A Fort of Nine Towers By Qais Akbar Omar Book Review

I have to be honest. I have put off writing this review. Which may seem weird considering the fact that A Fort of Nine Towers is one of the most important books I have ever read. Many books change you, give you enjoyment, make you think, even change your outlook: A Fort of Nine Towers does most of these, but it also touches your soul, your heart and then breaks them a little. As a Western woman, with all of the privilege that entails, reading this book is an eye-opener and a game changer.

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I read papers, I watch the news, I watch documentaries and read books. I stay involved in politics and world events, but this tale of a young boy growing up in Afghanistan should be required reading for every one in the Western world (and beyond).

How much the human spirit can endure is both interesting and fascinating. The same with the human body. Qasis Akbar was only eleven when a brutal civil war broke out in Kabul. For Qais, it brought an abrupt end to a childhood filled with kites and cousins in his grandfather’s garden: one of the most convulsive decades in Afghan history had begun. Ahead lay the rise of the Taliban, and, in 2001, the arrival of international forces.

Called ‘poetic, powerful and unforgettable’ by The Kite Runner author Khaled Hosseini, A Fort of Nine Towers is the story of Qais, his family and their determination to survive these upheavals as they were buffeted from one part of Afghanistan to the next. Drawing strength from each other, and their culture and faith, they sought refuge for a time in the Buddha caves of Bamyan, and later with a caravan of Kuchi nomads. When they eventually returned to Kabul, it became clear that their trials were just beginning.

A lot of this book is horrifying, the inhumanity from one human to another, but there is also hope. Qais apologises to the reader for the stories he tells, knowing they will never leave your mind: stories of pits full of skulls, women being gang-raped, a man called ‘Dog’ who tortures and kills people by biting them. Something that happens to Qais and his father, but only after they have seen a row of dead naked people, some tourists, all in a row, horror as their death masks.

This book is also important as a way to dispel propaganda. Rather fascinatingly Qais writes about hearing talk of a rich Arab named Bin Laden (Yes, that one), who lived near Qais in a big house which used to be owned by someone called the Pimp of The King. The place was always covered by Taliban and they would drive black Land Cruisers and have big meetings there. So Osama Bin Laden was in Afghanistan. I am not saying this has made me pro-war, I believe lies were told, but this piece of information, and the stories of the Taliban; what they did, their brutality, what happened to women…Westerners don’t just have a duty to other Westerners and certainly not just to other white people. We can not just turn a blind eye. When I read the book and got to the end, I see how the invasion of Iraq also benefited Afghanistan. I am more educated but I want to learn even more, talk to more Afghans. The book even prints out the rules for women and information the Taliban distributed after it took over Kabul. These include toppling walls on homosexuals (if they live it means they weren’t homosexuals) and women should not step outside of their residence…she belongs to only one man (Husband) or soon she will be property of a man (Husband). And the ironically illiterate: women do not have as much brains as men, therefore they cannot think wisely as man. These ended with ‘Sincerely! The Taliban rules’. Like some illiterate teenager would graffiti on a wall.

I learned a lot reading this book. Some I already knew but it was reinforced: the Taliban are evil. Horrible peasants who use religion as an excuse to murder and torture and rule, the horror of organised religion and the damage it can cause, how privileged anyone is to be born in Britain or the US, how they have no excuse whatsoever not to make something of their lives, when there are people like Qais, who survived a brutal war, who saw the people he loved killed, who saw such horrifying things at such a young age. But more importantly I was more educated after reading this book, more compassionate. I was sadder, emotional but with a fire in my belly: knowing that every human being must do their best, and what happened in Afghanistan should never be forgotten. God knows what will happen when US troops pull out soon. I only hope the Taliban do not return, but I fear that they will. It is too awful a thought to even contemplate and God help Afghanistan if they do.

You can buy A Fort of Nine Towers here. I highly recommend that you do.

What do you think?

David Walliams Writes Book For Simon Cowell’s Son

Apparently David Walliams loves teasing Simon Cowell so much that he wrote a book. David’s latest is all about Simon’s son, Eric. He apparently gave Simon fifty copies of the book, David Walliams presents Baby Eric, backstage at Britain’s Got Talent.

