mothers, mumsthread, babies, feminism, sexism,  Out of all of the truisms, few are more true as when you choose a job, you choose a lifestyle. This was never more true when I first became an actor many moons ago (at one point I had three survival jobs. A day one, an evening one and a weekend one), or when I had a corporate job that paid absurdly well, but made me unhappy because it felt like my creative soul was dying.

Now I have a child lifestyle is important. I have been self employed and freelance for about six years now. And it is wonderful and awful, easy and hard. The truth is: I have worked harder and had tougher work conditions as my own boss than in any other. Frequently not allowing myself breaks, chaining myself to my desk as I just churn the work out. But having my son last year resulted in changes. Mostly because I fell head over heels in love with him, and I will never be the same again. It has required sacrifices, and sometimes those sacrifices are that I get barely any work done at all. Those days are the toughest. I have turned down a lot of great opportunities and my acting career is on the back burner, but I know that the privilege of seeing my son grow up is bigger than anything else. It was always important to me that my son was raised by at least one of his parents. It’s not a judgment call, all power to nannies and nurseries. In fact, I wish I could afford a live-in nanny, or a night nanny. Oh what heaven that would be.

But what I didn’t bargain on was how much I love working. Even the worst job I had brought something good with it: money, a reason to get out of bed, meeting people, a sense of worth. I am not saying I want to go back to those awful jobs, but work gives you identity and freedom. It means you are contributing to society. All of these are things that are very important. Even more so when you have a child and otherwise you just feel like someone’s mother and someone’s wife. I am not slamming being a housewife. It is as valid a choice as any. But I know myself, I need to work, and times where I can’t fit my work in due to childcare/a sick child/ a problem with the flat leaves me with a void. I also believe that a woman needs something for herself, even if it is just a hobby. Women tend to sacrifice themselves and it is unhealthy. Not just for the mother, but all the family. I would love to share childcare 50/50 with my husband, but he works in finance and that is just not possible. So some days I will write an article on my iPhone in the playpen with the baby, I will work on my book as much as possible when the baby finally naps. It has taught me to work smarter, not harder. To be quicker. But the thing having a child has most taught me is quality of life. I no longer chain myself to my desk. I say no to things. Because I have something which gives me more joy than anything else: my son’s face. Even on my hardest day he gives me joy. He has taught me that life is more important than work. I would constantly burn myself out before he came along, now I know that I just have to do what I can and that I am enough. I should be proud of my achievements. On the flip side, I got irritated when a lot of people asked if I would still work after I had a baby, and when I see an article on “selfish” mothers going out to work. I mean, God forbid a women wants to have a career and professional fulfilment. Y’now, like men get to do. No one ever asked a man how he juggles work with having children. The other thing is money: how many households can really survive on one income?

Many women do not get to see their babies grow up. They have to go out and work. I can earn a living as a freelancer and that is a huge achievement. I know I have the best of both worlds, even if I have to bribe the baby with Disney cartoons while I work. It was Sheryl Sandberg who said there is no such thing as work/life balance. There is just life and work and there is no balance. She is a wise woman. As long as I am kind to myself and get everything done eventually I feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

 

Gransthread – On Retirement

Penny Deacon’s version of retirement 
I spent my twenties living on a yacht, travelling the world. Great fun. Then I moved to teaching which turned out to be more fun than I’d expected. I also ran school libraries and wrote romantic novels. And some crime. Then I was Retired.

First there was panic. How do I cope on half my income? What am I going to DO with myself? And how will I get to know anyone since I’ve just moved house and my close friend in the area has promptly fled to London (thank you , Margaret). I imagined myself  a lonely and bored hermit.

Fast forward five years. I was swimming in the sea this morning with a friend (new). And lunched with three other friends (also new). I have lost three stone (much needed). I have been to the Galapagos Islands (dream trip)  and Orkney (another dream – despite the rain). I’m off to Italy next month. And then there’s the new kitchen …

I didn’t win the lottery. I DID get lucky – my health is good. My pension, much to my surprise, has proved adequate, and some of my savings got me to Galapagos (you can use up too many opportunities by keeping all your savings for a ‘rainy day’ which, if fate is kind, doesn’t come). I rediscovered who I was and, I hope, who I might be. Because I was in a new town I understood it was up to me to go out and find new friends (U3A and the local leisure centre gave me most contacts). It wasn’t  easy, but no harder than being a ‘new girl’ anywhere. I only bonded with one in every dozen new acquaintances, but that’s plenty to provide company and inspiration, and then some of their friends became my friends and so it goes on. Great return on a little effort and some occasional embarrassment (we’ll gloss over the time I got thrown out of the Circle of Friends for being a ‘disruptive influence’. Moi?)