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The cover is an illustration of Simon and girlfriend Lauren Silverman with their son.

The blurb reads: “Simon Cowell was the man who thought he had everything, until the day Baby Eric arrived in his life. This is the story of how Eric David Sinitta Louis-Walsh Cowell came into the world.”

A source told The Sun “He didn’t quite know what to say” at first but was then really touched. We wonder who Simon will give the other copies to?

Mark Ruffalo ‘I Auditioned 800 Times Without Booking A Role’

For tmarkruffalohose outside the acting industry it probably looks easy, but what isn’t easy is finding work. This is proven by Mark Ruffalo’s interview in Interview magazine. Here is a highlight:

 

“In 2000, playwright-cum filmmaker-Kenneth Lonergan’s quirky little sibling drama You Can Count on Me broke out of the festival circuit and went on to be nominated for two Academy Awards (for screenplay and for actress Laura Linney’s star turn). Its success was powered, in part, by the electric performance of a virtually unknown 32-year-old leading man. By the time he booked the part, Mark Ruffalo had already given up on acting at least once, in the mid-’90s, heading home to Kenosha, Wisconsin, to work for his commercial-painter father. But he came back, again and again—auditioning, he once said, 800 times without booking a single role.”

 

Wow. That is impressive perseverance. Ruffalo also had to deal with his brother being murdered and having a benign brain tumor removed.

 

Mark Ruffalo is an amazing actor and I am just happy he kept at it. Read the amazing interview, he is interviewed by Julia Roberts and on a shameless self-promotion note: If you are an actor then check out my book How To Be a Successful Actor: Becoming an Actorpreneur. It is available in print and in all eBook formats on both Smashwords and Amazon.

 

 

Book Review – ‘What would Audrey Do’

This is quite possibly the best book I have read in a very long time. A realistic way we all can live like Audrey Hepburn and she would wholeheartedly approve, charming, fun and witty this book takes you through every aspect of modern living and how AH would have conducted herself in these modern times.

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What Would Audrey doIt’s enigmatic, down to earth and modiste just like the lady herself. From advice on dating to style, coping in bad times to conducting yourself in public. It’s simply a must read and you won’t be able to put it down for love or diamonds.

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This wonderful book will give you inspiration creating the perfect home, scattering your world with flowers, Diptyque candles and fine white china, it will embody your inner most self with touches of AH.

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‘What Would Audrey do’ has ideas for party themes in an oh so graceful manner, how to apply the best simple makeup, for the look she created. It will give you so much advice, I live by these rules and so should each and everyone of you. Try it for a day and I promise you will feel amazing. Plus my own little rule…don’t stress, don’t worry about your day and don’t worry about tomorrow as it’s all meant to be. Even in nasty horrid times remember this has a path that’s leading me to a positive place and be calm, take a moment to understand this when life gets tough and you will be ok my friends!

Audrey’s Check List:

Wear Mascara
Stand up straight
Get your clothes tailored
Lower your voice
When in doubt love
Be generous
Don’t kiss and tell
Forgive
Turn around and check the back of your reflection in the mirror when you leave the house!
Smile.

 

It will want make you rethink your every day, you will instantly adopt her mantra for learning to do one thing at a time, you will get more done and feel more relaxed about life, the stresses of the days will drift away and in short you will probably be a lot happier and even loose a few pounds! Stress makes us put on weight didn’t you know!

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It will make you feel rewarded for time out and not guilt for slowing down, for saying no every now and again when you feel you need to.

I say take yourself off for some time out and open this pretty book What Would Audrey Do?: Timeless Lessons for Living with Grace & Style: Timeless Lessons for Living with Grace and Style and turn the pages and go on a delightful journey with the graceful Audrey Hepburn.

It’s my new bible!
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Affordable And Amazing Wedding Cakes | The Wedding Diary

The craziness of the wedding industry really shows up in the price of wedding cakes. When my fiancé and I first started looking, we couldn’t find one for less than £350, and most of them weren’t even nice. If you take away the fact they have the word ‘wedding’ in front of them, would anyone actually pay thousands of pounds for a cake? I think not.