The hardest thing has been finding out what my own rhythms are. I spent more than thirty years working, quite literally when in school, to someone else’s timetable. Now I have had to find my own pace. I rediscovered swimming – both in the pool and in the sea. I discovered a need to do something worthwhile and Words for the Wounded gave me an opportunity to work for a great cause and also to leap out of aeroplanes and take part in the muddiest assault course in the world.

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I found that I was a natural early riser (a surprise – I’d been longing for the opportunity to laze in bed every morning and found I didn’t want it after all). I like some structure to my day or week – and revel in not being tied down to it. I do some local volunteer work but don’t want to commit to the same thing every week. But I can see a time when I might.

And that’s the most exciting thing yet: for me (and I know how fortunate I am) retirement has been an opening as well a closure, and the world is still full of possibilities.

Gransthread would love to hear of your experiences of retirement: frost@margaret-graham.com

 

 

 

There’s a treat on the way for ballet lovers

ballet, cultureShakespeare has been delivered to cinema screens, and now it is to be ballet  but for 3 nights only.  One of Frost’s book reviewers, Jan Speedie will be heading the queue, as she LOVES ballet.

CinemaLive, one of the market leaders in Event Cinema, will be working in a partnership with The Australian Ballet to deliver a series of their ballet productions to cinema audiences for the very first time.

The Fairy Tale Series, will be screened in cinemas across the UK on three nights only: The Sleeping Beauty on 4th October 2016, Cinderella on 23rd November 2016 and Coppélia on 19th April 2017.

Screened in October 2016 will be the world premiere cinema release of Artistic Director David McAllister’s The Sleeping Beauty. This is a classical retelling of a favourite fairy tale based on Marius Petipa’s ballet. The live production of The Sleeping Beauty was the crowning moment of The Australian Ballet’s season last year. The Guardian said of it:

With such attention to detail – resplendent, unapologetic, and coupled with McAllister’s resounding belief in a happy ending – only the most cynical of hearts could fail to be captured by this Sleeping Beauty’s spell

 

Next is the award-winning production of Cinderella, which will play a limited exclusive London season at the Coliseum this July, before its world premiere to cinema audiences on 23rd November 2016.

The third and final production in this series is Coppélia which will have its world premiere in cinemas on 19th April 2017.

David McAllister, Artistic Director of The Australian Ballet says, It’s exciting to take our company and performances from the stage to the big screen and to reach audiences we may not have otherwise reached. This is an incredible opportunity to showcase Australia’s national ballet company.

The Fairy Tale Series will be screened at approximately 200 cinemas across the UK and a further 200 cinemas worldwide.
For all participating cinemas and to book tickets visit www.cinemalive.com

 

 

2016 Chinese Food Festival | Things To Do in London This Weekend

Chinese Food FestivalIf you are looking for something to do this weekend the 2016 Chinese Food Festival is taking place on the 19th, 20th and 21st in Potters Fields Park adjacent to the magnificent Tower Bridge. Entry is free and following the huge success of last year (the festival welcomed over 30,000 visitors) the opening hours have been extended and exhibitors increased. I love Asian food so I will definitely be making an appearance.

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2016 Highlights include:

– Chinese Food Fair (over 30 stalls selling huge variety of Chinese food and drink)
– 2016 UK Chinese Streetfood Competition (previous winner was Chong Qing noodles 重庆小面)
– Celebrity Chef Theatre Demonstration (feat The Dumpling Sisters and a Hot Pot Workshop)
– Chinese Fine Dining Lounge (feat. Shanghai Supperclub pre-booking required)
– Chinese “Night Market” (DJs, streetfood, cocktails and light show)
– Chinese Traditional Performances and Entertainment (inc. Tai Chi Fan Dance, origami, calligraphy)  

 

Location:
Potters Fields Park (beside London City Hall), London, SE1 2AA
Facing the fantastic Thames River view, 2015 London Chinese Food Festival is ideally located by the busy Southbank river side.
The venue is just few minutes walk from BFI IMAX, South Bank’s National Theatre and the ITV London Television Studios.
The closest underground stations are Waterloo and Southwark.

Dates:
August Friday 19th, Saturday 20th and Sunday 21st

Hours:
Friday and Saturday 11am-10pm
Sunday 11am-6pm

Entry:
Free

Website:
http://www.chinesefoodfestival.com

Social:
https://www.facebook.com/chinesefoodfestivallondon
https://twitter.com/chinesefoodfest
https://www.instagram.com/chinesefoodfestival

Competition Hashtag: #CFF2016
Link: http://www.chinesefoodfestival.com

Timings:
Friday: 11am – 10pm (public hours)
Saturday: 11am – 10pm (public hours)
Sunday: 11am – 6pm (public hours)