In saying that, there are a lot out there with the craftsmanship and design that makes the price worthwhile. If you want great design at a good price then I recommend going the supermarket route. My fiancé and I got our wedding cake from Waitrose.com. Marks And Spencers also do great, affordable wedding cakes.

Here are some beautiful wedding cakes from Waitrose.com

Fiona Cairns Ivory Rose Petal 3-tier Wedding Cake (mixed filling)

fionacairnweddingcakeFiona Cairn is the Royal wedding cake maker. So if she is good enough for Kate and William….

Fiona Cairns Vintage Fairytale 3-tier Wedding Cake (Sponge)

waitroseweddingcakeChocolate Wedding Cake – Gold – 3 Tier

chocolateweddingcakeIf chocolate is your thing and you don’t want a traditional cake.

And (drum roll) here is our wedding cake. It matches our wedding colours of pale pink, pale green and white. We love it and got it in a mixed filling of vanilla sponge and fruit cake.

wedding cakeWhen buying a wedding cake make sure you check how many people it serves. The website should tell you or ask your baker. Another thing to check is if decoration is included. Some cakes look amazing but the small print says that the decoration is not included. This is also an easier way to get a cheaper cake, if you decorate it yourself, it costs less. Although there is the added stress.

While researching wedding cakes I saw a lot of gorgeous wedding cake toppers on ebay and ribbon is very cheap to buy from a haberdashery. You could also make your own or get a relative to make one. Although I would not do this if you weren’t brilliant at baking. Waitrose.com also have some guides on decorating your wedding cake and the BBC also have a great blog on making your own wedding cake.

Good luck and let us know about your wedding cake choices.

Where will you get your wedding cake?

If you are planning your wedding then get your hands on The Wedding Survival Guide: How To Plan Your Big Day Without Losing Your Sanity. It has great advice on every aspect of wedding planning and lots of great advice on choosing the perfect wedding cake. 

 

 

Influence: What It Really Means And How To Make It Work For You |Book Review

Influence: What It Really Means And How To Make It Work For You by Jenny Nabben.Influence is important. In fact, it can mean the difference between success and a mediocre career. This book, Influence: What It Really Means And How To Make It Work For You by Jenny Nabben is a good all-round book on influence. It starts of with what influence is. It is in-depth and fun to read. It includes lots of fascinating stuff about neuroscience and some excellent case study. There are also exercises, in this and the other chapters, making the book interactive. The chapters end with brain rules and top tips.
There is a chapter on different personality types, the language of influence and why stories change the world. The book has outlines and is a fascinating read. I love the quotes and case studies, in particular, the one about Bill Clinton. This is a great book which really informs and helps understand influence and lets you know how to make it work for you.

I can’t recommend this book enough. I raced through it but will also read it again as it has so much great information. Good stuff.

How can it be that some business leaders are so incredibly influential and persuasive when others struggle to enforce even the simplest request? And how can people harness those vital skills to get what they want in a corporate environment?

 

A new step-by-step business guide set to published by Pearson, the world’s largest education publisher, promises to help professionals gain the “ultimate” managerial ability — getting people to say ‘Yes’.

 

In Influence: What it Really Means and How To Make It Work For You, author Jenny Nabben — a leading business communicator who has worked with global organisations including Coca Cola Enterprises and the UN’s World Food Programme — divulges the critical “building blocks” of influence and the science of persuasion.

 

This unique and straightforward guide takes a “real-world tour” of influence, uncovering the scientific and cognitive drivers behind it and clearly showing how to develop this subtle skill   which is central to efficiency, productivity, team-building, the empowering of employees and achieving of results.

 

Across 224 pages, the book addresses all key business contexts where influence is most effective: managing, leading, coaching, negotiating, controlling difficult situations and handling change.

 

Nabben, who runs her own training company providing workshops on corporate messaging and influence for global businesses, reveals how simple changes in everyday leadership style can effect positive results for all personality types.

 

Chapter by chapter she helps readers develop a deeper understanding of influence and persuasion,

allowing them to apply their new abilities more naturally, fluently and to greater effect.

 

She also discusses the latest neuroscience insights into “brain plasticity” and emotional intelligence, and how listening and empathy are key skills for anyone who wants to tune in to, and modify, the ‘brain states’ of others.

 

By the close of this fascinating book, the reader will have all the tools necessary for building trust, respect and credibility, as well as advancing professional standing, integrity, presence and authority — all indispensable and powerful skills for every executive.

 

Nabben has been at the forefront of the UK’s corporate communications industry for more than a decade. Previous roles have variously included Vice President of Leadership and Internal Communications at Coca Cola Enterprises, Head of Communications at Lloyds General Insurance, and Head of Internal Communications at HSBC.

 

Speaking about influence, she said: “The skills of influence are built on finding the balance between heart and head, between using our intellect and using our emotional intelligence, between knowing when to push through and knowing when to yield to others.

 

“If building our confidence is about having a better sense of our self in the world, influence is about having a bigger effect ON the world.

 

“If you aren’t influencing, your competitors or colleagues probably are, and that’s driving increased attention and business for them.”

 

Packed with the latest scientific and psychological research, and reinforced by powerful case studies and practical exercises throughout, this must-have handbook is essential reading for managers and leaders looking to get the best out of their staff, and themselves.

 

Influence: What It Really Means And How To Make It Work For You by Jenny Nabben

 

A London Pub For Every Occasion Book Review

A London Pub For Every OccasionA London Pub For Every Occasion is an amazing book for a number of reasons:

One: It has a chapter on pubs with cats. PUBS WITH CATS!! This has made me very happy and from now on, if anyone ever wants to find me, I will be in one of the pubs that have a cat.

Two: It has maps. I love maps, especially fun, brilliantly illustrated maps.

Three: It whittles down the 7.000 pubs in London and makes them easier to navigate by separating them into occasion. This is obvious from the title but with someone else doing all of the legwork, this pocket book becomes very handy indeed. It is divided into 22 sections to suit every whim. It has 161 of the capital’s usual and unusual pubs to best suit the mood or occasion. It is beautifully illustrated in black and white.

There are pubs for cold days and for sunny ones; pubs with cats and pubs that welcome dogs; pubs for parties and pubs when you just want to be alone; pubs where you can have breakfast and some you’ll never want to leave. It is the ultimate pub guide.

London Pub MapThe guide is weighted to the centre of London, the part of the city in which all Londoners have an equal share, where friends from the south and north of the river meet on common ground.

Herb Lester Associates, who made the book,  say ‘The book’s selections are based on dogged research filtered through a genuine appreciation of the pub, the ale or the odd animal roaming around. The handy fold-out paper map makes sense of the confusing territories away from a familiar pub routine many of us fall into,’

Published in hardback by Ebury Press on 1st May at £9.99

A London Pub for Every Occasion: 161 tried-and-tested pubs in a pocket-sized guide that’s perfect for Londoners and travellers alike

 

Wedding Ideas: Vintage Shoot Part Two

Here is part two of our gorgeous vintage wedding shoot. Full of sigh-worthy dresses, hairpieces and cakes. It’s the stuff dreams are made of. Photography from Emma-Jane Photography. Time to start pinning. Here is part one.

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Photography and Art direction: Emma-Jane lewis of Emma-Jane Photography
Model: Nicky Robinson (Miss Deadly Red)
Makeup: Mel Kisman of Mel Kinsman bridal make-u artist
Hairstyling: AnneMarie Lawson stylist
Flowers: Liz Inigo Jones of Blue Sky Flowers
Cakes: Charlotte Geen of Langs of London
Dresses: ONEofOne by Maibritt Kokholm
Headpieces and jewellery: Rosie Weisencrantz Vintage Jewellery

 

If you are planning your wedding then get your hands on The Wedding Survival Guide: How To Plan Your Big Day Without Losing Your Sanity. It has great advice on every aspect of wedding planning and lots of great advice. It includes an interview with amazing photographer Emma-Jane Lewis. The Wedding Survival Guide: How To Plan Your Big Day Without Losing Your Sanity is available in print, ebook and Kindle. The Kindle version is only £2.99.